The coldest places on Earth

Grab your thermals, and get ready to visit some of the world's coldest spots. From the sub-zero cool of Canada's Yukon to the snowy heights of Everest, are you ready to get frosty?


Snag, Yukon
The site of the lowest temperature recorded for continental North America is the splendidly-named town of Snag in Canada's Yukon. On February 3, 1947, at the remote town's weather station, a bone-chilling low of −63 °C was reached. It was so cold, that the Toronto Globe and Mail declared, "The only reason the men didn't celebrate was that all the alcohol at the station was in the thermometer and that was nearly frozen." The men at the station made a note of a variety of amazing phenomena that occurred as the mercury dropped. Sound travels much further – the duty weather officer clearly heard dogs barking in the village 3 miles away, and he also heard a tinkling sound when he went outside; it was his breath freezing instantly and falling as powder to the ground! Go for the thrill of the chill in the Yukon and see the Aurora Borealis, go dog sledding or explore the wild nature on a cross-country ski adventure.

Yakutsk, Siberia
Boasting an extreme subarctic climate, Siberia is the place to be - if you want to freeze off, that is... Russia holds two records for the coldest places on Earth. Oymyakon is the coldest inhabited place and Yakutsk, on the Lena River, the coldest city. In 1933 Oymyakon recorded a temperature of −67.7 °C, however, there's not a great deal to do there, so travel further across the frozen expanse of Siberia and make your way to Yakutsk instead, which experiences positively-toasty-in-comparison −40 °C temperatures throughout winter. During summer, Yakutsk experiences highs of 32 °C meaning that the town has one of the world's biggest seasonal temperature difference. The Lena River defrosts during that period, and it makes it a hot tourist spot to start Russian River cruises. As the largest city in the world built on permafrost, every single building in Yakutsk is built on underground stilts, take time to take a look before hopping on board.

Antartica
When it comes to having the frost factor, Antarctica wins hands-down as it has the lowest temperature ever recorded on Earth, a face-freezing -89.2 °C (-128.6 °F) at the Vostok Research Station in 1983. Such temperatures make it impossible for any of us to actually live at the South Pole, so the only permanent residents are scientists who live at the research stations. You can get the chance to visit though, by taking an Antarctic cruise. 2011 marks the 100th anniversary of the first Antarctic expedition, Stay wrapped up and spot penguins and glaciers, humpback and fin whales.

Everest base camp
Who dares freezes up on Mount Everest, the world's highest mountain (8848 m, fact fans!) which is also one of the coldest places in the world. In January, temperatures at the summit average around -36° C, and can drop as low as -60° C. Even in the warmest month, July, the mercury doesn't rise much further than -19° C. Scaling the heights might be beyond most of us but a trip trekking through Nepal to Everest's base camp could be possible. Head out in March or April, you'll be hiking in a T-shirt in the morning and will even be able to see flowers at the lower altitudes. Nights are cold though, and will be around -10°C.

Champneys, Tring
When you think of the world's coldest places, Tring in Hertfordshire doesn't immediately spring to mind, however, with Champney's new Kriotherapy chamber everyone can now experience sub-zero temperatures of -135C without leaving the UK. This is the latest must-try treatment from Japan. The shock of the extreme cold boosts endorphin production and releases adrenaline through your body. It also gets blood circulation pumping and can help with a whole range of illnesses from arthritis, stress, insomnia, joint problems and even depression. You can only stay in for 3 minutes at a time as any longer would freeze you to death, but, beware - it's apparently oddly addictive... You can feel incredibly euphoric after a treatment and toasty-warm for hours afterwards. Celebs from Alice Cooper to Theo Walcott are big fans.

Great People

A candidate for a news broadcasters post was rejected by officials since his voice was not fit for a news broadcaster. He was also told that with his obnoxiously long name, he would never be famous.

He is Amitabh Bacchan.

A small boy - the fifth amongst seven siblings of a poor father, was selling newspapers in a small village to earn his living. He was not exceptionally smart at school but was fascinated by religion and rockets.

The first rocket he built crashed. A missile that he built crashed multiple times and he was made a butt of ridicule. He is the person to have scripted the Space Odyssey of India single-handedly

He is Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam.

In 1962, four nervous young musicians played their first record audition for the executives of the Decca recording Company. The executives were not impressed. While turning down this group of musicians, one executive said, "We don't like their sound. Groups of guitars are on the way out."

The group was called The Beatles.

In 1944, Emmeline Snively, director of the Blue Book Modelling Agency told modeling hopeful Norma Jean Baker, "You'd better learn secretarial work or else get married."

She went on and became Marilyn Monroe.

In 1954, Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry, Fred a singer after one performance. He told him, "You ain't goin' nowhere....son. You ought to go back to drivin' a truck."

He went on to become Elvis Presley.

When Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone in 1876, it did not Ring off the hook with calls from potential backers. After making a demonstration call, President Rutherford Hayes said, that’s an amazing invention, but who would ever want to see one of them?

When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, he tried over 2000 experiments before he got it to work. A young reporter asked him how it felt to fail so many times. He said, "I never failed once. I invented the light bulb. It just happened to be a 2000-step process."

In the 1940s, another young inventor named Chester Carlson took his idea to 20 corporations, including some of the biggest in the country. They all turned him down. In 1947, after 7 long years of rejections, he finally got a tiny company in Rochester, NY, the Haloid Company, to purchase the rights to his invention – an electrostatic paper-copying process.

Haloid became Xerox Corporation.

A little girl - the 20th of 22 children, was born prematurely and her survival was doubtful. When she was 4 years old, she contracted double pneumonia and scarlet fever, which left her with a paralyzed left leg. At age 9, she removed the metal leg brace she had been dependent on and began to walk without it.

By 13 she had developed a rhythmic walk, which doctors said was a miracle. That same year she decided to become a runner. She entered a race and came in last.

For the next few years every race she entered, she came in last. Everyone told her to quit, but she kept on running. One day she actually won a race. And then another. From then on she won every race she entered.

Eventually this little girl - Wilma Rudolph, went on to win three Olympic gold medals.

A school teacher scolded a boy for not paying attention to his mathematics and for not being able to solve simple problems. She told him that you would not become anybody in life.

The boy was Albert Einstein.

Love

The day of love requires a companion,
But I find myself at this time all alone.
Words of sweet affection fill the morning
Like bells outside the windows of my room.

I don't know why I don't have someone with me.
I've loved and been loved through the restless years.
The mysteries of love I hold within me
Are a darkness unrelieved by moon and stars.

