Improvement in Memory

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Everyone can take steps to improve their memory, and with time and practice most people can gain the ability to memorize seemingly impossible amounts of information. Whether you want to win the World Memory Championships, ace your history test, or simply remember where you put your keys, this article can get you started. Scientists believe that exercising your brain can create a cognitive reserve that will help you stay sharp as you age.

1. Convince yourself that you do have a good memory that will improve.
Too many people get stuck here and convince themselves that their memory is bad, that they are just not good with names, that numbers just slip out of their minds for some reason. Erase those thoughts and vow to improve your memory. Commit yourself to the task and bask in your achievements its hard to keep motivated if you beat yourself down every time you make a little bit of progress.

2. Keep your brain active.
The brain is not a muscle, but regularly exercising the brain actually does keep it growing and spurs the development of new nerve connections that can help improve memory. By developing new mental skills especially complex ones such as learning a new language or learning to play a new musical instrument and challenging your brain with puzzles and games you can keep your brain active and improve its physiological functioning.

3. Exercise daily.
Regular aerobic exercise improves circulation and efficiency throughout the body, including in the brain, and can help ward off the memory loss that comes with aging. Exercise also makes you more alert and relaxed, and can thereby improve your memory uptake, allowing you to take better mental pictures.

4. Reduce stress.
Chronic stress, although it does not physically damage the brain, can make remembering much more difficult. Even temporary stresses can make it more difficult to effectively focus on concepts and observe things. Try to relax, regularly practice yoga or other stretching exercises, and see a doctor if you have severe chronic stress.

5. Eat well and eat right.
There are a lot of herbal supplements on the market that claim to improve memory, but none have yet been shown to be effective in clinical tests (although small studies have shown some promising results for ginkgo biloba and phosphatidylserine) . A healthy diet, however, contributes to a healthy brain, and foods containing antioxidants broccoli, blueberries, spinach, and berries, for example and Omega-3 fatty acids appear to promote healthy brain functioning. Feed your brain with such supplements as Thiamine, Vitamin E, Niacin and Vitamin B-6. Grazing, eating 5 or 6 small meals throughout the day instead of 3 large meals, also seems to improve mental functioning (including memory) by limiting dips in blood sugar, which may negatively affect the brain.

6. Take better pictures.
Often we forget things not because our memory is bad, but rather because our observational skills need work. One common situation where this occurs (and which almost everyone can relate to) is meeting new people. Often we don't really learn people's names at first because we aren't really concentrating on remembering them. You'll find that if you make a conscious effort to remember such things, you'll do much better. One way to train yourself to be more observant is to look at an unfamiliar photograph for a few seconds and then turn the photograph over and describe or write down as many details as you can about the photograph. Try closing your eyes and picturing the photo in your mind. Use a new photograph each time you try this exercise, and with regular practice you will find you're able to remember more details with even shorter glimpses of the photos.

7. Give yourself time to form a memory. Memories are very fragile in the short-term, and distractions can make you quickly forget something as simple as a phone number. The key to avoid losing memories before you can even form them is to be able to focus on the thing to be remembered for a while without thinking about other things, so when you're trying to remember something, avoid distractions and complicated tasks for a few minutes.

8. Create vivid, memorable images.
You remember information more easily if you can visualize it. If you want to associate a child with a book, try not to visualize the child reading the book – that's too simple and forgettable. Instead, come up with something more jarring, something that sticks, like the book chasing the child, or the child eating the book. It's your mind ' make the images as shocking and emotional as possible to keep the associations strong.

9. Repeat things you need to learn.
The more times you hear, see, or think about something, the more surely you'll remember it, right? It's a no-brainer. When you want to remember something, be it your new coworker's name or your best friend's birthday, repeat it, either out loud or silently. Try writing it down; think about it.

10. Group things you need to remember. Random lists of things (a shopping list, for example) can be especially difficult to remember. To make it easier, try categorizing the individual things from the list. If you can remember that, among other things, you wanted to buy four different kinds of vegetables, you'll find it easier to remember all four.

11. Organize your life.
Keep items that you frequently need, such as keys and eyeglasses, in the same place every time. Use an electronic organizer or daily planner to keep track of appointments, due dates for bills, and other tasks. Keep phone numbers and addresses in an address book or enter them into your computer or cell phone. Improved organization can help free up your powers of concentration so that you can remember less routine things. Even if being organized doesn't improve your memory, you'll receive a lot of the same benefits (i.e. you won't have to search for your keys anymore).

12. Try meditation.
Research now suggests that people who regularly practice indfulnes meditation are able to focus better and may have better memories. Mindfulness (also known as awareness or insight meditation) is the type commonly practiced in Western countries and is easy to learn. Studies at Massachusetts General Hospital show that regular meditation thickens the cerebral cortex in the brain by increasing the blood flow to that region. Some researchers believe this can enhance attention span, focus, and memory.

13. Sleep well.
The amount of sleep we get affects the brain's ability to recall recently learned information. Getting a good night sleep a minimum of seven hours a night may improve your short-term memory and long-term relational memory, according to recent studies conducted at the Harvard Medical School.

14. Build your memorization arsenal. Learn pegs, memory palaces, and the Dominic System. These techniques form the foundation for mnemonic techniques, and will visibly improve your memory.

15. Venture out and learn from your mistakes.
Go ahead and take a stab at memorizing the first one hundred digits of pi, or, if you've done that already, the first one thousand. Memorize the monarchs of England through your memory palaces, or your grocery list through visualization. Through diligent effort you will eventually master the art of memorization.

Positive Thinking

During working with tough deadline or difficult work, an optimist focuses his energies on identifying a solution and planning out flow-charts. He focuses on his mental attitude that admits positive thoughts, words and images, leading to success and happiness.

Our attitudes are shaped through constant conditioning as a result of interactions with family, friends and environment. They are so rooted in us that it’s very difficult to change them. Positive attitude is a hallmark of an optimist professional, who expects to see brightness and sunshine everywhere. His common words are ”I Will”, “I Can”’ “ It’s Possible”. A pessimist would lose his precious time just by thinking about the problem. An optimist would introspect and figure out the difference between the performance and expectations and try and bridge the gap, never losing sight of the goals.

When caught in the soft soil of negativity, one’s misperceptions overcome one’s logical thinking. These irrational themes are manifested in many ways :

Unwanted Comparison:

We magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter the positive ones. For instance, the common one is, you have been promoted and you have got a good increment. However, the percentage of the increment is below your expectation. You focus on the latter instead of celebrating the former. ( Here you have to see that at least your performance has been noticed and is awarded, expectation is a relative term and differs from person to person.)

Personalizing :

You hold yourself responsible for anything that goes wrong. If the team overshoots the project deadline by a few days, you take complete responsibility and curse your self. ( Instead to analyzing, you prefer to take shortcut for the problem to end the matter.)

Negative Visualizing:

You live in the vicinity of Murphy’s law, expecting anything that could possibly go wrong , will go wrong ! e.g. if you are organizing an interview, you will anticipate that you will not get good office for the interview, panel members may not turn up and if everything goes right then interview candidate may not turn up.

Closed Mindset :

You look things only in Black and White, so the person with whom you are talking is either good or bad, he is either supportive or uncooperative. ( everybody has good and bad qualities, you have to look for only good qualities of him. Moreover analyze before jumping to your conclusion, why the person is bad or uncooperative with you.)


Evaluate your thinking :

Watch your thinking during the course of the day. Check yourself the moment you find yourself edging towards negative thoughts. E.g. Instead of cribbing over lack of resources, think of creative solutions. Similarly, don’t get overawed by the tasks that seems too complicated. They’ll seem less daunting if you break them into smaller units and then address them. If you think that you do not have the expertise in a particular area, look around for experts who can help you. Try and induce more of self acceptance and less of criticism. This will enable you to re-look at the “problem” at the work place as “learning opportunities” and handle stress in a realistic and constructive manner.


