10 Rules for 'Taking back to Life'

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

1.Challenge yourself to use every 'bad' thing in your life as a new beginning.

2.Find the 'good' in everything that you can.

3.Don't expect the good things to be readily apparent. It may take a few days, weeks or even months before you finally see them.

4.Allow yourself to realize your true power. This doesn't mean pushing people around, but looking for your hidden skills.

5.Talk to yourself. Talking to yourself is a very powerful tool to use and it can help you increase your motivation and your ability to stick to a task.

6.Stop expecting others to solve your problems. Even if you lost your job, it's an opportunity to look in a new direction, to acquire a new skill and to blaze a more pleasurable path in life.

7.Throw out that 'yes, but' expression from your life. It's just a way of keeping yourself stuck in the mud.

8.Take a good hard look at what you'd really like in life and sit down and begin making a list that outlines the steps you need to take. Not everyone needs to go to college to be happy. Find out where your happiness lies, if you don't want to go back to school. Abraham Lincoln did just fine with his self-learning plan.

9.Beware of the negative people in your life. Pointing out the problems is fine, but some people only see doom and gloom and they can't be very helpful, unless you find that helpful.

10.Remember that every road has unexpected turns and that any plan must be one that allows for some give and take. If there's one word for your plan to take back your life, let it be 'flexible' and go from there.

7 ways to find time for fitness

The reason it's so hard to get, and stay, in great shape is because we are all just so incredibly busy. We've got work, friends, family, etc., etc. Every single day there is so much to do -- so much going on! Obviously, those who are successful at transforming their health and maintaining good physical fitness have a lot less going on in their lives than we do, right?

Well, as much as we might like to believe a lack of time is what's preventing us from building a lean, strong, healthy, body, the truth is, that isn't the case. Believe it or not, people who are successful (and I mean remarkably successful in this endeavor) have exactly 24 hours in every day, just like you and I do.

Yes…I know…sometimes it's hard to believe, but it's a fact -- there's not a single person on the planet who has figured out how to make a day longer than 1,440 minutes. And, in reality, folks who experience extraordinary success in the area of health and fitness are usually just as busy as we are -- their lives are hectic; they have careers, families, friends, and obligations; and unexpected obstacles and problems pop up in their lives as well.

So why does it so often feel like we don't have time to eat right and exercise? I've been forced to ponder that query often because it is by far and away the most popular excuse given for why so many people "can't" make a commitment to building a better body.

So what's the answer? Well, some say "not having enough time to exercise" is simply a cop out for people who are lazy and don't really want to look or feel better. But, after having the opportunity to work with thousands of people over the years who really want to get in great shape and are some of the hardest working people I've ever met; I don't think "laziness" is the primary culprit here. I've discovered most people simply don't understand how to "create time," and, therefore, they've bought into the "perception" that they are too busy. (Remember, perception can become reality) Most people just don't understand how possible it is to find the time to invest in building a healthy, energized body.

The great news is, we all have time to make regular exercise and good nutrition part of our lifestyles. Here's seven surefire techniques you can use (starting today!) to find time to get in, and stay in, great shape. These relatively simple (but so overlooked) tips for finding loads of time you didn't even know you had will allow you to fit in workouts on a regular basis, follow a precise nutrition program, and even free up time for active rest and more fun, which is good for the body and mind!

Before we get to the list, I want to remind you that to build a healthy body, you really don't need more than four hours of exercise a week. Think about it -- that's only 2.3% of the time you have to work with each week! That's not a huge investment of time by any stretch of the imagination! And, those who think following a proper nutrition program is time consuming have got it all wrong -- the fact is, "Eating right" doesn't cost you time, it saves you time!

Okay…here are my 7 ways to find time for fitness!

Tip #1: WATCH LESS TV

Although watching television can be a great way to unwind after a hectic day, laugh out loud, or even learn something new, it is, generally, the biggest time vampire in modern society. The average American spends 30 hours a week watching TV (and people say they can't even find 4 hours a week to exercise!). For the most part, most people are completely "indifferent" about what they watch on the boob tube. Most sitcoms don't present interesting situations nor good comedy, and the vast majority of news broadcasts are comprised of reports that are absolutely irrelevant to the majority of us.

What TV actually does is hypnotize you -- think about what you look like when you're sitting there on the couch watching TV: you're literally staring off into space, thinking about nothing, accomplishing nothing, and being nothing. Now, you don't have to give up television altogether to find extra time you can use to accomplish much more productive things, like building a fantastic physique. Just use discretion! Every time you turn on the TV, ask yourself, "Could this time be better spent doing something else?" Most of the time, the answer will be, "Yes!"

Tip #2: PLAN AHEAD!

One of the best (and simplest) time-saving techniques I've discovered is to plan your day ahead of time. For example, make a "Major Outcome Activity" list each night. Write down the things you know you need to accomplish the next day which matter -- things that produce a "major outcome." Include working out, taking your supplements, and eating when you're supposed to on this list. Then, keep your list with you throughout the day and "check off" items as you complete them. If you have no idea what you're going to do tomorrow until tomorrow comes, you waste a lot of time reacting, adjusting, and trying to figure out what to do, when to do it, or how to do it. But, when you plan ahead, you can eliminate a lot of unnecessary problems, and you'll be amazed at how smoothly things go. Of course, you can't plan everything, but by scheduling your day, which takes only a few minutes, you can easily pick up an hour a day (if not more!).

Tip #3: EXERCISE REGULARLY!

This is a great example of the "perceived problem" being the "ultimate solution." You see, those who believe they don't have time to exercise because they are so darn busy actually don't have time to not exercise! Let me explain…

It's a scientifically proven fact that the right amount of exercise gives you more energy! (Now remember, if you exercise too much, you can actually end up run down and burned out! A good, brief, intense weight-training workout should stimulate your muscles, not annihilate them!) When you have more energy, you get more things done, faster!

If you're anything like me, you've experienced days when you just can't seem to get anything done. Projects that should be taking you an hour to complete end up taking all day! Low energy is an epidemic in our society, but the good news is, exercise is part of the cure! Not only does exercise help give you more energy, it has also been scientifically proven to improve the quality of sleep, which means when you hit the sack, you'll have less difficulty arriving at destination dreamland, and you'll wake up with a renewed sense of power.

Believe me on this one, folks -- I've learned the hard way if you're trying to save time by skipping workouts, hoping you'll get more work done, you're making a colossal mistake! Do not, under any circumstances, skip workouts in an effort to save time. This "quasi solution" will backfire; I guarantee it! When you work out regularly, you'll not only have more energy but also greater self-confidence, a higher level of "certainty," and you'll just, quite simply, be more effective at everything you do! Investing three or four hours a week in rigorous exercise will yield "double dividends" -- you'll get "paid back" with an extra six to eight hours a week!

Tip #4: CONSUME A NUTRITIOUS DIET!

Another excuse I hear frequently from people who can't get in shape is they don't have time to "eat right." The fact is, today, "eating right" is a lot easier than it used to be. Thanks to modern advances in nutritional science, a healthy, high-protein, nutrient-rich, low-fat meal can be consumed in the form of a meal-replacement shake (the better ones taste like milk shakes) or convenient nutrition bars (that taste almost as good as candy bars).

When you provide your body with a constant supply of the nutrients it needs to stay healthy and strong, you have consistent energy throughout the day. (You can avoid those midafternoon slumps and "premature fatigue.") Once again, as is the case with regular exercise, adhering to a proper nutrition program saves time -- it doesn't rob you of time!

It really doesn't take a lot of time to follow a proper bodybuilding nutrition program; in fact, I probably spend less time each day preparing and consuming my five or six healthy, nutrient-rich meals than millions of people do sitting around in restaurants waiting to be served just one high-calorie, low-nutrient meal. (By the way, if you eat out at restaurants more than a couple times a week, there's a great place to eliminate some "mega empty time" and convert it to "power time," which you can put to good use!)

Tip #5: ELIMINATE MINDLESS PHONE CHITCHAT!