And yet I feel more love than I have ever
Felt within the circle of a kiss.
Love need not be a passion or a fever,
Nor does it need a hand for its caress.

Love does not require a companion.
It doesn't need an object or a home.
It flies above the ecstasy of morning
And fills the universe inside my room.

I think that I have found

I think that I have found
Upon this wondrous ground
A friend for life, a love
Who is a touch above

Life's mediocrities
That blow in different seas
These special ones on earth
Who've been that way since birth

They touch lightly your heart
And never must you part,
For when you see their eyes
There can be no good-byes

So walk this way with me
Along this pathway free,
I shall not bind or tie
Our love or it would die

30 Useful Tips for Winning Over People

1. Avoid beginning with details : give a big picture first.
2. You may take time to develop a relationship but do not overlook it.
3. Emphasize on a good work ethics.
4. Use logic with clearly identified priorities and goals.
5. Be willing to wander off towards new and different directions.
6. Appeal to their role as a consultant and advisor.
7. Do not take others’ apparent belligerence personally : be flexible.
8. Appeal to their curiosity : use reason and logic.
9. Keep asking questions about their opinions and ideas.
10. Appeal to established traditional values.
11. Use main stream humor but be generally serious.
12. Appeal to their need to innovate.
13. Make your boundaries clear.
14. Do not interrupt them.
15. Emphasize what is in it for them.
16. Show appropriate emotion to support their position.
17. Allow them time to read and have moments of silence.
18. Do not get too close physically. People generally dislike it.
19. Take their stress seriously but not personally.
20. Be genuine in your intent and purpose. They can see it through your eyes.
21. Appeal to their sense of responsibility.
22. Use the promises of physical rewards such as group dinner etc and keep your word.
23. Avoid a complex vocabulary.
24. Avoid a reference to considerations for others.
25. Notify them if you are going to be late.
26. Emphasize that they are in control.
27. Be a friend even if you are a boss.
28. Be presentable.
29. Do not make personal remarks.
30. Do what you say and say what you do.


Three big mistakes we often commit
Mistake # 1 :Advising before understanding.
Mistake # 2 :Attempting to build / rebuild relationships without changing conduct or attitude.
Mistake # 3 :Assuming that good example and relationship are sufficient

Communicating Vision by John C Maxwell

Nothing motivates an organization like a clear and compelling vision. But it can be tricky to paint a picture of what's in your mind so that others can see exactly what you're seeing. As a leader, how do you enable others to glimpse your vision and how do you inspire them to adopt it?
1) Connect relationally
Leaders err when they believe the content of their vision will sweep others up by itself. Don't focus on the mechanics of your message to the point where you disregard connecting with your team. People buy into the leader before they buy into the leader's vision. Touch a person's heart before you appeal to their head and ask for a hand.
2) Simplify the message
Abraham Lincoln's Gettysburg Address has a place among the great speeches of American history, yet it was barley three minutes in length. As leader, we can learn a lot from Lincoln. When communicating vision, what you say is important, but how you say it determines whether or not the message sticks. Slice and dice your vision until it can be shared in a single sentence. The more concise you make your vision, the more memorable it will be.
3) Embody the vision
People need to see a vision to connect with it, which is why the great communicators harness imagery to amplify the power of their message. Storytelling gets much more mileage than fact-spewing. However, the best representation of a vision occurs when a leader embodies it. People sooner follow what they see than what they hear. When a leader is ablaze with passion, people invariably are attracted to the flame.
4) Prioritize Influencers
Leaders treat everyone with respect, but they certainly shouldn't spend equal time casting vision to each person. To make sure your vision catches on in your organization, prioritize sharing it with key decision-makers. Set up one-on-one meetings. Field questions and respond to concerns. Don't rush this step. If you convince key personnel to buy-in to your vision, oftentimes they will sell it for you to the rest of the organization. On the contrary, if you cannot gain their support, implementing your vision will be an uphill struggle.
5) Honor the Process
Speechmaking has merit, but vision casting happens daily, not just on one occasion. It's a process rather than an event. To communicate vision effectively requires continual reminders to keep it in the forefront of people's minds.
Once the vision begins to take shape, every victory is an opportunity to celebrate and reinforce the vision. Also, each defeat must be evaluated and put into perspective lest the setback dishearten people. Unless a leader actively and continually champions a vision, with time it will evaporate.
6) Call to Action
Leaders don't impart vision to make people feel good, but rather to change something. Communicating vision should motivate people to take action by enlisting them in a focused strategy. The goal isn't simply to get people to agree with a vision, but also to take responsibility for translating it into reality.

Great Expectations by John C Maxwell

A primary responsibility of leadership is to communicate expectations, both with words and actions. When leaders carefully and consistently set expectations, they engineer a flourishing work environment. However, when leaders abdicate their duty to communication expectations, chaos ensues. Here are six rules of thumb to follow as you set expectations in your organization.
1) Set them for yourself first
Leaders must set the bar the highest for themselves. They must go first and give the most. Leaders who demand more of their people than they do of themselves quickly lose credibility with followers. However, leaders who commit to taking the first step demonstrate their belief in the vision, and they earn the right to ask others to follow.
2) Set them early
Have you ever boarded a train without being entirely sure if it was the correct one? If so, then you probably didn't feel at ease until the conductor announced its destination. Once you knew the route, you could relax and enjoy the ride.
Uncertainty causes anxiety. People have an innate need to know where they're headed. They want goals to guide them and targets to hit. By communicating expectations early, leaders provide direction. People feel secure when they know the plan and have a good idea of what the future holds.
3) Set them clearly
Confusion breeds frustration. When a leader fails to communicate clear expectations, people must guess at what he or she wants. Oftentimes those assumptions do not line up with the leader's desires, causing followers to misspend time or squander energy.
Clearly communicated expectations spell out a leader's vision and define everyone's roles and responsibilities. Unambiguous expectations also align activity, provide structure, and promote harmony. Serving as a reference point, clear expectations allow people to evaluate their performance and gauge whether or not they succeeding.
4) Set them optimistically
People generally perform in a way that's consistent with our expectations of them. That's why it's important to believe the best about those around you. When we give others a worthwhile reputation to uphold, they will stretch to meet our expectations. However, if we view others negatively, then we're likely to treat them without respect. In turn, sensing we dislike them, people are apt to put in minimum effort and to confirm our suspicions of them.
5) Set them realistically
Inexperienced leaders have a nasty habit of offering more than they, or their teams, can give. In doing so, they damage their character, sever relationships with customers, and discourage those they lead. In making exaggerated claims to gain business, they actually lose business in the long run after failing to come through.
Under promise and over deliver. Be sensible about your commitments, and diligently follow through on them. You don't get credit for intentions, only for accomplishment. Set your people up for success by setting aggressive but attainable goals for them.
6) Exceed them consistently
Go above and beyond what others expect from you as a leader. People expect you to be fair, but be generous as well. People expect you to respect them, but show you care for them, too. People expect you to be judicious when you exercise authority, but be willing to serve also. Over time, as you exceed expectations, talented people will flock to your organization. Everyone wants to work for a leader who has his or her best interests in mind and leads with excellence on a consistent basis.

