5 important lessons to learn from a humble pencil

Monday, July 5, 2010

1. It tells you that everything you do will always leave a Mark .
2. You can always correct the mistake you make ..
3. The important thing in life is what you are from inside and not from out side.
4. In life you will undergo painful sharpening which will make you better in whatever you do ..
5. Finally, to be the best you can be, you must allow yourself to be held and guided by the hand that holds you.

Confidence & Self Esteem Are Your Friends

Confidence and Self-Esteem were best friends. They went everywhere together. If Confidence bought a new dress, Self-Esteem bought one just like it. They were very close.

One day a new kid came to their school. His name was Peer Pressure. He had a friend called Hateful Words. They decided to give Confidence a hard time.

They constantly teased her. They forced her to do terrible things. It was so terrible that Confidence lost Self-Esteem. When Self-Esteem wanted to start some classes, Confidence said they wouldn't be any good.

Then one day, Peer Pressure introduced Confidence to Doubt. He wanted to ruin Confidence, but Peer Pressure said he couldn't yet. Self Esteem couldn't understand what was wrong with Confidence. Confidence now hung around with Depression, Low Self-Esteem, and Overeating.

These girls were friends of Peer Pressure. Self-Esteem no longer had any friends. She no longer felt good about herself. She went to see her Imaam. Imaam Good Words told her how to talk to Confidence. He introduced her to his daughter, Encouragement.

Encouragement and Self-Esteem went to find Confidence. Self Esteem hoped she wasn't too late. The girls found Confidence in a stupor. She was no longer a vibrant, happy young girl. There were dark circles under her eyes. She had gained so much weight from eating that she couldn't move.

Encouragement gasped and Self-Esteem cried. She begged Encouragement to do something.

Encouragement began to hug Confidence. She kissed her and loved her. She told her that she was a beautiful young lady who had a lot going for her.

Encouragement held Confidence so tightly that Self-Esteem thought she would smother her. Confidence began to cry. As she cried, she seemed to lose weight. Then a bright light suddenly glowed from Confidence and she began to smile.

Peer Pressure and his friends didn't like what Encouragement was doing and tried to attack her. They hit at her and pulled at her, but they couldn't pull her away from Confidence. Then Confidence began to speak.

"Get away from me, Peer Pressure. Take your friends and go. You no longer have any power over me." Confidence was now a glowing light. She and her friends made sure that Peer Pressure and his gang never bothered anyone in their town again.

If you feel that Encouragement is not your friend, then try to find Encouragement in yourself. Self-Esteem and Confidence will follow.

Office Humor

After 2 years of selfless service, a man realized that he has not been promoted, no transfer, no salary increment, no commendation. So he decided to walk up to his HR Manager. His manager looked at him, smiled and asked him to sit down saying: "My friend you have not worked here for even a single day." The man was surprised to hear this, but the manager went on to explain.

Manager:
How many days are there in a year?

Man:
365 days and sometimes 366.

Manager:
How many hours make up a day?

Man:
24 Hours.

Manager:
How long do u work in a day?

Man:
10am to 6pm i.e 8 hours a day.

Manager:
So, what fraction of the day do u work in hours?

Man:
He did some arithmetic and said 8/24 i.e 1/3 (one third).

Manager:
This is nice of u! what is 1/3rd of 366 days?

Man:
122(1/3 x 366=122 in days)

Manager:
Do u come to work on weekends?

Man:
No sir.

Manager:
How many days r there in a year that r weekends?

Man:
52 Saturdays and 52 Sundays equals to 104 days.

Manager:
Thanks for that. If u remove 104 days from 122 days. how many days do u now have?

Man:
18 days.

Manager:
I do give u 2 weeks sick leave every year. Now remove that 14 days from the 18 days left. How many days do u have remaining?

Man:
4 days.

Manager:
Do u work on Republic Day?

Man:
No sir!

Manager:
Do u come to work on Independence Day?

Man:
No sir!

Manager:
So how many days r left?

Man:
2 days Sir!

Manager:
Do u come to work on New Year Day?

Man:
No sir!

Manager:
So how many days r left?

Man:
1 day sir!

Manager:
Do u work on Christmas Day?

Man:
No Sir!

Manager:
So how many days r left?

Man:
None Sir!

Manager:
So what r u claiming for?
While sitting only company is already paying you from last 2yrs.

Man:

!!!...

Moral-NEVER GO TO HR FOR HELP!!!