Pressed for time? Well, get off the phone! In any given day, most people blow at least an hour on irrelevant phone chitchat. This is especially true in the business world. I will do almost anything to avoid phone conversations -- I do the vast majority of my business communication with faxes and memos. Through this strategy, I'm able to get right to the point. You just put it down on paper and ink, and it's done.

Personal phone conversations (like most business calls) are almost as bad as TV -- they're just something most people do to stay comfortable -- to stay occupied or feel busy.

If you insist on spending time on the phone, do so only while you walk on a treadmill or ride a stationary bike -- at least you'll be accomplishing something productive. Alternatively, keep a timer by your phone and set it for five minutes. When the timer goes off, your call time is over. It's simple but remarkably effective. Try it.

Oh… and for those of you who think your relatives and friends "need" you to call them every day to "stay in touch," remember this -- nothing has more impact than sincere, appreciative, written words. One card or letter a week and one phone call will be significantly more appreciated and have more impact than "daily calls." (Caution: Mothers excluded -- you talk to your mom whenever she wants, got that?!)

Tip #6: HAVE A SENSE OF URGENCY!

Some people do things so damn slowly it drives me crazy! If they just picked up the pace a bit (or a lot) and pushed themselves -- if they approached each task with a sense of urgency, they would be remarkably more efficient at everything and could free up at least an hour a day.

An analogy you might be able to relate to is the way football teams perform the last two minutes of the first half (after the two-minute warning) or at the end of a game. All of a sudden, everything becomes "ultra urgent," and the next thing you know, they're moving up and down the field -- piling up yardage and points at a rate significantly greater than what they did the rest of the game. (That's the "pace" you should keep all day!)

Try approaching your tasks in the business world (or in school or at home) with a sense of urgency -- with an "I must get it done as fast and efficiently as possible" attitude -- and you'll storm through projects with greater expediency than you thought possible! Heck… if you apply this principle, you might just get a promotion at work, or if you own your own business, it's a surefire formula for increasing profits!

Tip #7: DON'T GET SICK!

Okay, now I'm just being completely unrealistic, right? Not hardly! The fact is, if you won't make the time to be well, you'll be forced to make the time to be sick!

By incorporating exercise, proper nutrition, and the regular use of supplements into your lifestyle, you can significantly improve your health. Applying this "tip" has allowed me to not miss a day of work for an illness-related reason (knock on wood) in eight years, which is good because I don't have time to get sick!

If you try to "cut corners" in any of these areas, in hopes of freeing up time, your efforts will backfire, and you'll find yourself down for the count. Nothing is more counterproductive than spending two days in bed, sick with the flu or some avoidable, sub-clinical virus that's making its way around the office or gym!

CONCLUSION

As you can clearly see, the all-too-common excuse, "I don't have time to get in shape right now…" is simply a misperception, not a reality. What thousands of people have discovered is that by being very conscious about how they spend their time, they're able to get more done, faster; look and feel better; and even enjoy life more! And, as an added bonus, they don't have to waste time feeling guilty or making excuses for why they don't work out and eat right -- that, in and of itself, could free up a few hours a week for some folks!

All right, now you know what to do to find time -- apply these tips, and you'll be amazed how much they can change your life for the better!

5 Ways to Handle Crisis

Stress is all around us, and sometimes those little fissures boil over into real dilemmas. Here are five ways you can handle the curves life throws at you with composure and grace.

1. Don't become part of the problem.
Concentrate on the worthwhile things in your life that can be turned around. Focus on answers and solutions.

2. Remain committed to creating a new life for yourself.
Even through the darkest and most depressing times, wake up each morning determined to stay the course for as long as it lasts. Keep your heart and mind completely on track. Either swim toward solutions or sink and lose everything.

3. Allow the experience to open you up to what you need to learn.
Every situation is an education. Learn that if you open your mind to the voices of others, you will open your life to receiving your good.

4. Engage in acts of selflessness.
Even if it seems insignificant, devote yourself to giving. Many of us have been blessed with benefits both immeasurable and incredible. Establish yourself in a community of people who will come to your aid when you need them.

5. Aim at responsibility, honesty, and integrity at all times.
We are all part of the whole, and however we act determines what we receive. There is a law of cause and effect, and what we express comes back to us faithfully.

Winner Vs Loser

Winners have dreams;
Losers have schemes.

Winners see the gains;
Losers see the pain.

Winners see the potential;
Losers see the past.

Winners make it happen;
Losers let it happen.

Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems.

Winners makes commitments;
Losers makes promises.

Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.

Winner always has a programme;
Loser always has an excuse.

Winner says "Let me do it for you";
Loser says "That is not my job".

Winners say "I must do something";
Losers say "Something must be done".

Winner is always a part of the answer;
Loser is always a part of the problem.

Winner sees an answer for every problem;
Loser sees a problem for every answer.

Winners believe in win/win;
Loser believe for them to win, someone has to lose.

Winner says "It may be difficult but it is possible";
Loser says "It may be possible but it is too difficult".

Winner makes a mistake. he says "I was wrong";
Loser makes a mistake, he says "It wasn't my fault".

So…Try toBe a Winner …Always

The Zen of Self Management

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

You are responsible for everything that happens in your life. Learn to accept total responsibility for yourself. If you do not manage yourself, then you are letting others have control of your Life. These tips will help "you" manage "you."

Here is a list of things that help you in self management and which will in turn lead you to the path of success: -

1. Look at every new opportunity as an exciting and new-life experience.
2. Be a professional who exhibits self-confidence and self-assurance in your potential to complete any task.
3. Agree with yourself in advance that you will have a good attitude toward the upcoming task.
4. Frequently ask, "Is what I am doing right now moving me toward my goals?"
5. Do it right the first time and you will not have to take time later to fix it.
6. Accept responsibility for your job successes and failures. Do not look for a scapegoat.
7. Do not view things you do as a "job." View all activities as a challenge.
8. Use your subconscious mind by telling it to do what you do want. Instead of telling yourself, "I can't do that very well," say, "I can do this very well."Give yourself points for completing tasks on your "to-do" list in priority order. When you reach 10 points, reward yourself.
9. Practice your personal beliefs. It may be helpful each morning to take 15 minutes to gather your thoughts and say a prayer.
10. Make a commitment to show someone a specific accomplishment on a certain date. The added urgency will help you feel motivated to have it done.
11. Practice self-determination, wanting to do it for yourself.
12. Believe that you can be what you want to be.
13. Never criticize yourself as having a weakness. There is no such thing. You are only talking about a present undeveloped skill or part of yourself that if you so chose, you can change. You do not have any weakness, only untapped potential.
14. Be pleasant all the time-no matter what the situation.
15. Challenge yourself to do things differently than you have in the past. It provides new ideas and keeps you interested.
16. Talk to yourself. A self-talk using positive affirmation is something that is common among all great achievers. They convince themselves that they can accomplish their goals.
17. Create your own "motivation board" by putting up notes of things you need to do on a bulletin board or special wall space. It is an easily visible way to see what you need to work on. When an item is done, remove the note. Also keep your goals listed and pictured on your board.
18. Stay interested in what you are doing. Keep looking for what is interesting in your work. Change your perspective and look at it as someone outside your job would,
19. Establish personal incentives and rewards to help maintain your own high enthusiasm and performance level.

Napoleon Hill

Oliver Napoleon Hill was born to a poor family in 1883. He fought his way out of his backwoods Virginia town with a burning desire to be successful. He was always searching for ways to improve himself and was involved in numerous ventures, including managing a coal-mine, practicing law, and becoming a business journalist. His big break came when he had the opportunity of meeting Andrew Carnegie, the "Steel King". Andrew Carnegie asked Napoleon Hill if he would take up the challenge of devoting 20 years of his life in order to prepare a formula of success for helping others to become successful. Andrew Carnegie would provide him with letters of reference to meet hundreds of successful people in the likes of Woodrow Wilson, Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Theodore Roosevelt, John D. Rockefeller, to name a few. Napoleon Hill made his decision to take up the challenge in less than 60 seconds. Later he came to know that Andrew Carnegie had given him 60 seconds to make up his mind, failing which he would have lost his chance of undertaking the important assignment. After 20 years of dedicated research in 1937 he came out with his best seller, "Think And Grow Rich", which has helped countless of people around the world to achieve success. One of his famous saying was, "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve".