Vision, Connection, & Direction: The Pathway to Effective Communication by John C Maxwell

By communicating a message of hope and significance to his oppressed countrymen in Poland, Pope John Paul II played a lead role in toppling communism in Europe. He affirmed the dignity and humanity of Poles, rallying them to resist communism, while at the same time teaching them to show restraint when confronting the communist authorities. The vision, connection, and direction he conveyed to people in his homeland as they struggled against a repressive regime altered the course of world history.

VISION
When Pope John Paul II spoke, the world listened. A powerful, personal vision gave force to his words. It was a vision birthed in tragedy and refined through years of patient suffering.

As a young man Karol Wojtyla experienced firsthand the horrors of Nazi Germany. As the Nazis swept into Poland, they shut down the university he was attending, executed several of its professors, and carted off many of his Jewish friends. Enduring the cruelties of the German occupation and witnessing the violations of his country fueled Wojtyla's passionate vision of the rights each human ought to have.

In World War II, the Soviet Union "liberated" Poland. In reality, one system of tyranny simply replaced the other. As a young priest and then bishop, Wojtyla learned how to operate under the watchful eye of a restrictive communist government. He carried out his duties within the church boldly yet shrewdly, expanding its influence without provoking official backlash from the government. The experiences shaped his vision, schooling him in the strategies that would later aid him in undermining communism as Pope.

CONNECTION
Pope John Paul II connected to people because he identified with their hopes, their troubles, and their fears. Journalist Neal Ascherton, who accompanied the Pope on his early visits to Poland, marveled at his ability to connect with the audience-even when crowds numbered in the hundreds of thousands. "Each person got the impression the Pope was really speaking to them, that he was exclusively available for them." John Paul II valued people, and since he understood them, he could offer a hopeful message that made them feel significant. His optimistic words stood in stark contrast to the bleak, unpromising future that communism seemed to have in store.

DIRECTION
Soviet-style communism relied upon propaganda, or officially sanctioned lies, to sustain itself. The government manipulated the public debate by controlling the media, and consequently, people were exposed to a steady diet of misinformation. Through time, it became confusing for them to distinguish between reality and fiction.

John Paul II gave the people of Eastern Europe a moral compass to guide them as they navigated life in a communist system. His ideals served as a reference point, helping them to distinguish between right and wrong, truth and farce. Thanks to his position as head of the Catholic Church, the Pope could freely voice ideas that were distasteful to the existing communist authorities without having to fear reprisal.
Even though he inspired people to seek freedom, John Paul II was very subtle in his criticisms of communism. He was careful not to provoke the crushing retaliation of the Soviet military by fomenting a violent revolution. Through the papacy, John Paul II modeled the strategy by which communism would be undone: persistence of belief coupled with patient, restrained resistance.

SUMMARY
To say that one man toppled communism in Europe would be an overstatement, but perhaps nobody contributed more to its demise than Pope John Paul II. His prowess as a communicator allowed him to attain enormous influence within the subjugated nations of the Eastern bloc. By voicing a compelling vision, connecting emotionally with people, and modeling the direction forward, he transformed the political institutions of Europe.

Call Lost: Why Leaders Lose Connection with Those They Lead by John C Maxwell

Wireless technology has forever altered the way we communicate. These days, payphones are practically nonexistent, and landlines seem headed for obsolescence, too. It's hard even to remember how we lived before the advent of the mobile phones.
However, as wonderful as cell phones can be, we have to put up with the nuisance of dropped calls. From time to time, we get cut off in the middle of a sentence or realize that we've spent the last two minutes speaking into nothingness due to a dropped signal. Losing connection can be maddening, especially when it happens during an important conversation.

Leaders, like mobile phone users, experience the occasional frustration of losing connection with those around them. One moment it seems as if everyone is on the same page, and then suddenly there's disconnection. People aren't getting the message. They're unresponsive. And, no matter how loud we shout, they don't hear us. What accounts for leaders losing connection with the people on their teams? Let's examine a few of the causes, staying with the mobile phone analogy.

The Tunnel
When traveling through a tunnel, whether in a car or subway, we often lose connection with those on the other end the call. The thickness of the surrounding walls prevents us from receiving a signal. Until we exit the tunnel, we're unable to communicate successfully.
As leaders, we go through tunnels when we focus exclusively on ourselves. Self-centeredness traps us inside of the walls of own perspective, and isolates from the outside world. We become blind to the needs of those around us and fail to connect with them as a consequence. Only when we move beyond self-interest are we able to gain awareness of the people around us and to interact with them in meaningful ways.

All Circuits Are Busy
Cell phone networks have limited capacity. A high volume of calls happening within a concentrated area can tie up all available circuits. When all circuits are busy, we're inhibited from reaching the person we're trying to call.

We can overload and overwhelm people by bombarding them with information. For a leader, a primary challenge of communication is to simplify the message in a way that's clear and memorable. When it comes to connecting with others, less is more. When we try to say too much, our words become white noise-a constant drone that's heard but not heeded. When we narrow our message, we give it greater force, and we allow people with limited bandwidth to latch onto what's most important.

Limited Coverage Area
Look at a coverage map from Verizon, Sprint, or AT&T, and you'll notice gaps. Even the most robust wireless network has areas without service. Those who find themselves outside of the range of a network miss incoming calls and cannot place calls to anyone else, either.
Every organization has a communication network to disseminate important information. Unfortunately, leaders sometimes fail to consider the coverage gaps that exist in their networks. When this happens, people end up operating from "dead zones." They're out of the loop, kept in the dark about decisions that affect them, and deprived of news that could help them to perform better on the job. Lack of coverage never fails to cause frustration and to hinder coordination between teams and departments.

Barriers
When positioned between the nearest cell phone tower and our location, obstacles like hills, mountains, or skyscrapers block us from transmitting or receiving calls. These barriers are too dense for a signal to penetrate. Of course, the same holds true for the person we're attempting to call. While the space around us may be free of obstacles, their reception may be obstructed.

