When it comes to Indian marriages, words like big, fat, extravagant,
pomp and show come to our mind at once. However, irrespective of the
style and size of the wedding, one thing that remains common in all
Hindu marriages is the 'seven vows' signified by the sacred 'saat
pheras' around fire or 'agni', which is one of the most imperative
rituals of Indian weddings. With each 'phera' the couple makes a vow, a
commitment with strong mythological roots, which is to be lived forever
and more, its only then that a couple is accepted as husband and wife
for the next many lives to come.
These seven vows are supposed to
serve as an anchor to keep the couple going through all the ups and
downs of life together, as husband and wife tied to each other in a
sacred relationship.
First vow
The
couple appeals to the almighty to shower blessings in the form of pure
and nourishing food with a respectful and noble life. The groom pledges
to provide welfare and happiness to his wife and children, whereas the
bride swears to shoulder all responsibilities for the welfare of the
groom's entire family.
Second vow
The groom
requests the bride to be his strength so that he can provide security
and protect the family with courage. The bride agrees to abide by, while
demanding eternal love and undivided attention.
Third vow
The
couple pleads for wisdom, wealth, and prosperity in order to live a
content and satisfied life. They pledge to remain spiritually committed
and the bride assures the groom that by the virtue of true love and
devotion she will remain a chaste wife.
Fourth vow
The
groom thanks his would-be wife for bringing auspiciousness, happiness,
and sacredness in his life. In return, the bride takes an oath to serve
and please her husband in every way possible. Together, they also pledge
to take care and respect their elders in the family.
Fifth vow
The
importance of the fifth vow is to pray for the welfare of all the
living things in this Universe and begetting a noble breed. The couple
also prays to almighty to bless each other's friends and family with
happiness and well-being.
Sixth vow
In the sixth vow, God is
invoked to bless the couple for bountiful seasons and long lived
togetherness. The groom wishes that his wife would glut his life with
joy and peace; while the bride provides assurance that she would
participate with her husband in all his noble and divine acts.
Seventh vow
This
is the last vow adding completion to the ceremony. Here the couple
pleads for the long lasting relationship, enriched with understanding
and loyalty. They take an oath to nourish their relationship with love
and honesty and be together with each other forever not only in this
life, but also in the lives to come.
Even though different
religions and cultures have their own unique set of vows and different
ways to perform them, the basic meaning of all remains the same
'commitment', a vow of being spiritually united as one. It is a way to
assure your partner that he/she is worthy of your love and you are
willing to submit, 'till death do you part'.
True love is all that
you need to fulfill all the vows mentioned above; what according to you
are the importance of these 'pheras'? Do let us know through comments.
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