SUCCESS PRINCIPLES

Successful people make up their mind fast, but are slow at changing their mind once they make their decision. On the other hand those who are not too successful tend to be slow at making up their mind and quick to change after the decision is made. In actual fact most people do not make their own decisions at all, because their decisions are made for them or influenced by others. It is also true that whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve. The key word here is "believe".

MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE

"When you can do the common things of life in an uncommon way you will command the attention of the world."

This story is about the greatest personal development guru of all time - Napoleon Hill.

The Rainbow

Once upon a time the colors of the world started to quarrel. All claimed that they were the best. The most important. The most useful. The favorite.
Green said:
"Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and of hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would die. Look over the countryside and you will see that I am in the majority."
Blue interrupted:
"You only think about the earth, but consider the sky and the sea. It is the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. The sky gives space and peace and serenity. Without my peace, you would all be nothing."
Yellow chuckled:
"You are all so serious. I bring laughter, gaiety, and warmth into the world. The sun is yellow, the moon is yellow, the stars are yellow. Every time you look at a sunflower, the whole world starts to smile. Without me there would be no fun."
Orange started next to blow her trumpet:
"I am the color of health and strength. I may be scarce, but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. I carry the most important vitamins. Think of carrots, pumpkins, oranges, mangoes, and papayas. I don't hang around all the time, but when I fill the sky at sunrise or sunset, my beauty is so striking that no one gives another thought to any of you."
Red could stand it no longer he shouted out:
"I am the ruler of all of you. I am blood - life's blood! I am the color of danger and of bravery. I am willing to fight for a cause. I bring fire into the blood. Without me, the earth would be as empty as the moon. I am the color of passion and of love, the red rose, the poinsettia and the poppy."
Purple rose up to her full height:
She was very tall and spoke with great pomp: "I am the color of royalty and power. Kings, chiefs, and bishops have always chosen me for I am the sign of authority and wisdom. People do not question me! They listen and obey."
Finally Indigo spoke, much more quietly than all the others, but with just as much determination:
"Think of me. I am the color of silence. You hardly notice me, but without me you all become superficial. I represent thought and reflection, twilight and deep water. You need me for balance and contrast, for prayer and inner peace."
And so the colors went on boasting, each convinced of his or her own superiority. Their quarreling became louder and louder. Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightening thunder rolled and boomed. Rain started to pour down relentlessly. The colors crouched down in fear, drawing close to one another for comfort.
In the midst of the clamor, Rain began to speak: "You foolish colors, fighting amongst yourselves, each trying to dominate the rest. Don't you know that you were each made for a special purpose, unique and different? Join hands with one another and come to me."
Doing as they were told, the colors united and joined hands.
The Rain continued:
"From now on, when it rains, each of you will stretch across the sky in a great bow of color as a reminder that you can all live in peace. The Rainbow is a sign of hope for tomorrow."
“And so, whenever a good rain washes the world, and a Rainbow appears in the sky, let us remember to appreciate one another, different though we are.”

5 Reasons you must start Yoga and/or Meditation

1. Yoga and meditation will improve your health
Yoga postures put gentle pressure on the internal organs of the body and help them to function properly. In particular the postures help your digestive system to work smoothly and thus avoid problems such as constipation, acidity and indigestion, which are common conditions that can lead to more serious problems later on. Meditation and deep relaxation can be just what you need to lower your blood pressure. Thus, yoga postures plus meditation is a great combination for maintaining and improving health.

2. Yoga and meditation will help you to overcome bad habits
What’s a “bad habit?” It’s something that you are doing continually, and something that you know is harming you but you can’t stop it. Are you smoking now? Maybe you thought it was good when you started, but you would now like to stop. The trouble is that it is not so easy to quit smoking or a similar habit once it has become established.

This is where yoga and meditation can help you out. The yoga postures help you to become more relaxed and mentally balanced. Meditation can help you to concentrate your mind and build up your will-power. Once you become internally balanced and have a stronger will power, it will become possible for you to break any habit, even one that you have been troubled by for many years.

3. Yoga and meditation will help you to lose weight
Obesity is one of the biggest health problems of the modern era. Our lives have become more sedentary and our food sources have changed over the last 100 years and this why many adults and even children are now overweight.

Although this is a life-style problem, it is something that can be dealt with. The surest way to lose weight is to get more exercise and to control what you are eating. This is of course, easier said than done. But yoga and meditation can help you out. There are some yoga postures that are helpful in weight loss programs. Similarly, the mental strength that you can get from both yoga postures and from meditation can help you to gain a better control over your diet and this can result in healthy and permanent weight loss.

4. Yoga and meditation will bring you inner peace
You may be earning a lot of money and you may have a lot of social prestige but is physical or social wealth the goal of your life? Whatever material or social wealth you have, if you are not contented, satisfied and at peace with yourself then you will not be a happy person.
The goal of meditation is to help you find the inner core of your being. Who are you? Is it the name and address on your identity card? If you start meditating you will find that deep within you is a pool of infinite love and peace. This is the real you. If you can reach this place, then you will find peace and contentment; it is guaranteed!

5. Yoga and meditation will make you a wiser person
Every one of us has made mistakes that we regret. There is nothing we can do about the past. We can’t go back in time and not make the mistakes. But what we can do is to build up our capacity to see what has permanent value and what is transitory. When we attain this state of discrimination, then we will not do actions that we will regret later on.

Meditation helps a person to go beyond the “chatter” of the mind and attain a state of wisdom that will always be of help. Wisdom does not mean stuffing your mind with “facts” but it does mean to have a mind that will choose a course of action that brings about the welfare of everyone.

25 Ways to Improve Your Image

A bad personal impression gives a message that is not always accurate. For example, bad breath gives the impression that you are dirty. Poor eye contact gives an impression that you are not interested. Crooked teeth give the impression that you are stupid.

"Cleanliness and neatness are the primary building blocks to respect in most societies."
-- L. Ron Hubbard

To succeed, you need respect.

Personal impressions are important in this society. A bad impression can hurt your chances of success. People may dislike being around you. You make them uncomfortable. They distrust you somehow. A good personal impression makes your job easier. It opens the door to good relationships. It gives you a chance to show your skills and value.

Job applicants with a good personal image have a significant advantage over those with a poor image. Sales people often win or lose because of their image. Getting a date or finding a spouse depends a great deal on your image.

A good personal image helps make people listen to you, believe in you and like being with you. It shows you are a professional. Everyone can improve their personal image. It's an easy, but important step on your road to success.

•Have no smells. Use an effective unscented deodorant. Avoid perfume and cologne.
•Wear clean clothing with no stains. Ensure the clothing fits well and looks professional.
•Females should avoid heavy cosmetics or inappropriate clothing.
•Ensure your fingernails are clean, smooth and well shaped.
•Pluck hair that sticks out of your ears or nose, between eyebrows, out of moles or other odd places.
•Look healthy: no red eyes, sniffles or coughing.
•Brush your teeth frequently. Ensure you have clean-smelling breath.
•Keep your hair clean and natural-looking.
•Wear nothing extraordinary: psychedelic ties, long fingernails, nose jewelry, tattoos, hats, big rings.
•Stand when first meeting someone, no matter who they are.
•Walk with good posture; stand tall, lift your chin.
•Sit straight.
•Make good eye contact while listening and talking.
•Automatically smile at everyone, friends and strangers.
•Shake hands or pat shoulders with each person you meet.
•Use dry, warm hands for handshaking.
•Allow a comfortable amount of space between you and others.
•Laugh easily; it makes people relax and makes your face glow.
•Watch your humor. Avoid jokes about race, disability, sex and so on. Tell jokes about yourself or share funny stories that anyone would enjoy.
•Appear relaxed, yet energized.
•Use good manners. Say "please," "thank you," and "excuse me" at all times to everyone, regardless of whom you think they are.
•Use good language. Bad/good examples: "c'mere/come here," "ain't/isn't, " "yeah/yes," "nah/no."
•Acknowledge everyone, ignore no one.
•Say "goodbye" to everyone as you or they leave.
•Be proud.