Unresolved conflict serves as an impenetrable barrier, blocking communication between two people. Until we bring divisive issues out into the open and work through them together, we won't be able to connect with another person. We must learn to express our opinions graciously, and to disagree with others respectfully. Doing so melts away hostility and keeps the channels of communication open in our relationships.

Limited Battery Life
If you're like me, then you occasionally forget to charge your cell phone. Thankfully, our phones beep to alert us that they're running low on power. However, if we ignore the warnings of low battery life, we may suffer a dropped call when the phone shuts down. Until we recharge the battery, the phone is useless.

Everyone fatigues or gets worn out at some point. Usually, we're aware of the warning signs of oncoming exhaustion: irritability, frayed emotions, and heightened stress. When we do not heed the warnings, we impair our ability to connect relationally. Until we rest and recharge, we're touchy and ill-tempered, doing more harm than good on the job.

Unpaid Bills
If you neglect to pay your cell phone bill, eventually your wireless provider will cut off your service. Most people don't deliberately refuse to make payment. They simply have chaotic lives, and paying the phone bill gets forgotten amidst the clutter.

Leaders continually pay the price to communicate effectively. First, leaders put forth effort to learn about the people around them. They study the likes and dislikes of their people, discern what makes them tick, and communicate with them in a relevant manner. Second, leaders invest in relational connection. They spend time demonstrating a genuine care and goodwill toward those they lead. Third, leaders intentionally and purposefully acquire personal growth. They hone their ability to connect by practicing their speaking skills and becoming better listeners.

Always and Forever

As I write, I'll sing this song

for the greatest love I've ever known.

To my heart, you have the only key,

I beg of you, never set me free.

I prayed to God for a love so true

now, I, realize He already knew. 

In time my prayer WAS answered, 

the most wonderful woman

HE BLESSED ME WITH YOU.

What we share feels so right

to say I love you every night.

Wonderful moments shared,

precious memories, still tell me you care.

I see your shadow,

as I lay myself to sleep.

Dreams of you, oh so sweet

in my heart, I will keep.

Look into my heart, my life.

Tell me, what do you see?

can you feel the need, the want, as I

to be your husband, you my wife.

Much joy and happiness you've brought me.

If I had life to live again, I'd want to with you,

my lover, my best friend.

Always and Forever, I'll love you till the end.

Angel of my LIFE

I love you so much that words can't explain
this joy that I have for you.

When I am at the weakest point of my life
you are there encouraging me to run this race
because I am not only cause you are there with me.

You are on my mind day and night.

When we are apart I picture you gracious smile and gentle hug.

I can let my feelings out to you and won't regret it
because no matter what is you are always on my side.

I thank God for sending me someone like you who is precious and loving.

So I can truly say that you are the Angel of My Life!

A Poem for a special someone

You are my inspiration

having you in my life

revived my sleeping devotion

You are indeed a special someone

Loving you gives me hope

to free this misery that I coped

in those times I gave up

You came and I stood up

Never will I forget

how you always cheer me up

every time I’m sad

and for that I’m glad

Whenever I’m lonely

You were there for me

keeping my heart alive

with your every smile

I dedicate this poem to you

to show how much you meant

to me I love you

My special someone

Broken Dreams

I love you more than life itself
But I’m afraid to love.
My heart is like the fragile wings
Of a tiny little dove.

I'm scared to get too close.
I feel that I can't win.
You'll love me for a little while
Then you'll set me free again.

I've lived so long on hopes and dreams
I don't know what to do.
I don't think I can trust my heart,
For it belongs to you.

I know you'll only hurt me
Yet, I still keep running back.
Between the paths of our hearts
There's a worn and beaten track.

You've got my heart held on a string.
It’s breaking right in two.
Enough belongs to me -to hurt-
The rest belongs to you.

I know that somewhere in your heart
There is a place for me.
I just don't know how to find it
And there's no way to make you see.

I can only hope that someday
You'll wake up and you'll find,
That while my heart belongs to yours,
Yours, too, belongs to mine.

Dream

I wish I could describe you

You're nothing but a dream

Leaving me nothing to hold onto

I feel like I could scream

I would sleep forever

Just to dream you again

Oh, can't you come to me

To free me of this pain ?

I'm lying on my bed again

Waiting to fall asleep

To spend another night with you

To explore this ocean deep

I'm back in our world, I'm happy again

I see you there, and you whisk me away

And then like a bird, the time flies by

The morning arrives, much to my dismay

I cry out loud as you fade away

Begging desperately for the night to stay

My eyes open, and I close them again

Hoping to see your face for once, but nay

Again, left with nothing but the thought

That if I were to die and go to the heaven

I'd beg to live a night with you instead

After that, I'd never think of you in vain

If only I could see your face for once

If only I could feel your touch

I'd tell you how much I love you

Is that really asking for too much?

But,Tell Me....

I don't know how many sweet words I have conjured into your mind,
But, tell me, do you remember them all?
Relentless of what you do everyday.

Do all the words remain intact within your mind?
Does it please you when you are unpleased?
And does it intrigue you when you are unreleaved?
I don't know how many words I have conspired within a given line,
But, tell me, have you learned them all?
Regardless of what is written,
Do all the words rhyme within the given line?
Does it inform you when you are uninformed?

And does it excite you when you are forlorned?
I don't know how many words
I have said that I can say is mine,
But, tell me, have you heard them all?

Needless of all that have been said,
Do all the words I bestow upon you signal some sort of sign?
Does it merry you when you are sad?
And does it lecture you when you are bad?
I don't know about others but I think we are just fine,
But, tell me, have you told them all?
Heedless of what we do,
Do you know that I am happy just because you are my Valentine?

Does it delight you that I belong to only you?
And does it move you that my love for you is forever true?

The day sweet Liberty cried

God gazed down from heaven, a tear in His eye,
for His name was what spurred their battle cry.
Filled with grief never known by man,
seeing innocent blood spread upon our land.

An unspeakable strike aimed at our heart,
intended to tear our motherland apart.
Designed to bring our people to their knees,
Instead an angelic chorus was lifted in the breeze.

Although on that day sweet Liberty cried,
no act of terror could break America's pride.
For our souls cannot be bound or contained by fearful chains,
because it is God that breathes the freedom that courses through our veins.

In God We Trust, our young nation used to pray,
but over time were told they were words we could not say.
Even though from Him we drifted apart,
The distance did not change His loving heart.

He promises He can bring good from any pain,
And no man can stop His kingdom's reign.
A country or earthly rulers cannot make us free,
It is only through faith in Him submitted on bended knee.