Exercise Positive Affirmations :

Susan Jeffers, noted self help author, strongly points that positive affirmation is a proven tool for steering clear of negativity and fear. She explains, “Positive affirmation is a strong positive statement telling us that all is well. Wth constant repetition of this uplifting and soothing statement, the voice of doom and gloom is replaced with thoughts of peace, power and love. “Pin up positive affirmations like “It is all happening perfectly” or “I am powerful and I can do it” at your office desk or in you car, and look at it on your way to work. It has been demonstrated that just repeating, writing or thinking positive statements lend us the strength, whether or not we believe them and if we say affirmations often enough, we ultimately start believing in them ! Positive affirmations can certainly arm us to get back from facing adversity.

Associate with positive people :

Both positive and negative thoughts are contagious. At the workplace one often encounters unhappy souls, who find something wrong with almost everything around them. They point fingers when things go wrong, they grumble, morn and find faults. It helps to steer clear of these people as they rub off their attitude and thoughts consciously or subconsciously. Therefore, it helps to be in the midst of people who are optimist, upbeat and happy.

Positive thinking can empower us in a way that would boost our self esteem, expand our comfort zone and envelope us with well being and health, thus making way for personal and professional growth. It has been rightly said that a positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible !!!.

Easy.........Difficult

Easy is to get a place is someone's address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes

Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive
Difficult is to give

Easy to read this
Difficult to follow

Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult is to keep it with meanings.

The true meaning of Peace

There once was a king who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The king looked at all the pictures. But there were only two he really liked, and he had to choose between them.

One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror for peaceful towering mountains all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.

The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky, from which rain fell and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all.

But when the king looked closely, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on her nest - in perfect peace.

Which picture do you think won the prize? The king chose the second picture. Do you know why?

"Because," explained the king, "peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace

Sacrifice

Once upon a time, there was a guy who was very much in love with this girl. This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of papercranes as a gift to his girl. Although, at that time he was just a small executive in his company, his future doesn't seemed too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualise any future for the both of them, so let's go their own ways there and then... heartbroken, the guy agreed.
When he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself. Finally with all these hardwork and with the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company...
"You never fail until you stop trying." he always told himself. "I must make it in life!"
One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realise those were his ex-girlfriend's parents. With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same anymore, he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He had made it in life!

Before the guy can realise, the couple was walking towards a cemetary,and he got out of his car and followed them...and he saw his ex-girlfriend, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone... and he saw his precious papercranes in a bottle placed beside her tomb.
Her parents saw him. He walked over and asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was stricken ill with cancer. In her heart, she had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want her illness to be his obstacle ... therefore she had chosen to leave him.
She had wanted her parents to put his papercranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again he can take some of those back with him. The guy just wept ...
The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them but knowing you can't have them and will never see them again.

A Story

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves learning-disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: "When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection.. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?"

The audience was stilled by the query.
The father continued. "I believe that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child."
Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?" Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning."

Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.
At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball ... the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, "Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay"

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, "Run to third! Shay, run to third!"

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, "Shay, run home! Run home!" Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.

"That day", said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, "the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world".

Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

Know your Value

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a Rupee 500 note.

In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this Rupee 500 note?"
Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the note up. He then asked, "Who still wants it?"

Still the hands were up in the air.

"Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?"

Still the hands went into the air.

"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth Rupee 500/-.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.

We feel as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value..

You are special... Don't ever forget it! Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams.

"VALUE HAS A VALUE ONLY IF ITS VALUE IS VALUED."

Live for Today, Live one day at a Time

We all have some kind of purpose on this earth,
It's not to hurt people or tell them their worth.
Everyone was put here with an equal chance,
Take a look around you, take a good long glance.

Some were meant to heal, and some to teach,
Some are used to build, and some to reach.
You may not know your purpose just yet,
God will tell you, when he knows you are set.

Don't rush your fate, it has already been planned.
And God will always be there to lend a helping hand.
You will go through times that are really rough,
But you will always have someone, when the going gets tough.

Don't judge others, for when you do,
There is always someone else, judging you.
Think about things before they are said,
Say your prayers before going off to bed.

Take time just to sit, and observe all things,
A flower and it's petals, or a bird and it's wings.
For when you just look at what is around,
A new aspect on life could be what you have found.

Live for today, live one day at a time.
Live for yourself, and for God, that's no crime.
For when you do all these things to make your life great,
You will find your own way to the pearly white gate.

14 Principles of Management of Henri Fayol

The 14 Management Principles from Henri Fayol (1841-1925) are:-

1.Division of Work. Specialization allows the individual to build up experience, and to continuously improve his skills. Thereby he can be more productive.
2.Authority. The right to issue commands, along with which must go the balanced responsibility for its function.
3.Discipline. Employees must obey, but this is two-sided: employees will only obey orders if management play their part by providing good leadership.
4.Unity of Command. Each worker should have only one boss with no other conflicting lines of command.
5.Unity of Direction. People engaged in the same kind of activities must have the same objectives in a single plan. This is essential to ensure unity and coordination in the enterprise. Unity of command does not exist without unity of direction but does not necessarily flows from it.
6.Subordination of individual interest (to the general interest). Management must see that the goals of the firms are always paramount.
7.Remuneration. Payment is an important motivator although by analyzing a number of possibilities, Fayol points out that there is no such thing as a perfect system.
8.Centralization (or Decentralization). This is a matter of degree depending on the condition of the business and the quality of its personnel.
9.Scalar chain (Line of Authority). A hierarchy is necessary for unity of direction. But lateral communication is also fundamental, as long as superiors know that such communication is taking place. Scalar chain refers to the number of levels in the hierarchy from the ultimate authority to the lowest level in the organization. It should not be over-stretched and consist of too-many levels.
10.Order. Both material order and social order are necessary. The former minimizes lost time and useless handling of materials. The latter is achieved through organization and selection.
11.Equity. In running a business a ‘combination of kindliness and justice’ is needed. Treating employees well is important to achieve equity.
12.Stability of Tenure of Personnel. Employees work better if job security and career progress are assured to them. An insecure tenure and a high rate of employee turnover will affect the organization adversely.
13.Initiative. Allowing all personnel to show their initiative in some way is a source of strength for the organization. Even though it may well involve a sacrifice of ‘personal vanity’ on the part of many managers.
14.Esprit de Corps. Management must foster the morale of its employees. He further suggests that: “real talent is needed to coordinate effort, encourage keenness, use each person’s abilities, and reward each one’s merit without arousing possible jealousies and disturbing harmonious relations.”


Fayol's definition of management roles and actions distinguishes between Five Elements:
1.Prevoyance. (Forecast & Plan). Examining the future and drawing up a plan of action. The elements of strategy.
2.To organize. Build up the structure, both material and human, of the undertaking.
3.To command. Maintain the activity among the personnel.
4.To coordinate. Binding together, unifying and harmonizing all activity and effort.
5.To control. Seeing that everything occurs in conformity with established rule and expressed command.

Positive Self Talk is a must

Throughout each day you're constantly talking to yourself. It's completely normal. We all do it. In fact we do it so Much that our subconscious mind accepts what we say as Truth. This acceptance forms the beliefs that we have of Ourselves, and how we perceive that others see us.

If your talk is negative, your beliefs about yourself Will be also. On the flip side, if your talk is positive And empowering, so is the image and beliefs you have of Yourself.

Take time today and tune in to how you're speaking to Yourself, Identify precisely what beliefs you're forming Based on your talk and bring them to mind. Question them, Scrutinize them, and become familiar with what they are Telling you.