HR= HIGH RISK

Thought for action

If you wish to be respected, then be ever respectful.
If you wish to be understood, then sincerely understand others.
If you wish to be appreciated, then be ever grateful.
If you wish to be loved, then give love in each moment.

If you wish to be wealthy, then act to create real value.
If you wish to learn, then take time to teach.
If you wish to climb higher, then life others up.
If you wish to be wise, then share what you know.

Whatever you wish, life will surely give it.
What you must do, though, is to truly live it.

There is so much to live for and so much to see.
You will have whatever you are willing to be.

Why Worry?

When you are hit down hard
And you cant go lower
Why worry?
Ther’s only one way through now - higher.

When you are down to your last drop
You don’t know what to do
Don’t worry ever
You’d make it through.

Life is not a cakewalk
Neither was it meant to be
But life’s neither a prison term
Why worry?
Aim high.

When you’d rather be dead
Than go ahead,
And feel like sinking to the ground
Why worry ever, you’d go through sound.

Life is a cycle no one can contradict,
Life is a battle go ahead and fight,
but just don’t forget…………………….
Why worry?
U would pull through right.

Thought for the day....

The tongue has oil, fat and greasy substances rolling over it; but it is unaffected by these. It does not become greasy or oily. So too, the mind must be unaffected by the experiences of success and failure, of gain and loss, of well-being and illness. It must be wholly surrendered at the Feet of the Lord. Just close your eyes for five minutes and think of the profits and losses your efforts have won for you. Why worry? Surrender your everything to Him and let His will prevail

15 Tips to Improve Your Memory and Exercise Your Brain

Everyone can take steps to improve their memory, and with time and practice most people can gain the ability to memorize seemingly impossible amounts of information. Whether you want to win the World Memory Championships, ace your history test, or simply remember where you put your keys, this article can get you started. Scientists believe that exercising your brain can create a 'cognitive reserve' that will help you stay sharp as you age.

1. Convince yourself that you do have a good memory that will improve.

Too many people get stuck here and convince themselves that their memory is bad, that they are just not good with names, that numbers just slip out of their minds for some reason. Erase those thoughts and vow to improve your memory. Commit yourself to the task and bask in your achievements it's hard to keep motivated if you beat yourself down every time you make a little bit of progress.

2. Keep your brain active.

The brain is not a muscle, but regularly "exercising" the brain actually does keep it growing and spurs the development of new nerve connections that can help improve memory. By developing new mental skills especially complex ones such as learning a new language or learning to play a new musical instrument and challenging your brain with puzzles and games you can keep your brain active and improve its physiological functioning.

3. Exercise daily.

Regular aerobic exercise improves circulation and efficiency throughout the body, including in the brain, and can help ward off the memory loss that comes with aging. Exercise also makes you more alert and relaxed, and can thereby improve your memory uptake, allowing you to take better mental "pictures."

4. Reduce stress.

Chronic stress, although it does not physically damage the brain, can make remembering much more difficult. Even temporary stresses can make it more difficult to effectively focus on concepts and observe things. Try to relax, regularly practice yoga or other stretching exercises, and see a doctor if you have severe chronic stress.

5. Eat well and eat right.

There are a lot of herbal supplements on the market that claim to improve memory, but none have yet been shown to be effective in clinical tests (although small studies have shown some promising results for ginkgo biloba and phosphatidylserine) . A healthy diet, however, contributes to a healthy brain, and foods containing antioxidants broccoli, blueberries, spinach, and berries, for example and Omega-3 fatty acids appear to promote healthy brain functioning. Feed your brain with such supplements as Thiamine, Vitamin E, Niacin and Vitamin B-6. Grazing, eating 5 or 6 small meals throughout the day instead of 3 large meals, also seems to improve mental functioning (including memory) by limiting dips in blood sugar, which may negatively affect the brain.

6. Take better pictures.

Often we forget things not because our memory is bad, but rather because our observational skills need work. One common situation where this occurs (and which almost everyone can relate to) is meeting new people. Often we don't really learn people's names at first because we aren't really concentrating on remembering them. You'll find that if you make a conscious effort to remember such things, you'll do much better. One way to train yourself to be more observant is to look at an unfamiliar photograph for a few seconds and then turn the photograph over and describe or write down as many details as you can about the photograph. Try closing your eyes and picturing the photo in your mind. Use a new photograph each time you try this exercise, and with regular practice you will find you're able to remember more details with even shorter glimpses of the photos.