On that day Sweet Liberty did cry,
But now all her tears have been wiped dry
For evil came to destroy on September Eleven,
But victory will belong to our Father in Heaven.

All hope may waver and evil may have a fleeting role,
But know our loving Father is as always, in control.
So even in this, our darkest and mournful hour,
Splintered we are not, but united in His power.

A Fire Fighter's Poem

Brother when you weep for me
remember that it was meant to be
Lay me down and when you leave
Remember that I'll be at your sleeve

In every dark and choking hall
I'll be there as you slowly crawl
On every roof in driving snow
I'll hold your coat and you will know

In cellars hot with searing heat
At windows where a grate you meet
In closets where young children hide
You know I'll be there at your side

The house from which I now respond
Is overstaffed with heroes gone
Who answered one last bell
Did the job and did it well

As fire fighters we understand
That death's a card dealt in our hand
A card we hope we never play
But one we hold there anyway

That card is something we ignore
As we crawl across a weakened floor
For we know we're the only prayer
For anyone that might be there

So remember as you wipe your tears
The joy I knew throughout the years
At the job I loved to do
I pray that thought will see you through

GOD understands

God understands your sorrow
He sees the falling tear
And whispers "I am with you"
Then falter not, nor fear

He understands your longing
Your deepest grief He shares
Then let Him bear your burden
He understands and cares

God understands your heartache
He knows the bitter pain
O, trust Him in the darkness
You cannot trust in vain

He understands your longing
Your deepest grief He shares
Then let Him bear your burden
He understands and cares

God understands your weakness
He knows the tempter's power
And He will walk beside you
However dark the hour

He understands your longing
Your deepest grief He shares
Then let Him bear your burdens
God understands and cares

A beautiful morning

On a beautiful morning planes went in the air
Bringing along destruction, despair
As the nation turned its eyes to the sky
Wondering why so many had died

As the Towers lay in ruins all around
While ashes and soot covered the ground
The country was shocked and silently stood
Sharing our grief as only we could
Those who did this thought to bring us down

But together, hand in hand, side-by-side, we stood our ground
Although the outcome right now may look pretty grave
We are still the land of the free, the home of the brave
And the one thing we've learned on this darkest of days
Is that NO ONE can take our freedom away

I weep with you America

I weep with you America,
My tears they fall like rain,
Flooding you with My presence,
Offering healing for your pain.

Yes the enemy is raging,
But by far he has not won.
For I'm in this battle with you,
Together, we will overcome.

My children you are soldiers,
In this fight to wipe out sin.
Keep focused on your goal,
Heaven's your eternal prize to win.

Get ready all yea nations,
For My return is near,
To rescue those who love Me,
To a land which knows no fear.

Yes, I, the Lord, am with thee,
I hear your every prayer.
My heart is breaking also,
Your burdens I do share.

Yes, I weep with you America
My tears they fall like rain.
Flooding you with My presence,
Come, seek refuge from your pain.

A tribute to the heroes of September 11th

It's 9 - 1 - 1 and there's a 9 - 1 - 1 dispatching heroes to the scene.
The air is filled with smoke and fire and panic-stricken screams.
Some are called and some are caught and others just rush in
With saving lives their foremost thought our heroes now begin.

In shock, we stop to watch the unthinkable unfold.
But even in the horror, we hear the stories told.
Great accounts of heroes slowly filter through
Of just plain folks resolved to do, whatever they can do.

Some proudly wear the uniforms of air, police and fire.
And some just wear their business suits, some casual attire.
They began the day as Moms and Dads, associates and friends,
As daughters, sons and brothers, off to work again.

Adversity, some say, introduces you to you.
And most don't know they're heroes, until the call comes through.
There's a fire chief who safely leads out several of his men
And knowing more are still inside, goes right back in again.

There's a clergyman who dies while descending from the heights
Because he stops to comfort and give the Last of Rites.
On another floor most have fled but remaining 'til the end
Is a hero at the side of his quadriplegic friend.

Two other heroes fight the clock, undaunted by the danger,
Labor for an hour to help a total stranger
Disabled in a wheel chair that they carry floor by floor
Sixty-eight exhausting flights 'til she's safely out the door.

And what about the fourth plane, United 93.
Already so much terror and more is meant to be.
But sometimes heroes take to flight, like eagles in the air.
These heroes bravely give their lives, that others will be spared.

Just ordinary folks on an extra-ordinary day
These heroes stand the test in extraordinary way.

Beneath the smoke and dust and ash lie the heroes of this land.
Who gave their all, when they heard the call to help their fellow man.
Now with them die heroic tales that never will be known.
God bless these American Heroes that today are summoned home.

In remembrance of the tragedy of 09/11

In remembrance
Pause for a moment
To think of those lost
Of the innocence souls
Who tumbled and stumbled
Without ever knowing why.

In the rush of life
Doing their jobs
Just another day
Was suppose to be just like yesterday
But out of the air
Terror struck

They never had a chance
But heroes were formed
And a nation stood firm.
In remembrance
Pause for a moment
To think of that day
Thinking of all that was lost
And all that was gained
Never letting it be
A forgotten tale.

Be Still My Soul

Be still, my soul, the Lord is on thy side
Bear patiently, the cross of grief or pain
Leave to thy God to order and provide
In every change he faithful will remain
Be still, my soul, thy best, thy heavenly friend
Through thorny ways leads to a joyful end
Be still, my soul, thy God doth undertake
To guide the future as he has the past
Thy hope, thy confidence let nothing shake
All now mysterious shall be bright at last
Be still, my soul, the waves and winds still know
His voice who ruled them while he dwelt below
Be still, my soul, the hour is hastening on
When we shall be forever with the Lord
When disappointment, grief, and fear are gone
Sorrow forgot, love's purest joys restored
Be still, my soul, when change and tears are past
All safe and blessed we shall meet at last

Immortal,Invisible,GOD only wise

Immortal, invisible, God only wise
In light inaccessible, hid from our eyes
Most blessed, most glorious, the Ancient of days
Almighty, victorious, Thy great name we praise
Unresting, unhasting, and silent as night
Nor wanting, nor wasting Thou rulest in might
Thy justice like mountains, high soaring above
Thy clouds which are fountains of goodness and love
To all, life Thou givest - to both great and small
In all life Thou livest, the true life of all

We blossom and flourish as leaves on the tree
And wither and perish - but nought changes Thee
Great Father of glory, pure Father of light
Thine angels adore Thee, all veiling their sight
All praise we would render; O help us to see
'Tis only the splendour of light hideth Thee!