The awareness gained by doing this is the first major step Toward a positive life that will affect everything in your life.

The Pickle Jar

Author Unknown

The years passed. I finished college and took a job in another town. Once,while visiting my parents, I used the phone in their bedroom. Sadly, I noticed that the pickle jar was gone. It had served its purpose and now had been removed.

A lump rose in my throat as I stared at the spot beside the dresser where the jar had always stood. My dad was a man of few words; he never lectured me on the values of determination, perseverance, and faith.The pickle jar had taught me all those virtues far more effectively than the most eloquent of words could have. How fondly I remembered that old jar and its place in my life.

When I married, I told my wife Susan of the significant part that old pickle jar had played in my life as a boy. In my mind, it defined, more than anything else, how much my dad had loved me.

The first Christmas after our daughter Jessica was born we spent the holiday with my parents. After dinner, Mom and Dad sat next to each other on the sofa, taking turns cuddling their first grandchild. Jessica began to whimper softly, and Susan took her from Dad's arms."She probably needs to be changed." she said carrying the baby into my parents' bedroom to diaper her. When Susan came back into the living room, there was a noticeable mist in her eyes.

She handed Jessica back to Dad before taking my hand and leading me into the back bedroom. "Look!" she said softly, her eyes directing me to a spot on the floor beside the dresser.

To my amazement, there, as if it had never been removed, stood the old pickle jar, the bottom already covered with coins. I walked over to the pickle jar, dug down into my pocket, and pulled out a small handful of coins. With a gamut of emotions choking me, I dropped the coins into the jar. I looked up to see Dad, carrying Jessica, had slipped quietly into the room. Our eyes locked, and I knew he was feeling the same emotions I felt. Neither one of us could speak.

We had no need for that. The pickle jar was back in its old spot now with a renewed purpose. I could see the joy in my Dad's eyes as he gently held his granddaughter in his arms. The old pickle jar was new again.

The Welch Way

The Welch Way

(From The Welch Way, The Empolyee Handbook for Enhancing Corporate Performance, by Jeffrey A. Krames, published by Tata McGraw Hill)


Lead
-Articulate a vision, and spark others to execute it.
- Don’t manage every excruciating detail.
- Involve everyone and welcome great ideas from everywhere.

Get Less Formal
- Brainstorm with colleagues and bosses
- Hold more informal meetings
- Consider a once-in-a-while informal get together

Blow up bureaucracy
- Drop unnecessary work
- Work with colleagues to streamline decision making
- Make your workplace more informal

Face reality
- Look at things with a fresh eye
- Don’t fall into the ‘false scenarios’ trap.
- Leave yourself with several options

Simplify
- Simplify the workplace.
- Make meetings simpler.
- Eliminate complicated memos and letters.

See change as an opportunity
- Know that change is here to stay.
- Expect the least expected, but move quickly to stay a step ahead.
- Prepare those around you for the inevitable change that will affect their lives.

Lead by energizing others
- Never lead by intimidation.
- Let others know exactly how their efforts are helping the organization.
- Send handwritten thank-you notes to colleagues and customers.

Defy tradition
- Hold a “why do we do it that way?” meeting.
- Invite colleagues from your department to contribute one idea on changing something important at the company.
- Don’t be afraid to buck conventional wisdom.

Make intellect rule
- Spend an hour per week learning what competitors are doing.
- Offer a reward for the best idea.
- Work for organizations committed to training and learning.

Pounce every day
- Live urgency
- Make decisions faster
- Work harder

Put values first
- Don’t harp on numbers.
- Lead by example.
- Let values rule.

Manage less
- Don’t get bogged down in meaningless details.
- Manage less
- Empower, delegate, get out of the way.

Involve everyone
- Participate more
- Make sure everyone feels free to speak out.
- Suggest an informal brainstorming session.

Rewrite your agenda
- Do not plan years ahead.
- Develop alternative plans and options.
- Expect the unexpected.

Live speed
- Don’t “sit” on decisions.
- Communicate faster.
- Incorporate speed into every activity/process.

Instill confidence
- Let people know that you value their ideas.
- Simplify the workplace.
- Focus on training.

Set stretch goals
- Reach for the unreachable.
- Forget decimal points.
- Don’t punish yourself – or anyone else – for falling short of a stretch goal.

Eliminate the boundaries
- Seek out new ideas from everyone.
- Be sure to look outside the company for good ideas.
- Never stop eliminating boundaries.

Articulate a vision
- Write down the vision.
- Avoid the minutiae.
- Hire and promote those most capable of turning visions into reality.

Get good ideas from everywhere
- Don’t think you or your company have all the answers.
- Study competitors.
- Make sure everyone around you knows that you are interested in all ideas, regardless of where they come from.

Spark others to perform
- Never bully or intimidate.
- Make sure to use all the intellect.
- Make sure everyone knows that the best idea wins.

Quality is your job
- Take great pride in your work.
- Seek out quality training
- Never think that quality is someone else’s job.

Change never ends
- Face reality and know that change is here for good.
- Suggest an informal “change meeting”.
- Think short-term and long-term change.

Have fun
- Make informality a way of life
- Find a job that challenges you.
- Don’t stay in the same job forever.

Before You...

Before you speak, listen.
Before you write, think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you invest, investigate.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
Before you quit, try.
Before you retire, save.
Before you die, give.

Five Finger Prayer

1. Your thumb is nearest you. So begin your prayers by praying for those closest to you. They are the easiest to remember. To pray for our loved ones is, as C. S. Lewis once said, a 'sweet duty.'

2. The next finger is the pointing finger. Pray for those who teach, instruct and heal. This includes teachers, doctors, and ministers. They need support and wisdom in pointing others in the right
direction. Keep them in your prayers.

3. The next finger is the tallest finger. It reminds us of our leaders. Pray for the president, leaders in business and industry, and administrators. These people shape our nation and guide public
opinion. They need God's guidance.

4. The fourth finger is our ring finger. Surprising to many is the fact that this is our weakest finger, as any piano teacher will testify.. It should remind us to pray for those who are weak, in trouble or in pain. They need your prayers day and night. You cannot pray too much for them.

5. And lastly comes our little finger - the smallest finger of all which is where we should place ourselves in relation to God and others. As the Bible says, 'The least shall be the greatest among you.' Your pinkie should remind you to pray for yourself. By the time you have prayed for the other four groups, your own needs will be put into proper perspective and you will be able to pray for yourself more
effectively.

A Message From Spirit

Throughout your journey and daily happenings, never feel afraid, for I am with you. Wake up each morning and know I am here to guide you and you are loved and accepted. Know in your heart and your inner spirit, inner being I will not guide you where you can't walk.

When you feel like you can't go on, know that I love you with all the heavenly hosts above. Each day for you is blessed, as the skies are above, to become whom you were intended - the key is to love.

When you can love with no doubt and no fear and bring forth the guidance you receive from me through your ear, I give you great gifts, all from the source of love.

The paths you take are filled from above, don't walk off that road and remember that dove. I created you and you are one with me, I know the plans I have for thee. So when in doubt, know I will comfort thee.

I created the rainbow as a symbol for all to see and through this guide, I come to thee. The rainbow of love is within thee. Once you find this, I will come and show thee. You can hear my words and feel my heart for I am the one who asks you to forsake all others along my path.

There will be times you will feel like you are unsure. This is when you knock on my door. For all I will do is help thee to see. I gave you a voice so you speak from me, I gave you ears so you can hear me, I gave you vision so you can see me, I gave you breath so you can breathe through me, I gave you scent so you can smell me, I gave you taste so you could feed from me.

The list of gifts are many and endless; each thought you have you are telling me, each word you speak are they from Me?

