You are special

You are happy..
when you see a flower and are thankful for the blessings...

You are loving..
when your own pain does not blind you to the pain of others

You are alive..
when tomorrow's hope means more to you than yesterday's mistakes

You are growing..
when u know what u are but not what you will become .

You are wise..
when you know the limits of your wisdom

You are true..
when you admit there are times you fool yourself

You are free..
when you are in control of yourself and donot wish to control others

You are honourable..
when you find your honour is to honour others

You are generous..
when you can take as sweetly as you can give,

You are humble..
when you do not know how humble you are

You are thoughtful..
when you see me just as I am and treat me just as you are

You are merciful..
when you forgive in others the faults you condemn yourself

You are beautiful..
when you don't need a mirror to tell you

You are rich..
when you never need more than what you have

You are you..
when you are at peace with who you are not

Guide on How to Mange Stress

Guide on How to Mange Stress

Stress Management is more than anger management and relaxation. It is self management. There are many different ways to manage stress. I have compiled the various stress management techniques that are simple and most effective to follow and practice. Please feel free to use as many as you can, keeping an open mind, so you can have a collection of techniques that are the most effective for you.

Feel Good about your Self
Take Care of your Body
Develop the Right Attitude
Develop the Right Environment
Short Tips for Busy People

1. Feel Good about your Self

If you want to bring down your level of stress level in a matter of minutes, these techniques will help you. Use them as needed to feel better quickly; practice them regularly over time and gain even greater benefits.

Ø Deep Breathing from the Abdomen
Ø Meditation
Ø Having a dose of Laughter
Ø Progressive Muscular Relaxation
Ø Listening to light music
Ø Practicing Yoga
Ø Aerobic Exercises
Ø Creative Visualization

2. Take Care of Body

When we're stressed, we don't always take care of our bodies, which can lead to even more stress. Here are some important ways to take care of yourself and keep stress levels lower.

Ø Eat Healthy low fats â€" high protein meals
Ø Have six to eight hours of regular sleep
Ø Exercise regularly
Ø Develop a Hobby
Ø Have healthy Sex Life

3. Develop the Right Attitude

Attitude plays a great role in managing stress. Much of your experience of stress has a lot to do with your attitude and the way you perceive your life's events. Here are some resources to help you maintain a stress-relieving attitude.

Ø Let go your Ego
Ø Have a Optimistic approach to life
Ø Do not react under pressure
Ø Stop Worrying about things not in your control
Ø Accept that everything cannot be perfect
Ø Find an opportunity in every problem
Ø Say good things to your self â€" affirmations
Ø Have a health sense of humour

4. Develop the Right Environment

Having ambiance and pleasant environment make stress management very easy. Your physical and emotional surroundings can impact your stress levels in subtle but significant ways. Here are several ways you can change your atmosphere and less your stress.

Ø Clutter free home, office and working desk
Ø Green and Clean surrounding
Ø Light instrumental music
Ø Motivational Posters
Ø Words of Wisdom

5. Short Tips for Busy People

Busy People add a lot of stress to their already stressed life. People who may have more stressors in their lives is because they have more activity in their lives, and less time to devote to stress management. If you're a busy person, these resources can help you to manage stress efficiently in a short amount of time, and eliminate some of what's causing you stress in the first place.

Ø Time Management Tips
Ø Communication Skills
Ø Listening Skills
Ø Managing Priorities
Ø Enhancing Team Work
Ø Enhancing People Skills

Live like a bird

Like birds, let's leave behind what we don't need to carry.
Grudges, Sadness, Pain, Fear, and Regrets...Fly Light.
Life is colourful & beautiful.
Don't limit yourself.
Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do.
You can go as far as your mind lets you.
What you believe, you can achieve

Some Interesting Facts

1) There are about 500 different kinds of cone snails around the world. All have a sharp, modified tooth that stabs prey with venom like a harpoon. Most cone snails hunt worms and other snails, but some eat fish. These are the ones most dangerous to people. The nerve toxin that stops a fish is powerful enough to also kill a human.

2) The Adventures of Tom Sawyer, written by Mark Twain, was the first novel ever to be written on a typewriter.

3) No one can say just when Walt Disney began to think about undertaking his biggest project to date, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, but by the summer of 1934, his ideas were beginning to take concrete form. An exploratory outline that he distributed to his animation staff, dated August 9, 1934, included the following discussion of the dwarfs' names: "The names which follow each suggest a type of character and the names will immediately identify the character in the minds of the audience." Some of the names that were considered then discarded included Scrappy, Doleful, Crabby, Wistful, Dumpy, Soulful, Tearful, Snappy, Helpful, Gaspy, Gloomy, Busy, Dirty, Awful, Dizzy, Shifty, and Biggy-Wiggy.

4) The biggest frog is the appropriately named Goliath frog (Conraua goliath) of Cameroon. They reach nearly 30 cm (a foot) and weigh as much as 3.3 kilograms.

5) The state of Pennsylvania (USA) can lay claim to some dubious firsts. The first woman governor. The zipper. Toilet paper. And the autogiro, ancestor to the helicopter.