I'm Free

Don't grieve for me for I am now free.
I'm following the path God has laid, you see.
I took His hand when I heard His call.
I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone may stay that way
But I found the peace at the close of the day.

If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joys.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss oh yes!
These things I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow
My life's been full, I savored much;
A loved one's touch.

Perhaps my time seemed all too brief
Don't lengthen it now with endured grief
Lift up your hearts with love and peace,
God wanted me now...He set me free...

Five Ways to Stay Positive in Negativity

It's easy to be positive in a positive environment. It's when things are emotionally draining and negative that you're challenged to behave differently. But you have the opportunity to be the beacon of light for others around you. By your actions and responses, you can demonstrate and teach others how to behave in an appropriate, positive and professional manner.

Positive energy catches on just as quickly as negative energy. Sometimes people are simply stuck in a habit or pattern of behavior and are accustomed to acting a certain way. If the environment is really caustic, then it's what people are used to and may be all they know.

It takes some time and effort as well as a commitment to do something differently to create sustainable change. You must be willing to identify and stop tolerating what's not working, do the right thing even if it's initially unpopular and then teach others to do the same.

Here are five ways you can be a positive force in your workplace:


The First Step Is Awareness

Recognize the negativity around you. Sometimes you can even feel your energy being drained by the words being spoken. If it feels bad or uncomfortable, then it's negative. These feelings are a form of intelligence similar to a tap on the shoulder letting you know something is not right. If you can identify what is happening, you can make good choices about handling it.


It All Starts with You

In what ways are you contributing to the negativity around you? Are you listening to gossip or participating in conversations where the only focus is to denigrate, diminish, or criticize? Language matters. Everything you say has an impact, and when you say something negative, not only does it dishonor the person you're speaking about as well as the person you're speaking with, it makes you feel bad even if you don't realize it. Learn to respect people's humanity and their right to be themselves. Complaining without end does not focus on creating solutions; rather, its impact is only to perpetuate and magnify the problem, wasting everyone's precious time and energy.


Speak Up

Tell the other person how you feel by saying, "This doesn't work for me." It's non-judgmental, since you're making it about you, not them. Also, people often don't realize they are being negative. Point it out in a gentle, caring way: "Do you realize you are complaining?" Just bringing it to their attention can be enough to shift the conversation. Over time, people will learn what they can and cannot discuss with you, and it will stop being an issue. If you say nothing, your silence conveys permission to continue.


Be Constructive, Positive, Meaningful and Beneficial

What is the point or purpose of what you're saying? Is it to hurt or help? And at the end of the conversation, is there an action step to take? Constructive conversations are empowering and leave people a little better off from having participated in them. Become the kind of person who takes your time and words seriously.


Praise and Acknowledge

It's amazing what a few words of praise and acknowledgment can do. You want to be the kind of person people gravitate to because they know they will be uplifted by you, not put down or drained of life-sustaining energy. In short, you want people to feel good after being in your presence.

No matter what is going on around you, you control your inner environment and how you choose to respond to external events and situations. It's your responsibility to become the kind of person you enjoy being and with whom others enjoy being around.

It takes a true leader to walk a path different from the crowd. So when others are negative, stretch your boldness muscles and be positive in spite of what others do or think. It's the only way to create a ripple of change. And if each of us does our part, then slowly but surely, we will make a difference in our work environment and the larger community.

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Ma, Mom, Amma, Mamma

The only GOD you can see,believe me..!




She jumped with joy,
when YOU first stood up
on your tender feet,
YOU grew confident!


She celebrated with happiness
on your first birthday
YOU ate the cake!


She gave YOU sweets,
On your first day to school.
YOU enjoyed the whole!


She bought YOU new clothes,
Instead for herself.
YOU showed off to your friends!



She took you to the doctor,
and did all the possible prayers,
when YOU were sick.
YOU recovered your health!


She quarrelled with her friend,
When YOU fought with her friend`s kid;
to prove YOU innocent& gave up her friend.
YOU cared less for her loss!


She gave YOU her savings,
To buy your bicycle.
YOU rode with pride!


She cooked your favourite food,
On your first day to office.
YOU became independent!


She waited at the door
On your first salary day,
only to seek god`s blessings.
YOU celebrated with your friends!


She blessed your marriage,
For YOU to start a new life.
YOU shared all your love with your spouse!


She is now old and lonely,
still thinking of YOU.
REMEMBER,All that she had,
She gave it to YOU.


She was there,everytime YOU cried,
when YOU were a baby.

Show your love before you feel it is too late..




THINK,for a moment!
How much she has sacrificed for YOU.
The agony & pain she went through all the years.
It was for YOU,only for YOU.

Give her your time,a bit of your love
for that is all she desires.
Tell her that you love her and care for her too.

She`s with YOU,no matter where YOU are...!

If he can do it why can't we

Imagine a person from rural Karnataka walking bare foot to school. He gets admission into a new military school just opened nearby and went into the army. After six-seven years, he felt constrained, quit and with PF of Rs 6000 came back to the village to find the whole village submerged because of the dam being built. The land allotted as compensation is barren and several miles away. He bought his relatives land with his PF money as down payment. He opened a silkworm farming with great financial and physical difficulties and made it a success.

He was playing squash with a fellow friend who was unemployed and was a pilot. He was shocked to know that this pilot friend has taken the job as a security in charge. Then he thought of operating a helicopter to connect remote places. Nobody was willing to finance him till he convinced a Japanese lease company to finance a helicopter. The Japanese company backtracked when Vajpayee government fell after 13 days.

Every success in whatever field starts from a few hundred grams of mass sitting on our shoulders called mind. It is like a muscle use it or it will wither.

The Asian currency melt down had a lot of helicopters idle/grounded in Malaysia. He again convinced the same Japanese MD to lend one helicopter and started the aviation firm. And thus followed his dream of connecting remote places and enabling common man to fly.

His name if you have not guessed it is Captain Gopinath- founder of Air Deccan.



A mind troubled by doubts cannot focus on the path to success.

One Day At A Time

Putting other people first, it's easy to let your own thoughts and feelings go unexpressed and place your own dreams on hold. But you wouldn't ignore or neglect anyone else---why do that to yourself? What's on your mind counts. What's in your heart matters. And your dreams deserve your attention.

Remember, you're not just a supporting actress/actor in your life---you're the star!


Take one day at a time...and feel great weekly!