Listen to your inner spirit, as this is the flame to me. Once you have served me, all others will see this is the truth, the light, and the way. On this path you will face darkness, as well as light. Listen to me for I will set you free. I hold the key to the throne of all the "unknown".

To Let Go

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization that I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to criticize, or regulate anyone, but to try to become what I dream I can do.
To let go is to fear less, and to love more.

Positive Thoughts

Believe in your heart that something
wonderful is about to happen.
Love your life.

Believe in your own power,
and in your own potential,
and your own innate goodness.

Wake every morning with the awe
of just being alive.
Discover each day the magnificent,
awesome beauty in the world.

Explore and embrace life
in yourself and in everyone
you see each day.

Reach within to find your own specialness.
Amaze yourself and rouse those
around you to the potential
of each new day.

Don't be afraid to admit
you're less than perfect;
this is the essence of our humanity.

Let those who love you help you;
Trust enough to be able to take.

Look with hope to the horizon of today,
for today is all we truly have.

Live this day well.
Let a little sun out as well as in.
Create your own rainbows.

Be open to all your possibilities,
and all miracles.
Always believe in miracles.

8 Bad Habits that Crush Your Creativity

Do you manage a job which includes high degree of creativity ? Does it happen with you wherein you feel extremely confident and driven for a day and then plunge into a block! Here are few habit if cultivated can crush creativity forever.

1.Creating and evaluating at the same time
2.The Expert Syndrome
3.Fear of failure
4.Fear of ambiguity
5.Lack of confidence
6.Discouragement from other people
7.Being overwhelmed by information
8.Being trapped by false limits

A Rare Customer Service Call

Customer: I'm not very technical, but I just received LOVE and think I am ready to install now. What do I do first?

CS Rep: The first step is to open your HEART. Have you located your HEART ma'am?

Customer: Yes, I have, but there are several programs running right now. Is it okay to install while they are running?

CS Rep: What programs are running ma'am?

Customer: Let me see... I have PASTHURT.EXE, LOWESTEEM.EXE, GRUDGE.EXE and RESENTMENT.COM running right now.

CS Rep: No problem. LOVE will automatically erase PAST HURT.EXE from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory, but it will no longer disrupt other programs. LOVEwill eventually overwrite LOWESTEEM.EXE with a module of its own called HIGHESTEEM.EXE. However, you have to completely turn of GRUDGE.EXE and RESENTMENT.COM. Those programs prevent LOVE from being properly installed. Can you turn those off ma'am?

Customer: I don't know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?

CS Rep: My pleasure. Go to your Start menu and invoke FORGIVENESS.EXE. Do this as many times as necessary until GRUDGE.EXE and RESENTMENT.COM have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, I'm done. LOVE has started installing it's self automatically. Is that normal?

CS Rep: Yes it is. You should receive a message that says it will reinstall for the life of your HEART. Do you see that message?

Customer: Yes I do. Is it completely installed?

CS Rep: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other HEART'S in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops... I have an error message already. What should I do?

CS Rep: What does the message say?

Customer: It says "ERROR 412 - PROGRAM NOT RUN ON INTERNAL COMPONENTS." What does that mean?

CS Rep: Don't worry ma'am, that's a common problem. It means that the LOVE program is set up to run on external HEARTS but has not yet been run on your HEART. It is one of those complicated programming things, but in non- technical terms it means you have to "LOVE" your own machine before it can "LOVE" others.

Customer: So what should I do?

CS Rep: Can you find the directory called SELF-ACCEPTANCE?

Customer: Yes, I have it.

CS Rep: Excellent, you are getting good at this.

Customer: Thank you.

CS Rep: You're welcome. Click on the following files and then copy them to the MYHEART directory: FORGIVESELF.DOC, SELFESTEEM.TXT, REALIZEWORTH.TXT and GOODNESS.DOC. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching any faulty programming. Also, you need to delete SELFCRITIC.EXE from all directories, and then empty your recycle bin afterwards to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.

Customer: Got it Hey! My HEART is filling up with really neat files. SMILE.MPG is playing on my monitor right now and it shows that WARMTH.COM, PEACE.EXE, and CONTENTMENT.COM are coping themselves all over my HEART!

CS Rep: Then LOVE is installed and running. You should be able to handle it from here. One more thing before I go...

Customer: Yes?

CS Rep: LOVE is freeware. Be sure to give it and its various modules to everybody you meet. They will in turn share it with other people and they will return some really neat modules back to you.

How Do You Define Spirituality?

One interesting question in the cyber age is - what is spirituality? Considering the fact that for sometime, active practice of spirituality was dormant or has ceased to interest people, its revival in the new age of stress and frantic pace seems ironical. Spirituality can broadly be defined 'as that which relates to spirit or the soul, yet is at the same time also an area that is so vast that it can essentially only truly be defined by individual experience'.

Consider a child’s first step; there may be hands holding the child, making sure he does not fall but to the child, the first step opens the doors of the world and only after the first step is taken does it realise “the walk”. Theorizing about spirituality can help an individual to know about spirituality but to experience it, is a lesson well learnt.

Spirituality is a journey where possibilities open up at every turn, where understanding of the infinity of self and the universe as a whole begins, bringing with our reach the plethora of choices and possibilities, and one which provides sure access to the powerful and uplifting nature of the soul. It is an enlightening experience when we realise it. A fantastic journey where we blend with the Universe. Are you packed yet?

Soulspeak:
“You should always learn, with life comes wisdom and with wisdom comes the courage to live your life selflessly. The more you learn about yourself and the experiences surrounding your life the more opportunities you have to make your life better and more fulfilling.”
--Amy Candy

A triple Filter Test-Socrates on goosip

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to be held in high esteem because of his knowledge.

One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, 'Do you know what I just heard about your friend?'

'Hold on a minute,' Socrates replied. 'Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test.

'Triple filter?'

'That's right,' Socrates continued.

'Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth.
Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?'

'No,' the man said, 'actually I just heard about it and...'

'All right,' said Socrates.

'So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend ! something good?'

'No, on the contrary...'

'So,' Socrates continued, 'you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?'

'No, not really.'

'Well', concluded Socrates, 'if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?'

This is why Socrates was a great philosopher & held in such high esteem.

Moral from the Waves

There was once a small wave who was unhappy. "I'm so miserable," it moaned. "The other waves are big and powerful, while I'm so little and weak. Why is life so unfair?"

Another wave passing by heard the small wave and decided to stop by. "You only think so because you haven't seen your own 'original nature' clearly. You think you're a wave and you think you're suffering. In reality you are neither."

"What?" The small wave was surprised. "I'm not a wave? But it's obvious I'm a wave! I've got my crest, see? And there's my wake, little as it is. What do you mean I'm not a wave?"

"This thing you call 'wave' is merely a temporary form you assume for a short time. You're really just water! When you understand completely that this is your fundamental nature, you will no longer be confused about being a wave, and you will be free of your misery."

"If I'm water, what about you?"

"I'm water too. I'm temporarily assuming the form of a wave somewhat larger than you, but that doesn't change my fundamental essence--water! I'm you and you're me. We're part of a greater self."

Moral

Most people, mired in the illusion known as the material world, mistakenly assume they belong only to themselves. Therefore they compare themselves to other people. When they perceive some sort of lack or inequity, they become totally miserable. They would feel quite differently if they see clearly that all of us are part of nature. Everyone of us is connected to one another in a fundamental way beyond the explanation of science.

We're part of a greater whole--the Oversoul, the Universal Sentience, All That Is.

10 Ways To Improve Your Personality

When we say that someone has a "good personality" we mean that they are likeable, interesting and pleasant to be with.

Here are some ways in which we can accomplish this:

1. Be a better listener.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of being an exceptional listener. She was known for the way she would look a person in the eyes, hang on their every word, and make them feel important. There is nothing more appealing than having someone listen to you intently making you feel like you're the only person in the world.