"Pride is the primary reason for good appearance."

98 practical tips to reduce stress

Don’t let stress wear you down. Next time you are feeling stressed, step back from the situation and try one of the following tips to take control of the situation and de-stress:

1. Pray
2. Meditate
3. Take an aromatherapy bath
4. Get a massage Give a massage
5. Write in your journal
6. Stretch Practice yoga
7. Help someone in need
8. Read a book
9. Plant a garden
10. Watch a good movie
11. Get a facial
12. Cook a healthy meal
13. Eat a healthy balanced diet
14. Cut back on sugars and caffeine
15. Give a hug
16. Get a hug
17. Create a scrapbook
18. Exercise Take a vacation
19. Get a manicure
20. Get a pedicure
21. Call a loved one
22. Call an old friend you haven’t spoken to in a while
23. Do a puzzle
24. Make love to your spouse
25. Buy yourself something special
26. Take a walk
27. Listen to music
28. Read to your children
29. Play a game
30. Play a sport
31. Spend time with your family
32. Visit a spa
33. Get your hair done
34. Get organized
35. Laugh Make someone else laugh
36. Visit friends
37. Have a good cry
38. Take a nap
39. Draw
40. Paint
41. Color with your child
42. Volunteer
43. Sing
44. Take a long drive
45. Go hiking
46. Tell someone you love them
47. Love yourself
48. Encourage others
49. Be patient
50. Be quiet
51. Have a intimate dinner party with family and friends
52. Say Hello,
53. Good Morning,
54. Good Afternoon or
55. Good Evening to someone
56. Go to an aquarium or zoo
57. Imagine Listen
58. Don’t worry
59. Let go of the past
60. Think positive
61. Be thankful
62. Be humble
63. Enjoy a candlelight dinner
64. Bake some brownies
65. Live your dreams
66. Take your pet for a walk
67. Play a game your pet
68. Enjoy a sundae
69. De-Clutter your life
70. Arrive to work 15 minutes early
71. Have a picnic
72. Get 8 hours of sleep per night
73. Slow down
74. Don’t try to do everything in one day
75. Be assertive
76. Stop procrastinating
77. Turn your hobby into a business
78. Have faith
79. Share your faith with others
80. Give yourself a bouquet of flowers
81. Squeeze a de-stress ball
82. Turn off negative mind chatter
83. Play an instrument
84. Learn a new language
85. Dance Start your day with a daily devotional
86. Don’t spend money you don’t have
87. Send an Online Greeting to a loved one
88. Don’ participate in gossip or other negative conversations
89. Look on the bright side
90. Practice Tai Chi
91. Take a Stress Management Course
92. Finish something you started
93. Have a “Girls Night Out”
94. Go to a museum
95. Go to a poetry reading or
96. Read A Poem
97. Go Stargazing
98. Be adventurous

It doesn’t matter which one of the tips above you choose to follow. The point is to not stay caught up in the stressful situation. Being stressed is part mindset and part environment. Once you decide that you are not going to allow yourself to be stressed and change your environment you will quickly calm down and start to feel better.

Story of Sudha Murthy

An excellent and Great Love Story of Narayana Murthy (Infosys Founder) and Sudha (From Sudha's Autobiography)

An Inspiring Love story,, its worth, Read it !!

Love Story of Narayana Murthy (Infosys Founder) and Sudha (From Sudha's Autobiography)

It was in Pune that I met Narayan Murty through my friend Prasanna who is now the Wipro chief, who was also training in Telco(TataMotors). Most of the books that Prasanna lent me had Murty's name on them which meant that I had a preconceived image of the man. Contrary to expectation, Murty was shy,bespectacled and an introvert. When he invited us for dinner. I was a bit taken aback as I thought the young man was making a very fast move. I refused since I was the only girl in the group. But Murty was relentless and we all decided to meet for dinner the next day at 7.30 p.m .. at Green Fields hotel on the Main Road ,Pune.

The next day I went there at 7' o ! clock since I had to go to the tailor near the hotel. And what do I see? Mr. Murty waiting in front of the hotel and it was only seven. Till today, Murty maintains that I had mentioned (consciously!) that I would be going to the tailor at 7 so that I could meet him... And I maintain that I did not say any such thing consciously or unconsciously because I did not think of Murty as anything other than a friend at that stage. We have agreed to disagree on this matter.

Soon, we became friends. Our conversations were filled with Murty's experiences abroad and the books that he has read. My friends insisted that Murty as trying to impress me because he was interested in me. I kept denying it till one fine day, after dinner Murty said, I want to tell you something. I knew this as it. It was coming. He said, I am 5'4" tall. I come from a lower middle class family. I can never become rich in my life an! d I can never give you any riches. You are beautiful, bright, and intelligent and you can get anyone you want. But will you marry me? I asked Murty to give me some time for an answer. My father didn't want me to marry a wannabe politician, (a communist at that) who didn't have a steady job and wanted to build an orphanage...

When I went to Hubli I told my parents about Murty and his proposal. My mother was positive since Murty was also from Karnataka, seemed intelligent and comes from a good family. But my father asked: What's his job, his salary, his qualifications etc? Murty was working as a research assistant and was earning less than me. He was willing to go dutch with me on our outings. My parents agreed to meet Murty in Pune on a particular day at10 a. m sharp. Murty did not turn up. How can I trust a man to take care of my daughter if he cannot keep an appointment, asked my father.

At 12noon Murty turned up in a bright red shirt! He had gone on work to Bombay , was stuck in a traffic jam on the ghats, so he hired a taxi(though it was very expensive for him) to meet his would-be father-in-law. Father was unimpressed. My father asked him what he wanted to become in life.

Murty said he wanted to become a politician in the communist party and wanted to open an orphanage. My father gave his verdict. NO. I don't want my daughter to marry somebody who wants to become a communist and then open an orphanage when he himself didn't have money to support his family.

Ironically, today, I have opened many orphanages something, which Murty wanted to do 25 years ago. By this time I realized I had developed a liking towards Murty which could only be termed as love. I wanted to marry Murty because he is an honest man. He proposed to me highlighting the negatives in his life.. I promised my father that I will not marry Murty without his blessings though at the same time, I cannot marry anybody else. My father said he would agree if Murty promised to take up a steady job. But Murty refused saying he will not do things in life because somebody wanted him to. So, I was caught between the two most important people in my life.


The stalemate continued for three years during which our courtship took us to every restaurant and cinema hall in Pune. In those days, Murty was always broke. Moreover, he didn't earn much to manage. Ironically today, he manages Infosys Technologies Ltd., one of the world's most reputed companies. He always owed me money. We used to go for dinner and he would say, I don't have money with me, you pay my share, I will return it to you later. For three years I maintained a book on Murty's debt to me.. No, he never returned the money and I finally tore it up after my wedding.


The amount was a little over Rs 4000. During this interim period Murty quit his job as research assistant and started his own software business. Now, I had to pay his salary too! Towards the late 70s computers were entering India in a big way.


During the fag end of 1977 Murty decided to take up a job as General Manager at Patni computers in Bombay .. But before he joined the company he wanted to marry me since he was to go on training to the US after joining. My father gave in as he was happy Murty had a decent job, now.

WE WERE MARRIED IN MURTY'S HOUSE IN BANGALORE ON FEBRUARY 10, 1978 WITH ONLY OUR TWO FAMILIES PRESENT.I GOT MY FIRST SILK SARI. THE WEDDING EXPENSES CAME TO ONLY RS 800 (US $17) WITH MURTY AND I POOLING IN RS 400 EACH..

I went to the US with Murty after marriage. Murty encouraged me to see America on my own because I loved travelling. I toured America for three months on backpack and had interesting experiences which will remain fresh in my mind forever. Like the time when the New York police took me into custody because they thought I was an Italian trafficking drugs in Harlem . Or the time when I spent the night at the bottom of the Grand Canyon with an old couple. Murty panicked because he couldn't get a response from my hotel room even at midnight. He thought I was either killed or kidnapped.