1. Dreams are like sunshine. They light up your days.
2. Optimism gives success a head start!
3. Love life and it loves you back.
4. Why would you want to be anybody but yourself? There's nobody
more special!
5. Worrying never got anybody anywhere!
6. A kind word is like a flower in bloom. Plant some more!
7. The world needs more people like you

Talk by Dr APJ Abdul Kalam - Power of positive talk

I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.
One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.
My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did… fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image.In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.
My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.
Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.
The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."
People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.
My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.

These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.
Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.

So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Ø Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"
Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"
Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.
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How To Avoid 25 Acts of Body Language

Our body language exhibits far more information about how we feel than it is possible to articulate verbally. All of the physical gestures we make are subconsciously interpreted by others. This can work for or against us depending on the kind of body language we use. Some gestures project a very positive message, while others do nothing but set a negative tone. Most people are totally oblivious to their own body language, so the discipline of controlling these gestures can be quite challenging. Most of them are reflexive in nature, automatically matching up to what our minds are thinking at any given moment. Nevertheless, with the right information and a little practice, we can train ourselves to overcome most of our negative body language habits. Practice avoiding these 25 negative gestures:

1. Holding Objects in Front of Your Body – a coffee cup, notebook, hand bag, etc. Holding objects in front of your body indicates shyness and resistance, such that you’re hiding behind the objects in an effort to separate yourself from others. Instead of carrying objects in front of you, carry them at your side whenever possible.

2. Checking the Time or Inspecting Your Fingernails – a strong sign of boredom. Never glance at the time when you’re speaking with someone. Likewise, completely avoid the act of inspecting your fingernails.

3. Picking Lint Off of Your Clothes – If you pick lint off of your clothes during a conversation, especially in conjunction with looking downwards, most people will assume that you disapprove of their ideas and/or feel uneasy about giving them an honest opinion. Leave the lint alone!

4. Stroking Your Chin While Looking at Someone – “I’m judging you!” People frequently stroke their chin during the decision-making process. If you look at someone while you’re stroking your chin, they may assume that you’re making a judgmental decision about them.

5. Narrowing Your Eyes – If you want to give someone the impression that you don’t like them (or their ideas), narrow your eyes while looking at them. It immediately places a scowling expression on your face. A slight narrowing of the eyes is an instinctual, universal expression of anger across various species in the animal kingdom (think about the angry expressions of tigers, dogs, etc.). Some people make the mistake of narrowing their eyes during a conversation as a reflex of thinking. Don’t send people the wrong message… don’t narrow your eyes.

6. Standing Too Close – This just makes people feel uncomfortable. Most people consider the 4 square feet of space immediately surrounding their body to be personal space. Cross this invisible boundary with good friends and intimate mates only.

7. Looking Down While in the Presence of Others – usually indicates disinterest. Sometimes it’s even interpreted as a casual sign of arrogance. Always look straight ahead and make eye contact when you see someone you know.

8. Touching Your Face During a Conversation – Face touching, especially on the nose, is commonly interpreted as an indication of deception. Also, covering up the mouth is a common gesture people make when they’re lying. Always keep your hands away from your face when you’re speaking.

9. Faking a Smile – another sign of deception commonly seen on the face of a fraud. A genuine smile wrinkles the corners of the eyes and changes the expression of the entire face. Fake smiles only involve the mouth and lips. It’s easy to distinguish between the two. Don’t force yourself to smile… unless it’s for the camera.

10. Leaning Away From Someone You Like – a sign of being bored and disinterested. Some people may also interpret it to mean: “I don’t like you.” People typically lean towards people they like and away from people they dislike. This is especially true when they are sitting around a table. If you lean away from someone you like, you’re sending them the wrong message.

11. Resting Hands Behind the Head or on the Hips – usually interpreted as a sign of superiority or bigheadedness. Only use these gestures when you’re in the presence of close friends.

12. Not Directly Facing the Person You’re Speaking To – This indicates a certain level of discomfort or a lack of interest. When we’re happily engaged in a conversation we face the person we’re speaking to with our feet and torso facing directly forward. When we’re unsure of the other person, or not completely committed to the conversation, we tend to angle our feet and torso to the side. Face directly forward during a conversation to give off the impression that you’re truly interested in what the other person is saying.

13. Crossing Your Arms – a sign of defensive resistance. Some people may also interpret it as a sign of egotism. Always try to keep your arms open and at your sides.

14. Displaying a Sluggish Posture – When you’re in an environment bustling with people your posture becomes an immediate telltale sign of your confidence and composure. Your stance literally makes a stand for you, delivering a clear message about how you should be treated. It can make a huge difference in the way strangers respond to you. Place your feet a comfortable distance apart, keep your shoulders pulled back, head up and greet people with direct eye contact and a firm handshake.

15. Scratching at the Backside of Your Head and Neck – a typical sign of doubt and uncertainty. It can also be interpreted as an indication of lying. Try to keep your hands away from your head when you’re communicating with others.

16. Messing With the Collar of Your Shirt – It screams: “I feel horribly uncomfortable and/or nervous!” Once again, keep track of your hands. Don’t fidget.

17. Increasing Your Rate of Blinking – a clear sign of anxiety. Some people start blinking their eyes really fast (in conjunction with an increased heart rate) when they get nervous. Since most people try to make eye contact, it becomes immediately obvious to others. Be cognizant of your blinking habits when you’re nervous, especially if someone is looking at you from a close proximity.

18. Slouching Your Shoulders – indicates low self-esteem. People associate perked-up shoulders with strong self-confidence. Always pull your shoulders back. Not only will you look more confident, you’ll feel more confident as well.

19. Standing with Your Hands Crossed Over Your Genitals – This casual posture almost guarantees that you’ll lose a little respect before you even have the chance to speak a single word. People feeling nervous or unsure of themselves will unconsciously take a guarded stance. Quite frequently they adopt a posture that guards one of their most vulnerable areas, their genitals. This stance pushes your shoulders forward and makes your entire body look smaller and weaker. Again, try to keep your hands at your sides and your shoulders back.

20. Propping Up Your Head with Your Hands – “I’m getting bored!” Never prop up your head with your elbows and hands during a conversation. Place your hands on the table in front of you and keep them at rest.

21. Wiping Sweaty Hands onto Your Clothes – a sign of frantic nervousness. If your hands are sweating, just let them sweat. Take a few deep breaths and try to relax.

22. Sitting on the Edge of Your Chair – a clear indication of being mentally and physically uncomfortable. It’s an apprehensive stance that will make others around you feel uncomfortable as well. Keep your rear end firmly planted on the surface of the seat. When you lean forward, use your back without moving your bottom.

23. Foot and Finger Tapping – usually indicates stress, impatience or boredom. Monitor your habits and practice keeping your limbs at rest.