2. Read more and expand your interests.
The more you read and cultivate new interests, the more interesting you are to others. When you meet new people it gives you the opportunity to share what you know and to exchange your views with them.


3. Be a good conversationalist.
This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. No one can read about or know everything, so it's refreshing to learn from others those things we don't have the time to about read ourselves. If you happen to be shy, join a group like Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you know.


4. Have an Opinion.
There is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. If, however, you have an uncommon point of view or differing opinion, you are more interesting and stimulating to be with socially (unless you're a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone's perspective.


5. Meet New People.
Make the effort to meet new people especially those unlike you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternative ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.


6. Be yourself.
The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is trying to be something you're not. Molding yourself in order to fit in, or be accepted, usually backfires. Since each of us is unique, expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. Attempting to be a carbon copy of someone else not only falls flat, but reveals a lack of authenticity.


7. Have a positive outlook and attitude.
Who wants to be around people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say? In fact, most of us run when we see them coming. Instead, be the kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best in people and things. Smile warmly, spread good cheer, and enliven others with your presence.


8. Be fun and see the humorous side of life.
Everyone enjoys the company of someone who makes them laugh, or smile, so look for the humorous, quirky side in a situation - there always is one. Comic relief is a much welcome and needed diversion at times.
When you can add fun and lightheartedness to an otherwise dull, or gloomy setting, others will naturally be attracted to you, not to mention grateful.


9. Be supportive of others.
Being supportive is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it, be the support for others when they need it. We all love a cheerleader in our corner; someone who is encouraging, believes in us and helps pick us up when we're down.


10. Have Integrity and treat people with respect.
Being honest and true to your word will bring you the admiration, respect and gratitude of others. Nothing improves a person's personality more than integrity and respect - respect for others, as well as respect for yourself.

We humans have the power and ability to shape our personalities however we wish. When we develop ourselves to be all that we can be, we contribute to our own, as well as the happiness of others.

Idiomatic Comparisons

As Black As Crow
As Blind As Bat
As Busy As Bee
As Cold As Ice
As Cool As Cucumber
As Cunning As Fox
As Dark As Midnight
As Easy As Abc
As Free As Air
As Greedy As Dog
As Hot As Sun
As Green As Grass
As Red As Bllod
As Soft As Butter
As Stupid As Ass
As Sure As Death
As Sweet As Honey
As White As Snow

Life's Choices

Life Is Full Of Choices
Make Sure You Picked The Right One…
Don’t Listen To The Voices
Hear Only Yours And You Have Won…

Many People Will Tell You
You Need To Change Your Looks…
Don’t Take To Heart Their View
Fabulous Bods Are Found Only In Books…

There Is Only One Voice
That U Should Listen To…
It Will Help Make The Right Choice
That Is Perfect Just For You…

Your Looks Are Your Own
Someone Will Always Love You…
You Will Never Be Alone
Look In The Mirror And You Will See Who…….

Can you improve your life in one minute?

Want to make some positive gains in your life? A lot of folks would like to improve their lifestyle, but just can’t find the time to take action. If you are already living a busy lifestyle, finding the time to make a positive change CAN pose a seemingly insurmountable problem.

Still … the highest mountain is scaled only step at a time, and the biggest goal is only accomplished one step at a time. And actually -- it’s impossible to take more than one step at a time anyway.

Why not try an approach of focusing on just what you can accomplish in one minute -* just 60 seconds. That’s enough time to at least re-focus on a goal, and plan one small action to move you in your desired direction.

You can actually do quite a bit in only one minute. Here are some ways to use the power of a single minute:

Exercise for One Minute
No time to go to the gym? OK. Forget about the next 59 minutes, and just focus on the next one minute. Perhaps do a deep breathing exercise, or one minute of push-ups or sit-ups. Or invest in one of those easy-to-use $50 home gym systems, and just do a single exercise for 1 minute. After a while you may expand to two minutes ... and wow, you have just made a 200% jump.

Relax for One Minute
Just relax into your chair and suck in a slow deep breath all the way down into your belly. Then open your mouth slightly, and release your breath as slowly as you can. Repeat this for just one minute to refresh your mind with increased oxygen.

Calm Your Mind For One Minute
Your mind is a fabulous theater, and contains wonderful visions of your favorite places. Go visit one of those places for one minute. Just relax and clear your mind wherever you may be -- in a plane, waiting in a bank line, or at your desk. Now revisit your favorite place in your mental theatre for one minute. You’ll come away feeling refreshed, and a lot calmer and clearer.

Change Your Outlook for One Minute
You can even experiment going outside your normal self for a minute. Try acting the exact opposite of how you usually act for one minute. If you tend to be introverted, think like an extrovert. If you are an engineer, think like an artist. If you are a man, think like a woman.

Re-Frame a Problem for One Minute
Choose a problem, then select a different frame of reference to consider it from. Try considering the problem through the eyes of someone you admire. Does the problem look different? Try looking at it with the mind Albert Einstein or Bill Gates or Martha Stewart. Now how does the problem look?

Be Happy for One Minute
Maybe you are currently overwhelmed with problems and challenges beyond your control. Try finding something to give thanks for, and focus on being grateful. Forget any current or past tragedies or disasters, and allow yourself to be happy for one minute.

You really can achieve wonders in just one minute. And these single minutes can add up to a greatly improved quality of life. Give it a try!

The Top 25 Signs of a Dysfunctional Workplace

Throughout time, people everywhere have engaged in the great tradition of complaining about the workplace. But as a boss or an HR manager, how do you know when job complaints are general venting and when there is really something wrong? Part of your job is to make sure that employees are happy and productive, and that can’t happen in a dysfunctional environment.


If you’re having a hard time separating hyperbole from legitimate complaints, it may be worth reviewing the top 25 signs of a dysfunctional workplace. Note that all the examples below — listed in no particular order — are taken from real-world work situations, no matter how unlikely they might seem.


1. Nothing can get done without the boss’s approval. Sure, the boss has the final say, but work should be delegated, with employees taking responsibility for tasks that do not require the boss’s personal time and attention. The organization will be much more productive and empowered if the top dog doesn’t have to sign off on every little thing.

2. Nothing can get done unless employees go behind the boss’s back. It’s one thing if the boss is overly involved, but it’s a serious problem if the boss is actually a roadblock to getting work done. It may be time to call in the consultants.

3. No one is sure who the boss really is. The titles may be clear, but so many people are jostling for the top post that employees aren’t sure who actually makes the final decisions. This can cause more than a little frustration.

4. No one is getting paid on time — or at all. This is very obvious sign that things are going poorly. Even at startups, employees need to be clear about their pay schedule to feel secure.

5. Cubicle mates IM (instant message) each other but never talk. It’s nice to have a quiet office, but some topics require face-to-face discussion. As with email, it’s difficult to express tone via IM, opening the door to misunderstandings.

6. No one contributes in meeting because everyone is busy IM-ing. Meetings are for brainstorming ideas and discussing important topics, not for secret, snarky IM conversations about how boring the meeting is. Pull the plug.

7. Too many pointless meetings are being held. If a meeting has no set agenda or is just being held to rehash previous discussions, axe it.

8. There’s more than one “secret couple” on staff. It makes sense that a lot of couples meet each other at work because that’s where they spend a lot of their time. However, having “secret” couples on staff (some of which involve people that may be having an extramarital affair) can lead to workplace tension and drama.

9. Attorneys outnumber staff. Perhaps your business practices should be re-examined?

10. Reward system? What reward system? You can’t have a stick and no carrot.

11. The IT head gets arrested for hosting porn on company servers. This is a clear case of lack of supervision and not being in tune with what’s going on with the staff.