6) A female pharaoh was unknown in Egypt before Hatshepsut, who had herself portrayed in male costume, with a beard and without breasts.

7) Astronaut and moon-walker James Irwin's NASA name tag, coated with lunar dust, sold at auction for $310,500. The cloth keepsake, a 6- by 12-inch rectangle, was cut from the insulated jacket worn by Irwin during the 1971 flight of Apollo 15. Lunar dust, which created a dark gray tint around the tag's edges, became embedded into the tag during three separate moonwalks Irwin took. His jacket and other equipment were left on the Moon to lighten the spacecraft’s load on the return trip home, but Irwin cut out and kept his NASA tag as a memento.

8 ) There have been 262 popes since Saint Peter.

9) There are more insects in one square mile of rural land than there are human beings on the entire earth.

10) Each year, approximately 250,000 American husbands are physically attacked and beaten by their wives.

Equation of Friendship

Feeling of love
+
moment of caring
+
small small sharing
+
stupid fights
+
shoulder to cry
+
to be together in pain
=
creates a miracle called
“FRIENDSHIP”

Wise sayings by Eckhart Tolle

1) Always say "yes" to the present moment. Surrender to what is. Say "yes" to life - and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.

2) When your sense of self is no longer tied to thought, is no longer conceptual, there is a depth of feeling, of sensing, of compassion, of loving, that was not there when you were trapped in mental conncepts. You are that depth.

3) Is there something that you "should" be doing but are not doing? Get up and do it now. Alternatively, completely accept your inactivity, laziness, or passivity at this moment, if that is your choice.

4) Enlightenment consciously chosen means to relinquish your attachment to past and future and to make the Now the main focus of your life.

5) When the compulsive striving away from the Now ceases, the joy of Being flows into everything you do. The moment your attention turns to the Now, you feel a presence, a stillness, a peace.

6) Stay present, and continue to observe what is happening inside you. Become aware of not only the emotional pain but also of "the one who observes," the silent watcher. This is the power of the Now, the power of your own conscious presence. Then see what happens.

7) Find the 'narrow gate that leads to life.' It is called the Now. Narrow your life down to this moment. Your life situation may be full of problems - most life situations are - but find out if you have any problem at this moment. Not tomorrow or in ten minutes, but now.

8) Practicing the Power of Now - Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have.

9) Observe the rhythm of your breathing; feel the air flowing in and out, feel the life energy inside your body. Allow everything to be, within and without. Allow the Oisness" of all things. Move deeply into the Now.

10) But it is important to realize we are all trapped in mental constructs, and so we separate ourselves from reality; the whole world loses its aliveness-or, rather, we lose our ability to sense that aliveness, the sacredness of nature. When we approach nature through the conceptualizing mind, we see a forest as a commodity, a concept. We no longer see it for what it truly is, but for what we want to use it as. It is reduced. This is how it becomes possible for humans to destroy the planet without realizing what they are doing.

11) When you listen to the voice in your head, that is to say, do not judge. You¹ll soon realize: there is the voice, and here I am listening to it, watching it. This I am realization, this sense of your own presence, is not a thought. It arises from beyond the mind.

Ancient Moral Story: Good and Evil Have Just Rewards

There is a story in Buddhism: in the past, a person named Gan Daduo committed all manner of crimes. One day while he was walking on a street, he saw that he was about to step on a spider.

A kind thought came to him: "A spider is a small life, but why should I kill it?" So he stepped over the spider and avoided killing it.

Since he had done so many bad things, he fell into an endless hell when he died. While he was suffering, a silver thread from a spider fell down from the sky. Feeling as if he had found a boat after falling into the sea, he quickly climbed up the thread with his all strength to escape from the pains of hell.

But as he was climbing, he looked down and saw many other sentient beings were also climbing up after him. He was afraid that the fine thread could not stand so much weight and would break, ruining his chance to escape. He kicked down all of the others one after another.

But as he was kicking his companions, the spider thread broke, and Gan Daduo and all the sentient beings fell into hell again to suffer in endless misery.

His earlier kind thought had given Gan Daduo a chance to escape from hell; but his bad thought had drawn him back to hell to suffer again. It seems that one thought can determine one's fate. It all depends on whether that thought is good or evil.

Forgive Generously

Giving forgiveness to others is what allows you to release them and you from your souls' shared karmic journey. This is more than an optional step on your journey, it is required for you to move from karma to creation, from the path of destiny into your role of co-creator with the Universe. Without forgiveness you are blocked from receiving the fullness of the divine guidance, blessings, support and grace that allow for joyful, effortless living. That is why you should apply forgiveness generously, fully and completely to everyone.

So often that which you must forgive has been the source of great pain, coming from those who have wounded you to the depths of your soul. You struggle with what they have done, try to understand their reasons and motivations, and wonder why they can be so cruel. You question whether you can forgive them and their actions as you feel this is a form of approval or acceptance. But you think this way because you have a limited awareness of your journey with them.