IN 1981 MURTY WANTED TO START INFOSYS. HE HAD A VISION AND ZERO CAPITAL...initially I was very apprehensive about Murty getting into business. We did not have any business background ... Moreover we were living a comfortable life in Bombay with a regular pay check and I didn't want to rock the boat. But Murty was passionate about creating good quality software. I decided to support him. Typical of Murty, he just had a dream and no money. So I gave him Rs 10,000 which I had saved for a rainy day, without his knowledge and told him, This is all I have. Take it. I give you three years sabbatical leave. I will take care of the
financial needs of our house. You go and chase your dreams without any worry. But you
have only three years!

Murty and his six colleagues started Infosys in 1981,with enormous interest and hard work. In 1982 I left Telco and moved to Pune with Murty. We bought a small house on loan which also became the Infosys office. I was a clerk-cum-cook-cum-programmer. I also took up a job as Senior Systems Analyst with Walchand group of Industries to support the house.

In 1983 Infosys got their first client, MICO, in Bangalore . Murty moved to Bangalore and stayed with his mother while I went to Hubli to deliver my second child, Rohan. Ten days after my son was born, Murty left for the US on project work. I saw him only after a year, as I was unable to join Murty in the US because my son had infantile eczema, an allergy to vaccinations. So for more than a year I did not step outside our home for fear of my son contracting an infection. It was only after Rohan got all his vaccinations that I came to Bangalore where we rented a small house in Jayanagar and rented another house as Infosys headquarters. My father
presented Murty a scooter to commute. I once again became a cook, programmer, clerk,
secretary, office assistant et al. Nandan Nilekani (MD of Infosys) and his wife Rohini stayed with us. While Rohini babysat my son, I wrote programs for Infosys. There was no car, no phone, and just two kids and a bunch of us working hard, juggling our lives and having fun while Infosys was taking shape. It was not only me but also the wives of other partners too who gave their unstinted support. We all knew that our men were trying to build something good.

It was like a big joint family,taking care and looking out for one another. I still remember Sudha Gopalakrishna looking after my daughter Akshata with all care and love while Kumari Shibulal cooked for all of us. Murty made it very clear that it would either be me or him working at Infosys. Never the two of us together... I was involved with Infosys initially.



Nandan Nilekani suggested I should be on the Board but Murty said he did not want a husband and wife team at Infosys. I was shocked since I had the relevant experience and technical qualifications. He said, Sudha if you want to work with Infosys, I will withdraw, happily. I was pained to know that I will not be involved in the company my husband was building and that I would have to give up a job that I am qualified to do and love doing.


It took me a couple of days to grasp the reason behind Murty's request..I realized that to make Infosys a success one had to give one's 100 percent. One had to be focussed on it alone with no other distractions. If the two of us had to give 100 percent to Infosys then what would happen to our home and our children? One of us had to take care of our home while the other took care of Infosys.


I opted to be a homemaker, after all Infosys was Murty's dream. It was a big sacrifice but it was one that had to be made. Even today, Murty says, Sudha, I stepped on your career to make mine. You are responsible for my success.

That's the Power of Love.
Every man needs a woman to motivate him and to give him a reason to live....

Dumb ideas that made people rich

1. Million Dollar Homepage
1000000 pixels, charge a dollar per pixel – that’s perhaps the dumbest idea for online business anyone could have possible come up with. Still, Alex Tew, a 21-year-old who came up with the idea, is now a millionaire.

2. SantaMail
Ok, how’s that for a brilliant idea. Get a postal address at North Pole, Alaska, pretend you are Santa Claus and charge parents 10 bucks for every letter you send to their kids? Well, Byron Reese sent over 200000 letters since the start of the business in 2001, which makes him a couple million dollars richer.

3. Doggles
Create goggles for dogs and sell them online? Boy, this IS the dumbest idea for a business. How in the world did they manage to become millionaires and have shops all over the world with that one? Beyond me.

4. LaserMonks
LaserMonks.com is a for-profit subsidiary of the Cistercian Abbey of Our Lady of Spring Bank, an eight-monk monastery in the hills of Monroe County, 90 miles northwest of Madison. Yeah, real monks refilling your cartridges. Hallelujah! Their 2005 sales were $2.5 million! Praise the Lord.

5. AntennaBalls
You can’t sell antenna ball online. There is no way. And surely it wouldn’t make you rich. But this is exactly what Jason Wall did, and now he is now a millionaire.

6. FitDeck
Create a deck of cards featuring exercise routines, and sell it online for $18.95. Sounds like a disaster idea to me. But former Navy SEAL and fitness instructor Phil Black reported last year sales of $4.7 million. Surely beats what military pays.

7. PositivesDating.Com
How would you like to go on a date with an HIV positive person? Paul Graves and Brandon Koechlin thought that someone would, so they created a dating site for HIV positive folks last year. Projected 2006 sales are $110,000, and the two hope to have 50,000 members by their two-year mark.

8. Designer Diaper Bags
Christie Rein was tired of carrying diapers around in a freezer bag. The 34-year-old mother of three found herself constantly stuffing diapers for her infant son into freezer bags to keep them from getting scrunched up in her purse. Rein wanted something that was compact, sleek and stylish, so in November 2004, she sat down with her husband, Marcus, who helped her design a custom diaper bag that's big enough to hold a travel pack of wipes and two to four diapers. With more than $180,000 in sales for 2005, Christie's company, Diapees & Wipees, has bags in 22 different styles, available online and in 120 boutiques across the globe for $14.99.

9. PickyDomains
Hire another person to think of a cool domain name for you? No way people would pay for this. Actually, naming domain names for others turned out a thriving business, especially, when you make the entire process risk free. PickyDomains currently has a waiting list of people who want to PAY the service to come up with a snappy memorable domain name. PickyDomains is expected to hit six figures this year.

10. Lucky Wishbone Co.
Fake wishbones. Now, this stupid idea is just destined to flop. Who in the world needs FAKE PLASTIC wishbones? A lot of people, it turns out. Now producing 30,000 wishbones daily (they retail for 3 bucks a pop) Ken Ahroni, the company founder, expects 2006 sales to reach $1 million.

Two Birds

There was once a lonely girl who longed desperately for love. One day while she was walking in the woods she found two starving song birds. She took them home and put them in a small glided cage. She nurtured them with love and the birds grew strong. Every morning they greeted her with a marvelous song. The girl felt great love for the birds. She wanted their singing to last forever.

One day the girl left the door to the cage open. The larger and stronger of the two birds flew from the cage. The girl watched anxiously as he circled high above her. She was so frightened that he would fly away and she would never see him again that as he flew close, she grasped at him wildly. She caught him in her fist. She clutched him tightly within her hand. Her heart gladdened at her success in capturing him. Suddenly she felt the bird go limp. She opened her hand stared in horror at the dead bird. Her desperate clutching love had killed him.

She noticed the other bird teetering on the edge of the cage. She could feel his great need for freedom. His need to soar into the clear, blue sky. She lifted him from the cage and tossed him softly into the air. The bird circled once, twice, three times.

The girl watched delighted at the bird's enjoyment. Her heart was no longer concerned with her loss. She wanted the bird to be happy. Suddenly the bird flew closer and landed softly on her shoulder. It sang the sweetest melody, she had ever heard.

The fastest way to lose love is to hold on too tight, the best way to keep love is to give it -- WINGS!

Article By Chetan Bhagat

My Stupid Suicide Plan

Last week, an IITian committed suicide. People who commit suicide do it when they feel there's no future. But wait, isn't IIT the one place where a bright and shining future is a foregone conclusion? It just doesn't add up, does it? Why would a young, hardworking, bright student who has the world ahead of him do something like this? But the answer is this-in our constant reverence for the great institution (and I do believe IITs are great), we forget the dark side. And the dark side is that the IITs are afflicted by the quintessential Indian phenomenon of academic pressure, probably the highest in the world.

I can rant about the educational system and how it requires serious fixing, or I can address the immediate-try my best to prevent such suicides. For this column I have chosen the latter, and I do so with a personal story.

News of a suicide always brings back one particular childhood memory. I was 14 years old when I first seriously contemplated suicide. I had done badly in chemistry in the Class X half yearly exam. I was an IIT aspirant, and 68% was nowhere near what an IIT candidate should be getting. I don't know what had made me screw up the exam, but I did know this, I was going to kill myself. The only debate was about method.