12. IT rules are so strict that you’re not allowed to know your own computer login. It’s important to have IT security policies, but if the rules are too strict, employees can feel distrusted.

13. Your boss — an eccentric Internet millionaire — offers to pay your monthly salary in gold coins because “gold is more stable than the dollar.” Although management and entry-level employees rarely live the same lifestyle, management should at least show some understanding about employees’ financial needs.
14. Your manager was hired because she listed “whiskey” as a hobby on her résumé. Sure, having quirky staff members can liven up the workplace, but it’s not a good idea to hire someone just because they’d make a good drinking buddy or golf partner.

15. Your co-worker decides to show, not tell, the visiting U.K. executive what a “wedgie” is at an office holiday party. Even at office parties, there should be some sense of workplace propriety. Getting drunk at an office event and misusing the photocopy machine is a similar sign of workplace dysfunction.

16. The boss takes pride in his “wall of shame,” where employee mistakes are posted and circled in red for the entire world to see. Rewards can be public, but chastisement should be kept private.
17. The boss screams at the assistant when there's skim milk instead of half-and-half in the coffee. Just because the boss is in a position of authority doesn't mean that he or she can use that power to bully or intimidate employees.

18. Emergency drills are conducted without employees being told that it’s a drill. In general, the more information you share with your staff, the more they will feel like a contributing member of a team. Hiding crucial information can lead to distrust and a depleted sense of value.

19. At least once per week, you hear quiet sobbing from an adjacent cubicle. One unhappy employee can ruin the morale of the entire office. Try to immediately address any employee issues before they spread.

20. Entire departments go to lunch together every day, leaving parts of the company completely unmanned for hours at a time. Workplace camaraderie is great, except when the network goes down and there’s no one left in the IT department to fix it.


21. What matters is not what you’ve accomplished in a day, but how many hours you were seen “working.” We all know at least one person who hangs around until everyone else goes home or shows up at 7 a.m. just to make a good impression with the boss. However, odds are they are only working seven hours of their eight-hour day. Reward productivity, not time spent at the office.

22. The accounting department has accumulated 23 weeks of paid vacation because no one there has ever taken a day off. People are not machines. Encourage staff to take vacations, or they just might walk out one day.

23. Managers are CCd on every company email, even when it’s just about where to order lunch. This is called covering your back, and it usually happens when employees are not empowered enough to make decisions within their scope of authority.


24. The only way someone can get promoted is if a senior staff member dies. Hope is a powerful incentive to keep employees motivated and on task. If there is no hope of advancement, quality of work and enthusiasm will suffer.

25. No one ever gets fired, no matter how ineffective they are at their job. Finally, while employees need hope, they also need expectations and standards. If doing a bad job doesn’t get a worker reprimanded or even fired, what’s the point of doing a good job?

13 ways to get lucky

1. Never confuse luck with planning:

When a desired outcome is brought about by luck, you must acknowledge that fact. If you confuse luck with planning, you will all but guarantee that your luck, in the long run, will be bad.

2. Find the fast flow:

Go where events flow fastest, surround yourself with a churning mass of people and things will happen. It doesn't matter if you are a quiet person; all you need to do is meet a lot of people and let them know who you are. Then they will direct opportunities your way.

3. Take calculated risks:

There are two ways to be an almost sure loser in life. One is to take risks that are out of proportion to the rewards being sought. The other is to take no risks at all. Lucky people, characteristically, avoid both extremes.

4. Know when to cut and run:

Always assume that a run of luck is going to be short, never try to ride a run to its peak. You will virtually always be right as the law of averages is heavily on your side.

5. Know how to select luck:

Is there some likelihood that the problems with your investment - whether it be time, money or love - will go away? Do you have some realistic hope of fixing them? If so, you should stay aboard. If not, you should get out and look for better luck elsewhere.

6. Take the zig zag path:

Despite what many people think the path to success is rarely a straight line. Lucky men and women, on the whole, are not straight-line strugglers. They not only allow themselves to be distracted, they invite distraction.

A plan should be used as a guide only and if something better comes along the plan should be discarded immediately without regret.

7. Supernatural belief can help:

Not because it makes you more lucky but because it helps you make impossible choices. Sometimes there is no rational choice to make, yet the worst reaction is to do nothing.

A supernatural belief can enable people to get into a potentially winning position simply by helping them make choices.

8. Be a bit pessimistic:

Lucky people, as a breed, tend to be pessimistic. Optimism means expecting the best, but good luck involves knowing how you will handle the worst.

9. Learn to keep your mouth shut:

Talk can tie you up and lock you in positions that seem right today but may be wrong tomorrow. Avoid unnecessary talk about your problems, plans and feelings. When there is no good reason to say something, say nothing.

10. Recognise a non-lesson:

There are experiences in life that seem to be lessons but aren't. Recognise when something was just bad luck and move on.

11. Accept the universe is unfair:

All of us, the good, the bad and the in-between, are all equally likely to realise our fondest dreams or contract cancer.

12. Be willing to be busy:

The more activities you have going the greater the likelihood that something good will happen.

13. Find a destiny partner:

This is someone who is someone who changes your luck over a long term. This person is not necessarily a romantic partner and is usually just found by blind luck but it can help if you are actively looking

Some Thought Provoking Lines I read...

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Why do we close our eyes when we sleep, when we cry,when we imagine, when we kiss? Because the most beautiful thing in the world is unseen.

Jeevan me itni galtiyaan naa karo ki,Pencil se pehle Rubber khatam ho jaaaye.

Don’t read success story.Read only failure story,because failure story gives you new idea to win, from Success story you can get only message.

Never waste an opportunity 2 say ‘I love U’ to someone U really like because it is not everyday you will meet the person Who has the magic to let U fall in love.

Its Not Important To Go To Heaven After We Die, But Its Important To Create Heaven Before We Die.

Anger opens the mouth and shuts the mind.

Once a wise man asked god;what is the meaning of life? God replied :"LIFE itself has no meaning its an opportunity to create a meaning.

Success isn't a matter of being d best and winning the race. Success is a matter of handling the worst and still finishing the race.

When you were born, u were crying and everyone around you was smiling.. Live your life so that when you die, you are the one who is smiling and everyone round you is crying.

Politics is the gentle art of getting votes from the poor and campaign funds from the rich, by promising to protect each from the other.

one best book is equal to 100 good friends but one understanding friend is equal to more than a library.

Say & Remember

Say thank you for second chances. Say goodbye to past injuries. Reach for the future with a hopeful heart. Say you're sorry when you need to... Say I love you when you need to... Don't let petty things become big things. Remember the heart of the matter... Remember to love and be loved is the greatest gift.

God is Working in Your Life Today!

We know that God will work all things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose"(Romans 8:28).

God has placed dreams and desires in each of our hearts. Then doubt shows up, kills those dreams and we wonder.
Are you believing for something that seems to be taking a long time?
Are you tempted to quit?
Maybe you've already given up on that dream. Today is the day to discard those thoughts, clear your head, focus on God and build your faith once again. This may take some time, so find a big glass of patience. God is faithful! He promises to complete the work He began in your life. Don't fall into the temptation to get complacent and think it's never going to happen. Right now, even if you don't see it, God is working behind the scenes and arranging things in your favor.
If you will develop an attitude of expectancy, you will open the door to His miracle working power in your life. Today, declare His Word and speak words of victory. Say things like, "My time is coming... God is working behind the scenes on my behalf... I will fulfill my destiny... I will fulfill the plan God has for my life!"
As you declare and expect God to move, your faith will grow. Your hope will grow. Keep expecting and waiting for the appointed time. As you do, you'll step into the victorious destiny God has planned for you!