You are asked to forgive so that you can end karma and what you know of others through your pain is where you are the receiver. In other lifetimes you have been the one who caused pain, consciously or unconsciously, and what you are receiving is the other side of this cycle. The cycle repeats because everyone is reliving what has been done, again and again, over the course of lifetimes. It is not possible to undo what has already been done, but you can stop these cycles from repeating, which is held in your choice to forgive.

When you forgive you are only focused on ending the karmic cycle. Nothing else is part of that decision. The choice is not whether you can forgive others or whether they have done the unforgivable, but whether you want to end your karma with them, to be free of these cycles and their patterns in your life. This is a choice you make for yourself, so you can be free of these energies. You do not make this choice on behalf of anyone else. So forgive generously, fully and completely; give the gift of forgiveness to everyone in your life and free yourself of the connections that have defined your life until this moment so that new paths, possibilities and potentials open for you.

When I started loving myself

When I started loving myself” - A poem by Charlie Chaplin written on his 70th birthday on April 16, 1959:

When I started loving myself
I understood that I’m always and at any given opportunity
in the right place at the right time.
And I understood that all that happens is right –
from then on I could be calm.
Today I know: It’s called TRUST.

When I started to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
When I tried to force my desires on this person,
even though I knew the time is not right and the person was not ready for it,
and even though this person was me.
Today I know: It’s called LETTING GO

When I started loving myself
I could recognize that emotional pain and grief
are just warnings for me to not live against my own truth.
Today I know: It’s called AUTHENTICALLY BEING.

When I started loving myself
I stopped longing for another life
and could see that everything around me was a request to grow.
Today I know: It’s called MATURITY.

When I started loving myself
I stopped depriving myself of my free time
and stopped sketching further magnificent projects for the future.
Today I only do what’s fun and joy for me,
what I love and what makes my heart laugh,
in my own way and in my tempo.
Today I know: it’s called HONESTY.

When I started loving myself
I escaped from all what wasn’t healthy for me,
from dishes, people, things, situations
and from everyhting pulling me down and away from myself.
In the beginning I called it the “healthy egoism”,
but today I know: it’s called SELF-LOVE.

When I started loving myself
I stopped wanting to be always right
thus I’ve been less wrong.
Today I’ve recognized: it’s called HUMBLENESS.

When I started loving myself
I refused to live further in the past
and worry about my future.
Now I live only at this moment where EVERYTHING takes place,
like this I live every day and I call it CONSCIOUSNESS.

When I started loving myself
I recognized, that my thinking
can make me miserable and sick.
When I requested for my heart forces,
my mind got an important partner.
Today I call this connection HEART WISDOM.

We do not need to fear further discussions,
conflicts and problems with ourselves and others
since even stars sometimes bang on each other
and create new worlds.
Today I know: THIS IS LIFE!

Mother Teresa Quotes

• Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.

• I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.

• If we want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.

• Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired.

• Everybody today seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater developments and greater riches and so on, so that children have very little time for their parents. Parents have very little time for each other, and in the home begin the disruption of peace of the world.

• It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start.

• If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.

• Even the rich are hungry for love, for being cared for, for being wanted, for having someone to call their own.

• Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.

• Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.

• Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.

• Peace begins with a smile.

• Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.

• The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted.

• The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.

• The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.

• The success of love is in the loving - it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.

• There is more hunger in the world for love and appreciation in this world than for bread. We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty.

• Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.

• Good works are links that form a chain of love.

• In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.

History Mystery

Abraham Lincoln was elected to Congress in 1846.
John F. Kennedy was elected to Congress in 1946.

Abraham Lincoln was elected President in 1860.
John F. Kennedy was elected President in 1960.

Both were particularly concerned with civil rights.
Both wives lost their children while living in the White House.

Both Presidents were shot on a Friday.
Both Presidents were shot in the head

Now it gets really weird.

Lincoln 's secretary was named Kennedy.
Kennedy's Secretary was named Lincoln.

Both were assassinated by Southerners.
Both were succeeded by Southerners named Johnson.

Andrew Johnson, who succeeded Lincoln, was born in 1808.
Lyndon Johnson, who succeeded Kennedy, was born in 1908.

John Wilkes Booth, who assassinated Lincoln, was born in 1839.

Lee Harvey Oswald, who assassinated Kennedy, was born in 1939.

Both assassins were known by their three names.
Both names are composed of fifteen letters.

Now hang on to your seat.

Lincoln was shot at the theater named 'Ford'.
Kennedy was shot in a car called ' Lincoln ' made by 'Ford'.

Lincoln was shot in a theater and his assassin ran and hid in a warehouse.
Kennedy was shot from a warehouse and his assassin ran and hid in a theater.

Booth and Oswald were assassinated before their trials.

And here's the kicker...

A week before Lincoln was shot, he was in Monroe , Maryland
A week before Kennedy was shot, he was with Marilyn Monroe.

The Smart Game

There once lived a great mathematician in a village outside Ujjain . He was often called by the local king to advice on matters related to the economy. His reputation had spread as far as Taxila in the North and Kanchi in the South. So it hurt him very much when the village headman told him, "You may be a great mathematician who advises the king on economic matters but your son does not know the value of gold or silver."