24. Using Your Hands to Fidget with Small Objects – a pen, paper ball, etc. This is another sign of anxiety. It can also be interpreted as a lack of preparedness. It’s always best to keep your hands comfortably at rest when you’re in the presence of others.

25. Repeatedly Shifting Body Weight from Foot to Foot – This is another gesture that usually indicates mental and physical discomfort. People may also see this and assume that you’re ready to abandon the conversation, especially if you’re not directly facing them. Don’t shift your feet around more than once every 2 to 3 minutes.

Lost

Fragile and lost
Amidst waves on the ocean
We meet in dreams.

Somewhere
In the distance
Washed onto heartless rocks
Our dreams scorch.

In the twilight
Of the setting sun
Our hearts stop to ask
Can we meet?
We part in strange silence.
Our dream remains a dream.

- Jennifer Marie Bayer

Friends on my way

I have a list of folks I know all written in a book,
And every now and then, I go and take a look.

That is when I realize these names they are a part,
not of the book they're written in, but taken from the heart.

For each name stands for someone who has crossed my path sometime,
and in that meeting they have become, the reason and the rhyme.

Although you're not aware of any special link,
just knowing you, has shaped my life more than you could think.


So please don't think my greeting as just a mere routine,
your name was not added by chance in between.

For when I send a greeting that is addressed to you,
it is because you're on the list of folks I'm indebted to.

So whether I have known you for many days or few,
in some ways you have a part in shaping things I do.

I am but a total of many folks I've met,
you are a friend I would prefer never to forget


- Neicha

Mind Management

It is very difficulty for anybody to manage his mind properly without any disturbance and disruption of mental processes. Mind Management is one of the techniques to keep our mind on sound lines and to have sound and positive thoughts. Managing the mind is not so easy task as it requires constant watch, patience, tolerance, endurance, persistence, serenity, determination, diligence, and meticulousness. In the first instance, one has to have a capacity to keep his mind in hands without giving to anybody else. If your mind is disturbed by any body, you cannot think properly and precisely. Freshness of mind is always maintained and continued throughout the day.

For instance, a day started with you with freshness of mind with clarity, cleanliness, and tidiness, to begin work of your importance. When a person approaches you to say something about any personal matter or so, and you being a gentle man, have a courtesy talk with him a while, may perhaps leads to a strong conversation and un-necessary arguments on something which you do not have any connection, the moment you raised to an occasion with angry mood. Immediately, your mind loose control on yourself and land it in the hands of the other person. The entire day will be a non-sense for you to go further and always your mind tickles with un-necessary and un-wanted thoughts which give you mental disturbance. You are not in a position to reconcile yourself about the situation where you landed unwittingly and un-knowingly giving un-necessary mental struggle to your mind. It is not in your hands to take back your mind which was already rested in the hands of other stranger for not fault of yours, for simple reason of casual contact in a routine way. Here you exactly need a systematic managerial trick to make your mind to put it in proper track or to restore it to its original place. The freshness and purity of the mind remains to be same for a long, by means of our intellectual thoughts, innovative ideas, and positive impressions. This is what we need the management of mental process or Mind management.

It is a general phenomenon; many officials either carry their disturbed mind to the homes or else bring their minds with problematic issues from home to work place. It is not a healthy practice. If your problematic issues kept in mind and carried as it is from home to work place, you are in a position of distraction and cannot function well in your duties. So also the same case when you carried your disturbed mind from office to home where your family members have to face the music of your tunes. Here the Mind management requires your attention to do something to carry freshness of mind always from home to office or vice versa. It is in our hands to regulate our mind to get rid of the evil thoughts once you leave the steps of your office and feel free to attend to your domestic needs with joy and beauty. Mind is always within our control and hears all our instructions from time to time, but the thing is that we don’t give any instructions to our mind; rather we receive instructions from our mind. If you tend to give some directions/instructions to your mind, it will always be fresh, free and fair.

Though it is difficult, keeping our mind under freshness always is the need of the hour. No doubt there are many hurdles to disturb the mental peace in every point of time, but it is our accomplishment to make our mind to keep in right track always without giving room for its side-tracking. Minute to minute or hour to hour, some of the elements in the shape of contacts, communications, relations, references, re-calls, might take its own course of play in routine manner to meet the mental imbalances, and make us to feel unhappy over the situations several times, un-knowingly, leaving our patience to its fate. If rightly pointed out, it is the best practice and way to take the tasks to regulate our mental balance to go in a proper way to find out good results. For each and every action to be taken in this connection, should be related to the mental obligations and related processes, with a view to take the entire mental power into our hands to manage the organizational elements in the mind. Constant and prolonged thinking, imbalanced nature of thoughts in one’s own mind is really harmful not only to the health but also to the personal feelings.

Controlling the mind from time to time is very important to manage the mind. If we do not control our mind, there is no question of Mind management. Mind management is possible only when the mental processes are under the control of one’s own hands. Presence of mind, application of mind, and utilization of mind on proper lines, is necessary to regulate the mental imbalances. Mental disturbances, mental strain, mental fatigue some times kills our anxiety, enthusiasm, initiative and makes us dull every time. We should be very cautious to find out the circumstances, environmental relations, and situations to make our mind fresh and tidy .Transmission of mental thoughts is one of the parameter to skip up from the un-necessary moments of thoughts and to divert our mind towards the convenient places of thought and keep it in safe place to receive positive environment and thought. Mind is such a sensitive component to act upon several occasions to meet its requirements and make us feel happy. Happy environment is always keeping our mind in sound health lines. Creating happy environment is also one of the objectives of every individual wherever he sits, works, sustains, for better communication, interaction, introspection, and inter-personal relations. The detailed mental examination of our own feelings, thoughts, and motives, paves the way for proper mind management. Introspection is the better element to evacuate all evil thought from our mind from time to time. It is nothing but one of the mechanisms for management of mind.

No doubt, mind can be cleaned by means of meditation, devotion, dhyana, prayer and other spiritual activities preached by greatest Saints and Psychologists. It is not out of place to mention here that it is not so difficult for every body to manage his mind in his day to day activities to set right the imbalances in his mind by means of his actions and reactions at right time and right place. It is in our hands to regulate our mind. Freshness of mind is always possible for balance of thoughts and positive feelings. Diversification of mental thoughts from negative sector to positive sector is always essential to keep up our mind in tact so that freshness of mind is possible at all times to derive mental health. Managing the mind just like other managerial activities in our daily walk of life, is an important task for any individual either he is a professional, student, ordinary employee or an expert, for better way of life and prosperity .