Whatever happens, trust in the Lord and trust in the power of hope! My hope is in God who never changes. Nothing is impossible with Him. He is a big God, and I'm believing Him for big things. How about you?

May God Bless you

May God Bless you with unspeakable joy, not only in the world to come, but in this world also.

May your path be bright and full of light everywhere you go.

May God tell darkness that it must flee at your command and I pray your feet will never stumble out of God's plan.

May the desires of your heart come true and may you experience peace in everything you do.

May Goodness, Kindness, and Mercy come your way.

And, may you gain Wisdom and grow in the Lord everyday.

I Know

I know He is the beginning, so why do I worry about the end?
I know He is the creator, so why do I wonder who will destroy?
I know He has forgiven me, so why can't I forgive myself?
I know He is a healer, so why do I speak of sickness?
I know He can do all things, so why do I say I can't?
I know He will protect me, so why do I fear?
I know He will supply all my needs, so why can't I wait?
I know He is my strength and my salvation, so why do I feel weak?
I know that everything and everyone has a season, so why when someone's season is over do I weep instead of rejoicing?
I know He is the right way, so why do I go the wrong way?
I know He is the light, so why do I choose to walk in darkness?
I know that whatever I ask of GOD, GOD will give me, so why am I scared to ask?
I know tomorrow is not promised, so why do I put off for tomorrow what I can do today?
I know that the truth shall make me free, so why do I continue to lie?
I know He gives us revelation, knowledge and understanding, so why do I lean on my own understanding?
I know I should live in the spirit as well as walk in the spirit, so why do I choose to live in the spirit but walk in the flesh?
I know that when praises go up, blessings come down, so why do I refuse to praise Him?
I know I am saved, so why do I refuse the word He has given me?
I know He has a plan for me, so why am I rushing it because I am eager to do His will, when it is His time not my time?

Take a Moment

Today is the best day of your life! God is going to make your day even better. Take a moment to give thanks, to God and everyone around you.

God, your family, kids and friends love you. Take a moment to give away love, to your kids, your family, your friends and everyone around you.

Your able to read this message. Take a moment to give thanks, to God and every teacher you know.

Your life is a constant challenge. Take a moment to thank God for the strength and patience to face every challenge. Share that strength with everyone around you. Show patience for everyone around you today.

God has given you so much. Take a moment to give thanks to God and share what you have with everyone around you. Be the one to tell them they have so much. Show everyone around you how thankful you are.

Truly expect your day to get better today. Take a moment to give thanks to God and you'll find even more to give thanks and be thankful for.

Today is the best day of you life... and your day is going to get so much better today.

God's Love Story

One day, I woke early in the morning to watch the sunrise. Ah, the beauty of God's creation is beyond description. As I watched, I praised God for His beautiful work. As I sat there, I felt the Lord's presence with me.

He asked me, "Do you love me?"

I answered, "Of course, God! You are my Lord and Saviour!"

Then He asked, "If you were physically handicapped, would you still love me?"

I was perplexed. I looked down upon my arms, legs and the rest of my body and wondered how many things I wouldn't be able to do -- the things that I took for granted?

And I answered, "It would be tough Lord, but I would still love You."

Then the Lord said, "If you were blind, would you still love my creation?" How could I love something without being able to see it? Then I thought of all the blind people in the world and how many of them still loved God and His creation.

So I answered, "Its hard to think of it, but I would still love you."

The Lord then asked me, "If you were deaf, would you still listen to my word?" How could I listen to anything being deaf?

Then I understood. Listening to God's Word is not merely using our ears, but our hearts.

I answered, "It would be tough, but I would still listen to Your word."

The Lord then asked, "If you were mute, would you still praise My Name?"

How could I praise without a voice? Then it occurred to me: God wants us to sing from our very heart and soul. It never matters what we sound like. And praising God is not always with a song, but when we are persecuted, we give God praise with our words of thanks.

So I answered, "Though I could not physically sing, I would still praise Your Name."

And the Lord asked, "Do you really love Me?"

With courage and a strong conviction, I answered boldly, "Yes Lord! I love You because You are the one and true God!"

I thought I had answered well, but God asked, "THEN WHY DO YOU SIN?"

I answered, "Because I am only human. I am not perfect."

"THEN WHY IN TIMES OF PEACE DO YOU STRAY THE FURTHEST? WHY ONLY IN TIMES OF TROUBLE DO YOU PRAY IN EARNEST?"

{ No answers -- only tears. }

The Lord continued: "Why only sing at fellowships and retreats? Why seek Me only in times of worship? Why ask things so selfishly? Why ask things so unfaithfully?"

The tears continued to roll down my cheeks.

"Why are you ashamed of Me? Why are you not spreading the good news? Why in times of persecution, you cry to others when I offer My shoulder to cry on? Why make excuses when I give you opportunities to serve in My Name?"

I tried to answer, but there was no answer to give.

"You are blessed with life. I made you not to throw this gift away. I have blessed you with talents to serve Me, but you continue to turn away. I have revealed My Word to you, but you do not gain in knowledge. I have spoken to you but your ears were closed. I have shown My blessings to you, but your eyes were turned away. I have sent you servants, but you sat idly by as they were pushed away. I have heard your prayers and I have answered them all."

DO YOU TRULY LOVE ME ?"

I could not answer. How could I? I was embarrassed beyond belief. I had no excuse. What could I say to this? My heart had cried out and the tears had flowed, I said, Please forgive me Lord. I am unworthy to be Your child."

The Lord answered, " That is My Grace, My child."

I asked, " Then why do you continue to forgive me? Why do You love me so?"

The Lord answered, "Because you are My creation. You are my child. I will never abandon you. When you cry, I will have compassion and cry with you. When you shout with joy, I will laugh with you. When you are down, I will encourage you. When you fall, I will raise you up. When you are tired, I will carry you. I will be with you till the end of days, and I will love you forever."

Never had I cried so hard before. How could I have been so cold? How could I have hurt God as I had done?

I asked God, "How much do You love me?"

The Lord stretched out His arms, and I saw His nail-pierced hands. I bowed down at the feet of Christ, my Saviour. And for the first time, I truly prayed.

A Funny Prayer

Now I lay me Down to sleep.
I pray the Lord My shape to keep.
Please no wrinkles.
Please no bags,
And please lift my butt Before it sags.

Please no age spots.
Please no gray,
And as for my belly,
Please take it away.

Please keep me healthy.
Please keep me young,
And thank you Dear Lord,
For all that you've done.

Self Esteem

Self-esteem is the emotion or feeling a person has with regard to his/her self-worth which is composed of his/her self-competence and self-respect. It is the limiting factor on a person's performance. Simply said, a person's performance will not exceed his/her Self-esteem. This is evident from Maslow's hierarchy of human needs in that Self-esteem needs must be fulfilled before the need for Self-Actualization (performance) can be addressed.

Self-esteem can be thought of as multiplication of a person's self-competence and his/her self-respect. When a person's self-competence is a 10 and his/her self-respect is a 10, then his/her self-esteem equals 100. But when self-competence is a 3 and self-respect is a 3, then self-esteem only equals 9 which is less than 10% of full potential and so performance and productivity is less than 10% of his/her potential. Even though a person's self-competence and self-respect may both be 8, his or her resulting Self-esteem would be 64, or less than two thirds of full potential. One means of measuring your Self-esteem is the the Self-esteem Quotient.

A person's Self-esteem is not static, but fluctuates depending on a his/her behavior and how the results of that behavior influence perceptions about self competence and self respect. Similarly, a person's Self-esteem is not constant throughout all areas of life, but varies with his or her beliefs of self competence/respect in each area. In some cases, very high Self-esteem in one specific area may "spillover" or generate an increased belief in competence in a closely related area.