The mathematician called his son and asked, "What is more valuable - gold or silver?" "Gold," said the son. "That is correct. Why is it then that the village headman makes fun of you, claims you do not know the value of gold or silver? He teases me every day. He mocks me before other village elders as a father who neglects his son. This hurts me. I feel everyone in the village is laughing behind my back because you do not know what is more valuable, gold or silver. Explain this to me, son."

So the son of the mathematician told his father the reason why the village headman carried this impression. "Every day on my way to school, the village headman calls me to his house. There, in front of all village elders, he holds out a silver coin in one hand and a gold coin in other. He asks me to pick up the more valuable coin. I pick the silver coin. He laughs, the elders jeer, everyone makes fun of me. And then I go to school. This happens every day. That is why they tell you I do not know the value of gold or silver."

The father was confused. His son knew the value of gold and silver, and yet when asked to choose between a gold coin and silver coin always picked the silver coin. "Why don't you pick up the gold coin?" he asked. In response, the son took the father to his room and showed him a box. In the box were at least a hundred silver coins. Turning to his father, the mathematician' s son said, "The day I pick up the gold coin the game will stop. They will stop having fun and I will stop making money."

The bottom line is that Sometimes in life, we have to play the fool because our seniors and our peers, and sometimes even our juniors like it. That does not mean we lose in the game of life. It just means allowing others to win in one arena of the game, while we win in the other arena of the game. We have to choose which arena matters to us and which arenas do not...

Never Give Up

This story is about a farmer and his mule. The effectiveness of the story lies in the way it focuses upon adversity and how attitude determines the course of seemingly lost cause. There was this farmer in a tiny village.

He owned an old mule that used to carry grains and other farming related stuff for the farmer. During one of those days, the mule fell into a well. The well ran deep and despite trying hard many a times, mule couldn’t get himself out the well. He started to lose hope. His consistent shrieks drew attention of the farmer who came rushing to the well.

Farmer looked around and tried to come up with a rescue plan but eventually, he also lost the hope. He decided that the old mule was not worth the trouble of saving. So, he called his neighbours and asked for their help in hauling dirt to bury the old mule.

The mule got hysterical. Soon enough, the farmer and the neighbours started to shovel and fill well with the dirt. When the first bout of dirt hit mule’s back, suddenly his fast losing spirit came up with an idea. He thought every time a shovel load of dirt will land on his back, he will just shake it off and step up a bit higher. The idea filled him with a new lease of life and hope.

Old mule kept doing the same blow after blow. He would just shake the dirt off and step up a notch higher. He kept reminding himself of possibility of a brand new life. He controlled his nerves and kept stepping up. After some time, the exhausted mule managed to step over the wall of that well. He was completely tired and fatigued yet his spirit triumphed. The dirt that was meant to bury him actually helped him in remaining alive.

The story is a clear example of how our attitude towards seemingly impossible adversities determines the final outcome. Life is like this only. If we respond positively to the stream of problems faced by us and refuse to surrender, we are likely to emerge victorious.

The Formula for Compassion . . .

Step One: Aspect

Q: "What is the aspect of myself this person is
reflecting back to me?"
Try to see and understand the aspect of yourself that
the other person is reflecting back to you. They are
your mirror, reflecting an aspect of yourself through
their behavior. This step calls for brutal
self-honesty, but it's well worth the effort.
Sometimes, instead of reflecting an aspect of your
behavior, they are reflecting something you judge. An
example would be someone who steals from you. You may
not be a thief, but you may be judging theft or people
who are thieves.
Step Two: Gift

Q: "What is the gift this person is giving me by
playing their role?"
Ask for help so you can see and understand the gift
the other person is giving you by playing their role.

Step Three: Acceptance
Q: "Can I accept the role that this person has played,
along with their actions, to help me learn this
lesson?"
Acceptance is one of the four elements of
unconditional love. Acceptance is part of compassion
and is unconditional love in action. This also
includes acceptance of who the person is, without
judgment. You will find that if you are having a hard
time with this step you can clear it by remembering
they are a soul in a body, just like you, and you are
helping each other with a lesson.

Step Four: Allowance

Q: "Can I allow myself to let go of my anger towards
this person who played the role to help me learn the
lesson?"
Allowance is also one of the four elements of
unconditional love. Allowance is part of compassion
and is unconditional love in action. This includes
allowing the person to be who they are and to follow
their chosen path, regardless of how you feel about
it.
By the time you've reached this step, you'll find it
very easy to let go of anger towards the person,
because you are feeling the gratitude and compassion
that comes from seeing the pain they suffered in
playing their role for you.
On another note: Allowance is easier to do when we let
go of needing to control someone's behavior or choices
for their own good. We tend to control people out of
fear that their actions will hurt them/and or us. If
we understand that everything has a value, then we can
begin to release our need to control because we
understand that there will be a value in each and
every outcome.