Ironically, chemistry offered a way. I had read about copper sulphate, and that it was both cheap and poisonous. Copper sulphate was available at the kirana store. I had it all worked out.

My rationale for killing myself was simple-nobody loved me, my chemistry score was awful, I had no future and what difference would it make to the world if I was not there. I bought the copper sulphate for two rupees-probably the cheapest exit strategy in the world.

I didn't do it for two reasons. One, I had a casual chat with the aunty next door about copper sulphate, and my knowledgeable aunty knew about a woman who had died that way. She said it was the most painful death possible, all your veins burst and you suffer for hours. This tale made my insides shudder. Second, on the day I was to do it, I noticed a street dog outside my house being teased by the neighbourhood kids as he hunted for scraps of food. Nobody loved him. It would make no difference to the world if the dog wasn't there. And I was pretty sure that its chemistry score would be awful. Yet, the dog wasn't trotting off to the kirana store. He was only interested in figuring out a strategy for his next meal. And when he was full, he merely curled up in a corner with one eye open, clearly content and not giving a damn about the world. If he wasn't planning to die anytime soon what the hell was I ranting about? I threw the copper sulphate
in the bin. It was the best two bucks I ever wasted.

So why did I tell you this story? Because sometimes the pressure gets too much; like it did for the IITian who couldn't take it no more. On the day he took that dreadful decision, his family and friends were shattered, and India lost a wonderful, bright child. And as the silly but true copper sulphate story tells you-it could happen to any of us or those around us. So please be on the lookout, if you see a distressed young soul, lend a supportive, non-judgmental ear. When I look back, I thank that aunt and that dog for unwittingly saving my life. If God wanted us to take our own life, he would have provided a power off button. He didn't, so have faith and let his plan for you unfold. Because no matter how tough life gets and how much it hurts, if street dogs don't give up, there is no reason why we, the smart species, should. Makes sense right?

- CHETAN BHAGAT

- (IIT Delhi, IIM Ahmedabad)

Water Therapy

Basics of Water
Water is a common chemical substance that is essential to all known forms of life. Water is a tasteless, odorless liquid at ambient temperature and pressure, and appears colorless in small quantities, although it has its own intrinsic very light blue hue. Ice also appears colorless, and water vapor is essentially invisible as a gas.

Water is the chemical substance with chemical formula H2O: one molecule of water has two hydrogen atoms covalently bonded to a single oxygen atom. Hydrology is the study of the movement, distribution, and quality of water throughout the Earth.

Effect of Water on Human Beings
The human body normally contains about 55% to 78% water depending on body size. Water makes up more than half of your body weight and a person can't survive for more than a few days without it. Water is required by every cell in the body as nourishment and to remove wastes. Blood is mostly water, and your muscles, lungs, and brain all contain a lot of water. Your body needs water to regulate body temperature and to provide the means for nutrients to travel to all your organs. With less consumption of water we are prone to constipation, dry and itchy skin, acne, nose bleeds, repeated urinary tract infections, dry and unproductive coughs, constant sneezing, sinus pressure, headaches…etc.

There are two types of toxins that are produced in our bodies or that enter our bodies through the environment. Water soluble and water insoluble toxins. The job of getting rid of these two types of toxins is assigned to two major organs of the body. One is the liver and other the kidneys. Kidneys flush out water soluble toxins with the help of water and the liver flushes out water insoluble toxins through the help of bile. The byproducts of hormonal breakdowns and other metabolic products are water insoluble toxins that are thrown out by the liver.

Consuming ordinary drinking water by the right method purifies human body. It renders the colon more effective by forming new fresh blood, known in medical terms as Haematopaises. That the mucousal folds of the colon and intestines are activated by this method, is an undisputed fact, just as the theory that new fresh blood is produced by the mucousal fold. If the colon is cleansed then the nutrients of the food taken several times a day will be absorbed and by the action of the mucousal folds they are turned into fresh blood. The blood is all-important in curing ailments and restoring health and for this water should be consumed in a regular pattern.

Water therapy
Water therapy is one of the simple, practically free and safe which can be done without the help of any medical expert. As one has to take a shower to clean out the dirt outside the body and one cannot keep pouring little water throughout the day to clean the body. Similarly water therapy helps you to clean the internal body in the morning. Similarly one cannot argue that water can do its cleaning action by drinking several cups of water throughout the day. Drinking water throughout the day is for thirst. Water therapy is not for thirst but for flushing all the toxins out of body and to regain good health.

Important notes before you start this water therapy
· It is very essential to note that no drinks (like tea, coffee, and milk) or any form of solid food should be taken within half an hour to one hour before and after drinking 1.5 liters of water.
· Using any form of alcoholic drink the previous night is strictly prohibited.
· The previous night before going to bed, if you clean your teeth and gums (gums with hand) and next morning if your mouth is not smelling bad then you may rinse your mouth with water and gently brush with your hands and do water therapy almost immediately. If your mouth has a foul smell and if you are not comfortable with the above approach, brush your teeth and then do water therapy after 5 minutes.
· Try to use good quality water. Make sure the water that runs through your tap is good quality, water free from chemicals and other toxins. There are many choices available like reverse osmosis water, distilled water, de-ionized water, filtered water etc. Each has its own advantage and disadvantages. So you could choose the best depending on your budget or living.
· However, if you are seriously ill, make sure to contact your physician first and get their confirmation before chugging down this volume of water. Sometimes there are patients who are advised against drinking too much water as they would be harmful to their own health. But if you’re not a special patient and see no complications in your body, start drinking water.

Process/Procedure of water therapy
The person who wishes to undergo water therapy should prepare 1.5 liters of water everyday. The person then drinks them altogether and fasts for at least an hour from any food or drink and that’s it. Initially it would be difficult for person to start with 1.5 liters. So you could go about with four glasses first and then the balance two glasses after a gap of 2 minutes. Initially you may find the hesitation to drink 1.5 liters since it will make you urinate from time to time. This is true however, with daily intake of water; the body would eventually adjust to the water intake and you can act normally even with the daily intake of 1.5 liters everyday.

Why 1.5 liters? Is 1.5 liters to much to take for the stomach?
1.5 liters is perfect! The stomach is a muscular sac that can hold about 1.5 liters (1.6 quarts) of fluid.

It basically fills the stomach and the water gushes into the intestines and cleans the whole pathway. Since the small intestine does not absorb water, nature helps in the cleaning of the organs from the mouth, through the esophagus, stomach and the small intestines and part of the large intestine right down to the rectum. So every morning we clean the whole alimentary system (digestive and intestinal organs).

In the large intestine, part of the water is absorbed into the blood stream and the rest reaches the rectum where it pushes the stools out of the body. We have noticed that drinking slightly lukewarm water completely flushes the stools in the rectum almost like taking an enema.

The water in the blood slightly dilutes the blood which is good for the heart and other capillaries. The kidney then uses this water to flush all the metabolic and toxic wastes from the body.

To summarize, water therapy every morning cleanses the whole body by flushing toxic and metabolic wastes from the body and keeps it healthy.

Benefits of water therapy
The benefits of the water therapy are also very much amazing and true.
Below are few benefits from water therapy
- Constipation can go away with only one session.
- Acidity is known to be cured with only two sessions.
- Diabetes can be controlled with only seven sessions.
- Hypertension can be controlled with only four weeks of water therapy. Water can be a miracle cure for many common ailments.
Hope you start of with water therapy from today. You’ll feel healthier, stronger and cleaner inside and out.

Try drinking some now!

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Five Finger Prayer

1. Your thumb is nearest you. So begin your prayers by praying for those closest to you. They are the easiest to remember. To pray for our loved ones is, as C. S. Lewis once said, a 'sweet duty.'

2. The next finger is the pointing finger. Pray for those who teach, instruct and heal. This includes teachers, doctors, and ministers. They need support and wisdom in pointing others in the right
direction. Keep them in your prayers.