A person's Self-esteem is an indication of the size of his/her "comfort zone" or the range of activities in which the person feels comfortable or believes he/she is competent to do. Consequently, the larger a person's comfort zone or Self-esteem, then fewer activities, environments or situations will produce stress or discomfort. Those activities outside a person's comfort zone are considered "threats" or things to be feared and doing an activity outside a person's comfort zone means taking a risk.

There are more than a dozen specific ways a person can build Self-esteem. Everyone of them increases competence, self-respect or both. One of the most common ways people raise their Self-esteem is to expand their comfort zone by taking a risk and being successful in doing so.

The greater the successful risk taken, the greater the increase in a person's Self-esteem. Unsuccessful risk taking decreases a person's Self-esteem. Avoiding taking risks erodes a person's Self-esteem. One way to consistently and predictably raise Self-esteem and performance is to constantly take risks that are small enough that success is highly probable every time.

Some Kids prayed to GOD

Dear God, Please put another holiday between Christmas and Easter. There is nothing good in there now.
Amanda

Dear God, Thank you for the baby brother but what I asked for was a puppy. I never asked for anything before. You can look it up.
Joyce

Dear Mr. God, I wish you would not make it so easy for people to come apart. I had to have 3 stitches and a shot.
Janet

Dear God, If we come back as somebody else, please don't please let me be Jennifer Horton - Because I can't stand her
Denise

Dear God, I read the bible. What does beget mean? Nobody will tell me.
Love, Alison

Dear God, How did you know you were God? Who told you?
Charlene

Dear God, Is it true my father won't get in Heaven if he uses his golf words in the house?
Anita

Dear God, I bet it's very hard for you to love all of everybody in the whole world. There are only 4 people in our family and I can never do it.

Dear God, Did you really mean, Do Unto Others As They Do Unto
You? If you did then, I'm going to get even with my brother.
Darla

Dear God, I like the story about Noah the best of all of them. You really made up some good ones. I like walking on water, too.
Glenn

Dear God, My Grandpa says you were around when he was a little boy. How far back do you go?
Love, Dennis

Dear God, Do you draw the lines around the countries? If you don't, who does?
Nathan

Dear God, It's O. K that you made different religions but don't you get mixed up sometimes?
Arnold

Dear God, Did you mean for giraffes to look like that or was it an accident?
Norma

Dear God, In bible times, did they really talk that fancy?
Jennifer

Dear God, What does it mean you are a jealous God? I thought you had everything you wanted.
Jane

Dear God, How come you did all those miracles in the old days and don't do any now?
Billy

Dear God, Please send John Baldwin to a different summer camp this year.
Peter

Dear God, Maybe Cain and Abel would not kill each other so much if they each had their own rooms. It works out OK with me and my brother.
Larry

Dear God, I keep waiting for spring, but it never did come yet. What's up? Don't forget.
Mark

Dear God, You don't have to worry about me. I always look both ways before I cross the street.
Dean

Dear God, My brother told me about how you are born but it just doesn't sound right. What do you say?
Marsha

Dear God, If you watch in Church on Sunday I will show you my new shoes.
Barbara

Dear God, Is Reverend Coe a friend of yours, or do you just know him through the business?
Donny

Dear God, In Sunday School they told us what you do for a job. Who does it when you are on vacation?
Jane

Dear God, In school we read that Thomas Edison made light, but in Sunday School they said you did it first. Did he steal your idea?
Sincerely, Donna

Dear God, I do not think anybody could be a better God than you. Well, I just want you to know that. I am not just saying that because you are already God.
Charles

Dear God, It is great the way you always get the stars in the right place. Why can't you do that with the moon?
Jeff

Dear God, I am doing the best I can. Really.
Frank

Dear God, I didn't think orange went with purple until I saw the sunset you made on Tuesday night. That was really cool.
Thomas

A Prayer to Share

May today be all you need it to be. May the peace of God and the freshness of the Holy Spirit rest in your thoughts, rule in your dreams tonight, and conquer all your fears... May God manifest himself today in ways you have never experienced. May your joys be fulfilled, your dreams be closer, and your prayers be answered. I pray that faith enters a new height for you; I pray that your territory is enlarged. I pray for peace, healing, health, happiness, prosperity, joy, true and undying love for God.

The Road To Success

There Is A Curve Called Failure....
A Loop Called Confusion...
Speed Bumps Called Friends...
Red Lights Called Enemies...
Caution Lights Called Family...
You Will Have Flats Called Jobs But...

If You Have A Spare Called Determination...
An Engine Called Perseverance...
Insurance Called Faith...
A Driver Called Jesus...
You Will Make It To A Place Called Success!

12 Measures for Building Your Character

I possess the Right Motivation: As a leader, I am called to be an example-setter of high character to the people to whom I am responsible—whether they are my peers, children, employees and/or constituents. No matter if it seems inefficient, inconvenient or ineffective, I will build character because it is the right thing to do.

I possess an Accurate Mindset: My character flaws undermine my leadership, but are correctable. Character is who I am; competency is what I do. I will no longer confuse the two. Character is not only attractive to me, but is irresistible.

I possess the Freedom to Choose: I am 100% in control of my character and my response to others. I choose to be a leader of character. I regret my past character-poor choices. I will do all within my power to change. I will become more like the mentors and models I most admire.

I possess a Teachable Spirit: I am designed to be a life-long learner. I am teachable and have a strong bias to apply what I learn, to who I am and what I do.

I possess an Optimistic Vision: A few might remember my competence, but virtually all will remember my legacy of character, good or poor. Many will exceed me in various competencies, but I will set my sight on building a reputation of uncommon character.

I possess a Clear Target: I know the "bulls-eye" of high character. I know exactly what character-ethics are…and the corresponding behaviors I desire, even though I may struggle to achieve them consistently.

I possess the Right Tools: I have taken the time to assess and acquire the correct resources to support my character-building journey, including a list of defined character-ethics and a support system of like-minded leaders.

I possess a Sensitive Conscience: I may not always act on its every conviction, but I have a conscience that consistently generates a sense of great personal peace when I act in high character and appropriate guilt when I do not.

I possess the Ability to Find a Caring Mentor: My mentor(s) know me personally and we have agreed on a transparent, accountable, encouraging relationship as it relates to building character. My mentor(s) help me to create and maintain the conditions and principles necessary to build my character. Our respective roles and expectations are defined and mutually understood.

I possess an Integrating Perspective: My goal is to operate out of one, unifying and aligning character identity. I will tirelessly work to reconcile all of my various relationships to conform to this single identity.

I possess a High View of Relationships: I value relationships, but I'm not perfect. I want to forgive those who make errors and be forgiven as well when I commit them. While this does not eliminate the consequences of committing wrongs (or omitting rights), it assures others that I earnestly value them.

I have Counted the Cost: If I start, there is no going back. I will be painfully exposed for what I am if I attempt to champion a double standard or refuse to confront chronically poor character of those in my charge and/or completely abandon my own pursuit of character.

The Preacher and His Bike

A preacher received a call to preeach at a small church, which also provided a parsonage. The preacher enjoyed riding his bicycle but he needed a lawn mower. He saw a young guy cutting so he stopped and eventually struck up a conversation with the lad, who said, "I sure would like to own a bicycle"

The Preacher asked, "would you trade your mower even steven for my bike?"

The Lad said "yes!"

So the preacher pushed the mower home and the next day he was ready to cut the grass but the mower wouldn't start.

He walked to the lads house and asked him to give some hints on starting the mower and the reply was, "just start cussing"

The Preacher replied that he'd given up using those words years ago and had forgotten them.

The Lad replied, "just keep pulling on the rope and they will come back to you"

Be Thankful

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don't know something.
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations.
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge.
Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes.
They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you're tired and weary.
Because it means you've made a difference.

It's easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your
blessings.