Step Five: Release

Q: "Can I release this person from blame?"
This one is easy when you understand that you are not
a victim. On the contrary, you are an active
participant in a contract and lesson that you helped
set up.
Taking responsibility for your part in the contract
enables you to release the other person from blame for
the role they played to help you learn the lesson you
wanted to learn. You understand that just as you are
not a victim, nor are they a villain. And remember, it
is much harder to play the role of a villain than it
is to play the role of a hero.
Releasing someone from blame is different to forgiving
them. Forgiving someone is what we do when we feel
they have sinned against us, as in being victimized.
Release is the key element in the Formula. The release
is created by your compassion for the other person.

Step Six: Kindness

Q: "Now that I have released this person, can I be
kind to him/her, and if so, how can I do it and when
will I do it?"
At this point you may be feeling the intensity of the
release through the heart. The degree of the feeling
differs according to the emotional intensity of the
issue. The more emotionally charged the issue, the
more intense the release.
By now you will be filled with gratitude and
compassion after reaching this step and your only
thought is how to make amends and thank the other
person/s.
Now that you are feeling gratitude and compassion, by
releasing the other person from blame and anger, you
realize you can be kind to them. You are now ready for
completion.
The two parts of Completion are:
a) How will you show your kindness, and
b) When you will do it?

The degree of the release is relative to the emotional
intensity of the issue. The more emotionally charged
the issue, the more intense the release.
You will find this step to be quite emotional. Higher
understanding fills you with gratitude and compassion
and your only thought is how to make amends and thank
them. This is quite an empowering feeling.
Having released the other person from blame you can
now be kind and loving toward them, functioning as you
are from a level of gratitude and compassion . . .
otherwise known as a state of Grace. It's not
necessary for the other person to understand how you
reached this state of grace, all you need do is thank
them. Let them know you have learnt a valuable lesson
as a result of their interaction, and thank them for
helping you to gain a better understanding of who and
what you are.

Quotes on Pleasing Personality

Fear no man, hate no man, wish no one misfortune, and more than likely you will have more friends.

No man has the right to strain relationship of friendly acquaintence to the breaking point by asking or expecting of a friend that might prove burden to the friend.

Be grateful to all those people who told you no. It's Because of them that you managed to do it all yourself.

When you look at a situation through the eyes of someone else, you often find unseen possibilities.
What is that people need and want and how could you give it to them.

Two things are bad for the heart -- running up stairs and running down people

Pride is concerned with who is right.

Humility is concerned with what is right.

Reputation is what people think you are. Character is who you really are. Take care of your character and your reputation will take care of itself.

Why we cannot follow the doctrine of mutual help in our own life?Why are we always selfish in our behaviour?Are we sensitive to other’s needs?
We always think of I, me , myself ……?

A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.

Practice random act of kindness. Kindness is the oil that takes out friction out of life. You can never be to kind.

Don’t waste time on gossip. If you have nothing good to say about another person, then keep your mouth shut! People tend to indulge in gossip because they want to look better than the person being spoken of. Learn to speak of others graciously as you would want to be spoken of.

The most difficult phase of life is not when no one understands you;It is when you don't understand yourself.

Self Appraisal

A little boy went into a store, reached for a soda carton and pulled it over to the telephone. He climbed onto the carton so that he could reach the buttons on the phone and proceeded to punch in Eight digits. The store owner observed and listened to the conversation.


The boy asked, "Maam, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn?" The woman replied, "I already have someone to cut my lawn."

"I will cut your lawn for half the price of the person who cuts your lawn now." replied the boy. The woman responded that she was very satisfied with the person who was presently cutting her lawn.

The little boy was even more perseverant and said, "I'll even sweep your curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will have the prettiest lawn in all of Palm beach , Florida ." Again the woman answered in the negative.


With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver.

The store owner, who was listening to this conversation, walked over to the boy and said, "Son... I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like to offer you a job."

The little boy replied, "No thanks, I was just checking my performance on the job I already have. I am the one who is working for the lady I was talking to!"

Win an argument

You just don’t win arguments; you can only try to walk away from one with as few scars as possible. A heated argument leaves both parties worse for wear, and it seldom settles anything.

But isn’t democracy itself supposed to be based on differences of opinion and the right to speak freely? In school we are taught to support our position on a given question with evidence and reasoned argument. When the other person doesn’t do so, don’t we have a right to show that he is wrong? We do have such a right, and we should exercise it.

Arguments are sometimes necessary, but you need not argue to “WIN”. People are bound to have different points of view. We get the best laws, production methods, company policies by putting together many points of view.

Here is how you can do this and still maintain good relations with people.

1) AVOID WORDS OF DISAGREEMENT.
As soon as you say” I disagree,” or “I take issue with that”, the other person gets ready to fight back. And if you call the other fellow “ignorant”, “Foolish”, or “all wet”, you attack the man rather than what he has said. It’s much better to give him credit for his viewpoint, state your own position, and then back it up.

2) RECOGNIZE AND RESOLVE BARRIERS
The biggest handicap to reasoned argument is that people are different. That’s why it takes two to make an argument. The old man who liked to talk to himself because, as he put it, “I like to talk to a smart man and I like to hear a smart man talk” was voicing the ideal. When you start mixing prejudices, interests, backgrounds, experiences, and opinions, you strike basic obstacles.