3. The next finger is the tallest finger. It reminds us of our leaders. Pray for the president, leaders in business and industry, and administrators. These people shape our nation and guide public
opinion. They need God's guidance.

4. The fourth finger is our ring finger. Surprising to many is the fact that this is our weakest finger, as any piano teacher will testify.. It should remind us to pray for those who are weak, in trouble or in pain. They need your prayers day and night. You cannot pray too much for them.

5. And lastly comes our little finger - the smallest finger of all which is where we should place ourselves in relation to God and others. As the Bible says, 'The least shall be the greatest among you.' Your pinkie should remind you to pray for yourself. By the time you have prayed for the other four groups, your own needs will be put into proper perspective and you will be able to pray for yourself more effectively.

Easy................Difficult

Easy is to get a place is someone's address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes

Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive
Difficult is to give

Easy to read this
Difficult to follow

Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult is to keep it with meanings.

Improve Your Memory & Exercise Your Brain

Everyone can take steps to improve their memory, and with time and practice most people can gain the ability to memorize seemingly impossible amounts of information. Whether you want to win the World Memory Championships, ace your history test, or simply remember where you put your keys, this article can get you started. Scientists believe that exercising your brain can create a cognitive reserve that will help you stay sharp as you age.

1. Convince yourself that you do have a good memory that will improve.
Too many people get stuck here and convince themselves that their memory is bad, that they are just not good with names, that numbers just slip out of their minds for some reason. Erase those thoughts and vow to improve your memory. Commit yourself to the task and bask in your achievements its hard to keep motivated if you beat yourself down every time you make a little bit of progress.

2. Keep your brain active.
The brain is not a muscle, but regularly exercising the brain actually does keep it growing and spurs the development of new nerve connections that can help improve memory. By developing new mental skills especially complex ones such as learning a new language or learning to play a new musical instrument and challenging your brain with puzzles and games you can keep your brain active and improve its physiological functioning.

3. Exercise daily.
Regular aerobic exercise improves circulation and efficiency throughout the body, including in the brain, and can help ward off the memory loss that comes with aging. Exercise also makes you more alert and relaxed, and can thereby improve your memory uptake, allowing you to take better mental pictures.

4. Reduce stress.
Chronic stress, although it does not physically damage the brain, can make remembering much more difficult. Even temporary stresses can make it more difficult to effectively focus on concepts and observe things. Try to relax, regularly practice yoga or other stretching exercises, and see a doctor if you have severe chronic stress.

5. Eat well and eat right.
There are a lot of herbal supplements on the market that claim to improve memory, but none have yet been shown to be effective in clinical tests (although small studies have shown some promising results for ginkgo biloba and phosphatidylserine) . A healthy diet, however, contributes to a healthy brain, and foods containing antioxidants broccoli, blueberries, spinach, and berries, for example and Omega-3 fatty acids appear to promote healthy brain functioning. Feed your brain with such supplements as Thiamine, Vitamin E, Niacin and Vitamin B-6. Grazing, eating 5 or 6 small meals throughout the day instead of 3 large meals, also seems to improve mental functioning (including memory) by limiting dips in blood sugar, which may negatively affect the brain.

6. Take better pictures.
Often we forget things not because our memory is bad, but rather because our observational skills need work. One common situation where this occurs (and which almost everyone can relate to) is meeting new people. Often we don't really learn people's names at first because we aren't really concentrating on remembering them. You'll find that if you make a conscious effort to remember such things, you'll do much better. One way to train yourself to be more observant is to look at an unfamiliar photograph for a few seconds and then turn the photograph over and describe or write down as many details as you can about the photograph. Try closing your eyes and picturing the photo in your mind. Use a new photograph each time you try this exercise, and with regular practice you will find you're able to remember more details with even shorter glimpses of the photos.

7. Give yourself time to form a memory. Memories are very fragile in the short-term, and distractions can make you quickly forget something as simple as a phone number. The key to avoid losing memories before you can even form them is to be able to focus on the thing to be remembered for a while without thinking about other things, so when you're trying to remember something, avoid distractions and complicated tasks for a few minutes.

8. Create vivid, memorable images.
You remember information more easily if you can visualize it. If you want to associate a child with a book, try not to visualize the child reading the book – that's too simple and forgettable. Instead, come up with something more jarring, something that sticks, like the book chasing the child, or the child eating the book. It's your mind ' make the images as shocking and emotional as possible to keep the associations strong.

9. Repeat things you need to learn.
The more times you hear, see, or think about something, the more surely you'll remember it, right? It's a no-brainer. When you want to remember something, be it your new coworker's name or your best friend's birthday, repeat it, either out loud or silently. Try writing it down; think about it.

10. Group things you need to remember. Random lists of things (a shopping list, for example) can be especially difficult to remember. To make it easier, try categorizing the individual things from the list. If you can remember that, among other things, you wanted to buy four different kinds of vegetables, you'll find it easier to remember all four.

11. Organize your life.
Keep items that you frequently need, such as keys and eyeglasses, in the same place every time. Use an electronic organizer or daily planner to keep track of appointments, due dates for bills, and other tasks. Keep phone numbers and addresses in an address book or enter them into your computer or cell phone. Improved organization can help free up your powers of concentration so that you can remember less routine things. Even if being organized doesn't improve your memory, you'll receive a lot of the same benefits (i.e. you won't have to search for your keys anymore).

12. Try meditation.
Research now suggests that people who regularly practice indfulnes meditation are able to focus better and may have better memories. Mindfulness (also known as awareness or insight meditation) is the type commonly practiced in Western countries and is easy to learn. Studies at Massachusetts General Hospital show that regular meditation thickens the cerebral cortex in the brain by increasing the blood flow to that region. Some researchers believe this can enhance attention span, focus, and memory.

13. Sleep well.
The amount of sleep we get affects the brain's ability to recall recently learned information. Getting a good night sleep a minimum of seven hours a night may improve your short-term memory and long-term relational memory, according to recent studies conducted at the Harvard Medical School.

14. Build your memorization arsenal. Learn pegs, memory palaces, and the Dominic System. These techniques form the foundation for mnemonic techniques, and will visibly improve your memory.

15. Venture out and learn from your mistakes.
Go ahead and take a stab at memorizing the first one hundred digits of pi, or, if you've done that already, the first one thousand. Memorize the monarchs of England through your memory palaces, or your grocery list through visualization. Through diligent effort you will eventually master the art of memorization.

There Are Many Aspects Of Life

What is Life?
It's a journey through a way,
Through which we must go-
Away and away…

What is Life?
It's a very tough game,
Performance is what-
Brings us the name…

What is Life?
It's today full of sorrow,
Face this eye to eye-
Joy will come tomorrow…

What is Life?
It's a puzzling riddle,
Go on solving it-
Don't stop in the middle…

What is Life?
It's a tearful road for miles,
Still walk with faith and honor-
You'll reach the land of smiles…

What is Life?
It's stormy and cold tonight,
But across this awaits-
A morning warm and bright…

What is Life?
It's a fairy tale about,
A seed of baby now-
In the future to sprout…

What is Life?
It's a bag of dreams,
Of vanilla skies-
And chocolate streams…

What is Life?
It's a chance to love,
So spread your arms-
The world is yours, just love…

What Really Matters In Life

A vacationing American businessman was standing on the pier of a quaint coastal fishing village in southern Mexico when a small boat with just one young fisherman pulled into the dock. Inside the small boat were several large yellow fin tuna.

The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish.

"How long did it take you to catch them?" the American casually asked.

"Oh, a few hours," the Mexican replied.

"Why don't you stay out longer and catch more fish?" the American businessman then asked.

The Mexican warmly replied, "With this I have more than enough to support my family's needs."

The businessman then became serious, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

Responding with a smile, the Mexican fisherman answered, "I sleep late, play with my children, watch ballgames, and take siesta with my wife. Sometimes in the evenings I take a stroll into the village to see my friends, play the guitar, sing a few songs..."

The American businessman impatiently interrupted:

"Look, I have an MBA from Harvard, and I can help you to be more profitable. You can start by fishing several hours longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch.

With the extra money, you can buy a bigger boat. With the additional income that larger boat will bring, you can then buy a second boat, a third one, and so on, until you have an entire fleet of fishing boats.