7. Give yourself time to form a memory.

Memories are very fragile in the short-term, and distractions can make you quickly forget something as simple as a phone number. The key to avoid losing memories before you can even form them is to be able to focus on the thing to be remembered for a while without thinking about other things, so when you're trying to remember something, avoid distractions and complicated tasks for a few minutes.

8. Create vivid, memorable images.

You remember information more easily if you can visualize it. If you want to associate a child with a book, try not to visualize the child reading the book that's too simple and forgettable. Instead, come up with something more jarring, something that sticks, like the book chasing the child, or the child eating the book. It's your mind make the images as shocking and emotional as possible to keep the associations strong.

9. Repeat things you need to learn.

The more times you hear, see, or think about something, the more surely you'll remember it, right? It's a no-brainer. When you want to remember something, be it your new coworker's name or your best friend's birthday, repeat it, either out loud or silently. Try writing it down; think about it.

10. Group things you need to remember.

Random lists of things (a shopping list, for example) can be especially difficult to remember. To make it easier, try categorizing the individual things from the list. If you can remember that, among other things, you wanted to buy four different kinds of vegetables, you'll find it easier to remember all four.

11. Organize your life.

Keep items that you frequently need, such as keys and eyeglasses, in the same place every time. Use an electronic organizer or daily planner to keep track of appointments, due dates for bills, and other tasks. Keep phone numbers and addresses in an address book or enter them into your computer or cell phone. Improved organization can help free up your powers of concentration so that you can remember less routine things. Even if being organized doesn't improve your memory, you'll receive a lot of the same benefits (i.e. you won't have to search for your keys anymore).

12. Try meditation.

Research now suggests that people who regularly practice "mindfulness" meditation are able to focus better and may have better memories. Mindfulness (also known as awareness or insight meditation) is the type commonly practiced in Western countries and is easy to learn. Studies at Massachusetts General Hospital show that regular meditation thickens the cerebral cortex in the brain by increasing the blood flow to that region. Some researchers believe this can enhance attention span, focus, and memory.

13. Sleep well.

The amount of sleep we get affects the brain's ability to recall recently learned information. Getting a good night's sleep a minimum of seven hours a night may improve your short-term memory and long-term relational memory, according to recent studies conducted at the Harvard Medical School.

14. Build your memorization arsenal.

Learn pegs, memory palaces, and the Dominic System. These techniques form the foundation for mnemonic techniques, and will visibly improve your memory.

15. Venture out and learn from your mistakes.

Go ahead and take a stab at memorizing the first one hundred digits of pi, or, if you've done that already, the first one thousand. Memorize the monarchs of England through your memory palaces, or your grocery list through visualization. Through diligent effort you will eventually master the art of memorization.

Self Esteem

Low self-esteem could lead to extremes of behavior. A person with high self-esteem could choose identical behavior for different reasons.

He may be alone because he prefers solitude, whereas a person with low self-esteem prefers to be alone because he is uncomfortable in groups.

Some characteristics of people with:


High Self Esteem - Low Self Esteem


Talk about ideas - Talk about people
Caring attitude - Critical attitude
Humility - Arrogance
Respects authority - Rebels against authority
Courage of conviction - Goes along to get along
Confidence - Confusion
Concerned about character - Concerned about reputation
Assertive - Aggressive
Accepts responsibility - Blames the whole world
Self-interest - Selfish
Optimistic - Fatalistic
Understanding - Greedy
Willing to learn - Know it all
Sensitive - Touchy
Solitude - Lonely
Discuss - Argue
Believes in self-worth - Believes in net worth only
Guided - Misguided
Discipline - Distorted sense of freedom
Internally driven - Externally driven
Respects others - Looks down on others
Enjoys decency - Enjoys vulgarity
Knows limit - Everything goes
Giver - Taker

The objective of this list is to provide a basis for self evaluation rather than produce guilt.
It is not necessary to have all the traits. Some characteristics may be present to a greater or lesser degree.

So long as we are able to recognize them we can make efforts to correct ourselves

Quotes........Part 2

"Silence & Smile are two powerful tools. Smile is the way to solve many problems & silence is the way to avoid many problems. So, have a silent smile always."

"When it rains all the birds occupy shelter. But eagle alone avoids the rain by flying above the cloud. Problem the common to all but attitude make the difference."

"Accept what you cannot change, Change what you cannot accept."

"Look backward with satisfaction and look forward with confidence, You will succeed in your life. be bole when you lose, be calm when you win."