Language is another barrier, but it is largely the result of all the others. Try to speak the other person’s language: that is consider his interests, attitudes, and felling. Probably the key to resolve all barriers is the development of “YOU” attitude, thinking of the other person and his frame of reference, rather than your own.

3) BE PLEASANT
A pleasant manner starts with consideration for the other person’s feelings, that doesn’t mean an artificial smile. A pleasant manner starts inside. Successful debaters realize that a genuine liking for others makes it easier to understand them and their ideas. If you have the proper attitude, your manner will be sincere, your voice calm and modulated: yet your reply will carry conviction.

4) CONCILIATE
Start by looking for areas of agreement, minimizing differences rather than exaggerating them. Credit the other fellow for what he has said. Don’t regard him as“OPPONENT” conciliation replaces argument with the following steps:

•Hear him out. Listening is the key to understanding. Too frequently we listen in order to plan our reply rather than to understand.
•Interpret what you hear in terms of the person speaking. Never interpret another’s thought in your frame of reference, but in HIS.
•Avoid a chip-on-the-shoulder attitude. If you look for troubles, you’re likely to find it. The speaker probable wants to be your friend.
•Look for areas of agreement. There is usually some part of his statement that you can accept, even if you don’t agree with his main point. If you do you have taken a long step towards conciliation.
•State his points accurately and fairly. Some debates say that you should never reply to a point without first stating it. The very act of so doing frequently helps you understand it better. It also lets you cool off. But you must state it accurately, in on wise distorting what you are opponent has said.
•Indicate your own position clearly while avoiding strong language and words of disagreement. “That’s an interesting point of view, Joe, and your facts are quite right, but I wonder is we could consider it from this stand points”. You don’t have to give up your own beliefs meekly accepting all you hear, but use sound reasoning, give accurate facts and present as much evidence as you can to prove you points.
•Effective persuasion is a matter of using examples, comparisons, facts and figures, and statements of experts to prove that your position is sound. But always remember that the other fellow is human. That means he shares with you same basic desires, involving physical well being, family, money, comfort, pride and safety. If you can make your point without irritating or hurting him, you can often win him over to your position.

The strength of a man

The strength of a man isn't in how many women he's loved.
It's in whether he can be true to the ONE woman he's trying to love.


The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders.
It's seen in the width of his arms that encircle and protect you.


The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice.
It is in the gentle words he whispers.


The strength of a man isn't in the words he speaks.
It's in how he keeps his word.


The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits.
It's in how tender he touches.


The strength of a man isn't in the weight he can lift.
It's in the burdens he can carry.


The strength of a man isn't in the hair on his chest.
It's in his heart that lies within his chest.


The strength of a man isn't in how he makes love.
It's in the understanding that there is more way to making love, than just making love for fun

I Resign

I am hereby officially tendering my resignation as an adult.


I have decided I would like to accept the responsibilities
of an 8-year-old again.


I want to go to McDonald's and think that it's a four star restaurant.


I want to sail sticks across a fresh mud puddle and
make ripples with rocks.


I want to think M&Ms are better than money because
you can eat them.


I want to lie under a big oak tree and run a lemonade
stand with my friends on a hot summer day.



I want to return to a time when life was simple.
When all you knew were colors, multiplication tables,


and nursery rhymes,
but that didn't bother you, because you didn't know what
you didn't know and you didn't care.


All you knew was to be happy because you were blissfully unaware of all the things that should
make you worried or upset.


I want to think the world is fair.
That everyone is honest and good.


I want to believe that anything is possible.


I want to be oblivious to the complexities of life and
be overly excited by the little things again.


I want to live simple again.


I don't want my day to consist of computer crashes, mountains of paperwork, depressing news,
how to survive more days in the month than there is
money in the bank, doctor bills, gossip,
illness, and loss of loved ones.


I want to believe in the power of smiles, hugs, a kind
word, truth, justice, peace, dreams,
the imagination, mankind, and making angels
in the snow.


So...here's my checkbook and my car keys, my credit
cards and all my responsibility.


I am officially resigning from adulthood.


And if you want to discuss this further, you'll have to
catch me first, 'cause,

Think Simple to Solve Complex Problems

1. When NASA began launching astronauts into space, they found out that the astronauts' pens wouldn't work at zero gravity (ink wouldn't flow down to the writing surface). It took them one decade and $12 million to solve this problem. They developed a pen that worked at zero gravity, upside down, underwater, on practically any surface including crystal, and at temperatures ranging from below freezing to over 300 degrees C.

And what did the Russians do? The Russians used a pencil.

2. One of the most memorable case studies on Japanese management
techniques was the case of the empty soap box, which occurred in one
of Japan's biggest cosmetics companies. The company received a complaint that a consumer had bought a soap box that was empty. Immediately the authorities isolated the problem to the assembly line, which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. For some reason, one soap box went through the assembly line empty.
Management asked its engineers to solve the problem. Post-haste, the
engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high-resolution
monitors manned by two people to watch all the soap boxes that passed
through the line, to make sure they were not empty. No doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but they spent whoopee amount of time and money to do
so.

But when a rank-and-file employee in a small company was posed with the same problem, he did not get into the complications of X-rays, etc. but instead came out with another solution. He bought a strong industrial electric fan and pointed it at the assembly line. He switched the fan on, and as each soap box passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out of the line.

3. A 50 feet long trailer having 48" wheels got stuck while entering a midtown tunnel in New York because it was approximately 2.5 feet taller than the height of the tunnel. The fire department and the state department of transportation spent the whole day searching for a solution, to no avail.

Then a child, aged about 9 years, asked his father, "Why can't they take out the air from the tyre tubes? The height will automatically come down."

Moral: Always look for simple solutions. And learn to focus on
solutions, not on problems.

If you look at what you do not have in life, you don't have anything.
If you look at what you have in life, you have everything.

McDonald's love story...

A little old couple walked slowly into a McDonald's one cold winter evening.

They looked out of place amid the young families and young couples eating there that night.

Some of the customers looked admiringly at them. You could tell what the admirers were thinking: "Look, there is a couple who has been through a lot together, probably for 60 years or more!"

The little old man walked up to the cash register, placed his order with no hesitation and then paid for their meal.

The couple took a table near the back wall and started taking food off of the tray.

There was one hamburger, one order of French fries and one drink.

The little old man unwrapped the plain hamburger and carefully cut it in half.

He placed one half in front of his wife.

Then he carefully counted out the French fries, divided them in two piles and neatly placed one pile in front of his wife.

He took a sip of the drink, and then his wife took a sip as the man began to eat his few bites.

Again, you could tell what people around the old couple were saying. - "They were used to sharing everything ."

Then the crowd noticed that the little old lady still hadn't eaten a thing.

She just sat there watching her husband eat and occasionally sipped some of the drink.

A young man came over and begged them to let him buy them another meal.

The lady explained that no, they were used to sharing.

As the little old man finished eating and was wiping his face neatly with a napkin, the young man could stand it no longer and asked again.

After being politely refused again, he finally asked the little old lady, "Ma'am, why aren't you eating. You said that you share everything. What is it that you are waiting for?"

She answered "THE TEETH"

Funny Interview

Honestly, we will have these answers in our mind ... but we give different,
tailored and suitable answers to the guy !

1. Why did you apply for this job?

I have applied for many jobs along with this and you called me now.


2. Why do you want to work for this company?

I have to work for some company who ever gives me a job, I don't have any
specific company in mind.


3. Why should I hire you?

You have to hire some one, you may give me a try.


4. What would you do if this happened?

Well, it depends my mindset and mood at that situation...


5. What is your biggest strength?

Basically, daring to join any company who pays me well, without thinking of
the fate of company


6. What is your biggest weakness?

Girls


7. What was your worst mistake, and how did you learn from it?

Joining my earlier company and learnt that I need to jump to get more
money, so I am here today


8. What accomplishments in your last position are you most proud of?

Had I accomplished any in my last position, why do I need to change my job?
I could demand more and stay there.


9. Describe a challenge you faced and how you overcame it?

Biggest challenge is answering the question "why are you looking for a
change" and I started blabbering irrelevantly to overcome that.


10. Why did you leave/ are you leaving your last job?

For the same reason why you left your earlier job


11. What do you want from this job?

If no work is given but keep giving good hikes


12. What are your career goals and how do you plan to achieve them?

Make more money and for that keep jumping companies for every 2 yrs


13. Did you hear of our company and what do you know of us?

Yeah, I know that you will ask this, I've gone through your website


14. What is the salary expected and how do justify that?

Well, no one will change job for the same salary, hence, give me 20% extra
than what I am getting and that is unpublished industry standard


(I know you will bargain on what ever I ask, hence, I have already hiked my
current salary by 30%)

If you had one day....

If you had one day to do anything you wanted, what would that be??

Sing;Even if people have told you, 'never sing,' you'll want to sing.
Jump;Feel your strength surge from the tops of your legs to the tips of your toes.
Love;Tell everybody you love that you love them.
Live;Life is for living, not waiting.
Dance;Feel the music and let the beat pulse through your blood like fire.
Reach;Try to touch the stars.
Spin;Let your arms fly around you in circles like the horses on a carousel.
Swim;Jump into the water like you jump into life -Head first with no regrets or worries.
Laugh;Laugh loudly, and feel it from your stomach all the way up to your brain.
Meet;Meet people you wouldn't meet before.
Cry;Let your feelings be known.
Hug;A hug is forever.

But, most of all, enjoy.

60 tips for a Stunning Great Life by Robin Sharma

1. Exercise daily.
2. Get serious about gratitude.
3. See your work as a craft.
4. Expect the best and prepare for the worst.
5. Keep a journal.
6. Read “The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin”.
7. Plan a schedule for your week.
8. Know the 5 highest priorities of your life.
9. Say no to distractions.
10. Drink a lot of water.
11. Improve your work every single day.
12. Get a mentor.
13. Hire a coach.
14. Get up at 5 am each day.
15. Eat less food.
16. Find more heroes.
17. Be a hero to someone.
18. Smile at strangers.
19. Be the most ethical person you know.
20. Don’t settle for anything less than excellence.
21. Savor life’s simplest pleasures.
22. Save 10% of your income each month.
23. Spend time at art galleries.
24. Walk in the woods.
25. Write thank you letters to those who’ve helped you.
26. Forgive those who’ve wronged you.
27. Remember that leadership is about influence and impact, not title and accolades.
28. Create unforgettable moments with those you love.
29. Have 5 great friends.
30. Become stunningly polite.
31. Unplug your TV.
32. Sell your TV.
33. Read daily.
34. Avoid the news.
35. Be content with what you have.
36. Pursue your dreams.
37. Be authentic.
38. Be passionate.
39. Say sorry when you know you should.
40. Never miss a moment to celebrate another.
41. Have a vision for your life.
42. Know your strengths.
43. Focus your mind on the good versus the lack.
44. Be patient.
45. Don’t give up.
46. Clean up your messes.
47. Use impeccable words.
48. Travel more.
49. Read “As You Think”.
50. Honor your parents.
51. Tip taxi drivers well.
52. Be a great teammate.
53. Give no energy to critics.
54. Spent time in the mountains.
55. Know your top 5 values.
56. Shift from being busy to achieving results.
57. Innovate and iterate.
58. Speak less. Listen more.
59. Be the best person you know.
60. Make your life matter.

IT Definitions

1) Project Manager is a Person who thinks nine women can deliver a baby in One month.

2) Developer is a Person who thinks it will take 18 months to deliver a Baby.

3) Onsite Coordinator is one who thinks single woman can deliver nine babies in one month.

4) Client is the one who doesn't know why he wants a baby.

5) Marketing Manager is a person who thinks he can deliver a baby even if no man and woman are available.

6) Resource Optimization Team thinks they don't need a man or woman; they'll produce a child with zero resources.

7) Documentation Team thinks they don't care whether the child is delivered, they'll just document 9 months.

8) Quality Auditor is the person who is never happy with the PROCESS to produce a baby .

and lastly...... ......... ..

9) Tester is a person who always tells his wife that this is not the right baby

Conversation between a Software Engineer & his Wife

Husband: (Returning late from work):"Good evening dear, I'm now logged in."

Wife: Have you brought the grocery?
Husband: Bad command or filename.

Wife: But I told you in the morning.
Husband: Erroneous syntax. Abort?

Wife: What about my new TV?
Husband: Variable not found...

Wife: At least, give me your Credit Card, I want to do some shopping.
Husband: Sharing Violation. Access denied...

Wife: Do you love me or do you only love computers, or are you just being funny?
Husband: Too many parameters...

Wife: It was a great mistake that I married an idiot like you.
Husband: Data type mismatch.

Wife: You are a useless.
Husband: It's by Default.

Wife: What about your salary?
Husband: File in use... Try after some time.

Wife: What is my value in the family?
Husband: Unknown Virus

Beauty of Maths

1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321


1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111


9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888

Brilliant, isn't it?

And finally, take a look at this symmetry:


1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
111111111 x 111111111 = 12345678987654321

Australianism

It has been said before but it's worth repeating here.

John Arlott had written about it in 1948 at the end of a successful tour of England
by Don Bradman's men. ""Australianism," wrote Arlott, "means single-minded
determination to win - to win within the laws but, if necessary, to the last
limit within them. It means where the 'impossible' is within the realm of what
the human body can do, there are Australians who believe that they can do it - and
who have succeeded often enough to make us wonder if anything is impossible to them.
It means they have never lost a match - particularly a Test match - until the last
run is scored or their last wicket down."

(Extracted from Cricinfo.com)

Alphabets.........

A for apple.
B for bada apple.
C for chhota apple.
D for dusra apple.
E for ek aur apple.
F for fokat ka apple.
G for gol apple.
H for hazar apple
I for itney saarey apple?
J for jaao nahi khaana hai apple
K for kaise nahi khaayengey apple
L for lena padhega tumko apple
M for mujhe nahi chahiye itne apple
N for naa nahi kehtey kyunkey yeh hai apple
O for Oh to tumne khaa daale yeh saare apple
P for peth bhar Ke khaao apple
Q for qismat mein nahi hoti hai sabke, yeh apple
R for roz agar khaao tum apple
S for sehetmand rahoge khaaogey agar tum apple
T for tumko nahi milengey itney achey apple
U for udhaar kii nahi hai yeh apple
V for very tasty hai yeh apple
W for waste na karo time aur khaalo jaldi se apple
X for X'mas mei bhii khane padenge apple
Y for youn na chehra phero dekhkey apple
Z for zaroor dil bhar gaya hoga khake itne saare apple

Just Three Words......

There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new
friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have sourerd.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.



1. Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.


2. I understand you
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your
relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.


3. I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

4. I miss you
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."


5. Maybe you're right
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you
normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door
to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.


6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.


7. I thank you
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends
is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.


8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can
count on me."


9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.


10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."


Bonus : 11. I love you
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your
children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: "I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.