Then, instead of selling your catch to a middleman you'll be able to sell your fish directly to the processor, or even open your own cannery. Eventually, you could control the product, processing and distribution.

You could leave this tiny coastal village and move to Mexico City, or possibly even LA or New York City, where you could even further expand your enterprise."

Having never thought of such things, the Mexican fisherman asked, "But how long will all this take?"

After a rapid mental calculation, the businessman pronounced, "Probably about 15-20 years, maybe less if you work really hard."

"And then what, senor?" asked the fisherman.

"Why, that's the best part!" answered the businessman with a laugh. "When the time is right, you would sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions."

"Millions? Really? What could I do with it all?" asked the young fisherman in disbelief.

The businessman boasted, "Then you could happily retire with all the money you've made. You could move to a quaint coastal fishing village where you could sleep late, play with your grandchildren, watch ballgames, take siesta with your wife, and stroll to the village in the evenings where you could play the guitar and sing with your friends all you want."

The moral of the story is: Know what really matters in life, and you may find that it is already much closer than you think.

To Let Go

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization that I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to criticize, or regulate anyone, but to try to become what I dream I can do.
To let go is to fear less, and to love more.

Positive Thoughts

Believe in your heart that something
wonderful is about to happen.
Love your life.

Believe in your own power,
and in your own potential,
and your own innate goodness.

Wake every morning with the awe
of just being alive.
Discover each day the magnificent,
awesome beauty in the world.

Explore and embrace life
in yourself and in everyone
you see each day.

Reach within to find your own specialness.
Amaze yourself and rouse those
around you to the potential
of each new day.

Don't be afraid to admit
you're less than perfect;
this is the essence of our humanity.

Let those who love you help you;
Trust enough to be able to take.

Look with hope to the horizon of today,
for today is all we truly have.

Live this day well.
Let a little sun out as well as in.
Create your own rainbows.

Be open to all your possibilities,
and all miracles.
Always believe in miracles.

Few Lessons for Success

1. Expect to win.
Know in your heart that you are a winner.

2. Let your expectations show.
Express no doubts, let your competitors and your friends know that you have none.

3. Work, practice, work, and practice some more.
At the top of his field, he can still be seen hitting buckets of balls until dark - even if he's just won.

4. Dress and act like a winner.
This is a part of keeping yourself in a winning frame of mind.

5. Have a sense of drama - don't create it but know it when you see it.
You don't have to seek out publicity, but know how to accept and use it when it comes to you.

6. Know that there is always room to grow.
Being the best does not mean you can't be even better.

7. Hang with the winners.
They understand the pressures and situations in which you will find yourself.

8. Put yourself in situations where you are not known as a success.
May be difficult, but this helps you to stay real.

9. Value and protect your free time and do what you enjoy.
The discipline of being a winner needs a safety valve from time to time.

10. Remember those who need help.
Somewhere, someone helped you - be willing to give back.

Seven Wonders of World

Junior high school students in Chicago were studying the Seven Wonders of the World. At the end of the lesson, the students were asked to list what they considered to be the Seven Wonders of the World. Though there was some disagreement, the following received the most votes:

1. Egypt ’s Great Pyramids
2. The Taj Mahal in India
3. The Grand Canyon in Arizona
4. The Panama Canal
5. The Empire State Building
6. St. Peter’s Basilica
7. China’s Great Wall

While gathering the votes, the teacher noted that one student, a quiet girl, hadn’t turned in her paper yet. So she asked the girl if she was having trouble with her list. The quiet girl replied, “Yes, a little. I couldn’t quite make up my mind because there were so many.” The teacher said, “Well, tell us what you have, and maybe we can help.”The girl hesitated, then read, “I think the Seven Wonders of the World are:

1. to touch…
2. to taste…
3. to see…
4. to hear… (She hesitated a little, and then added…)
5. to feel…
6. to laugh…
7. and to love.

The room was so quiet; you could have heard a pin drop.May this story serve as a gentle reminder to all of us that the things we overlook as simple and ordinary are often the most wonderful - and we don’t have to travel anywhere special to experience them.

Motivation Poem : By ~ ChristiMorelei

Someone once asked me,
"What's your motivation?"
So I told them that my inspiration
Was something of elation,
Not trepidation
More like Exaltation
Because I feel no degradation
For expressing my creation,
Something so amazing
That it takes some heavy realization to see.

I suggest you take some notation
And think about your own formation
As I show you my experimentation
Made in a nation of fixation
But it's not an abomination
It's just an exclamation of my generation
And not grounded in one country's hypocrisy.

Some say it's a contradiction
To accept this predilection
Of being rooted in maturation
And not in my own damnation
Even though it's a correlation
Or rather a re-stating
Of what my forefathers taught me.

I've been taught to feel the sensation
The sensation of creation
A citation of my inspiration, but
Not letting asphyxiation
Get in the way of my animation, which is
Rooted in contemplation
And just letting my spirit be free.

So this is a message to Mr. Representation
I don't need your invasion
Of my motivation,
Or your allegations of my transmigration
To be a creature of regurgitation
I want to be someone of moralization
But not because of some political persuasion
That I shouldn't be everything that I want to be.

I realize it's in relation
To show some modulation
In my fierce cries of revelation
To a timid explanation
But I won't consent to that translation
Of my annotation
I demand that my words have no annexation!
And that I be able to speak freely.

This is my angulation;
An actuation of inundation
And it may be filled with agitation
But I'll be damned if I become a slave
To antiquation
Just like the men of activation
Who fell victim to animalization
As crude as crude can possibly be.

I mourn for my articulation
Day by day, I see the preservation
Of free speech precipitating
In favor of some raw predation
If that's any indication
Of what I'm trying to give with my presentation
I just want people to believe.

Believe in a country of mobilization
Acting towards a common creation
A creation of intoxicating stimulation
That allows its citizens to be intensating
We want this country to be exhilarating
Not a federation of deformation
Or a nation based on alienation
And that, my fellow homo sapiens
Is my motivation.

We will meet again...

We will meet again my friend,
A hundred years from today
Far away from where we lived
And where we used to play.
We will know each others' eyes
And wonder where we met
Your laugh will sound familiar
Your heart, I won't forget.
We will meet, I'm sure of this,
But let's not wait til then...
Let's take a walk beneath the stars
And share this world again.

Loving Thought

I asked god to take away my pain, Loving Thought for You

I asked god to take away my pain, God said, NO.
It is not for me to take away, but for you to give up.

I asked god to make my handicapped child whole, God said, NO
His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.

I asked god to grant me patience, God said, NO
Patience is a by product of tribulations, it isn’t granted, it is learned.

I asked god to give me happiness, God said, NO
I’ll give you blessing. Happiness is up to you.

I asked god to spare me pain, God said, NO
Sufferings draw you apart from worldly cares & brings closer to me.

I asked god to make my spirit grow, God said, NO
You must grow on your own….. , but I will prune you to make fruitful.

I asked god for all that I might enjoy life, God said, NO
I will give you life, so that you may enjoy everything.

I asked god to help me love others, as much as he loves me,
God Said....... Ahhh, finally you have the idea.

A Room With A View

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the liquid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And evening, afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked in arm amidst flowers of every colour of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side in the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn’t hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentlemen by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and weeks passed. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the world outside. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it for himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a “Blank Wall”.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was ‘Blind’ and could not even see the wall. She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.”

“There is tremendous happiness in making others happy despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all of the things you have that money can’t buy.”

If I Had My Life To Live Over

I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.
I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains. I would have cried and laughed less while watching television - and more while watching life.
I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."
There would have been more "I love yous"... more "I'm sorrys"...but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute... look at it and really see it...live it...and never give it back.

Pearls------Inspiring Story

Jenny was a bright-eyed, pretty five-year-old girl.

One day when she and her mother were checking out at the grocery store, Jenny saw a plastic pearl necklace priced at $2.50. How she wanted that necklace and when she asked her mother if she would buy it for her, her mother said, "Well, it is a pretty necklace, but it costs an awful lot of money. I'll tell you what. I'll buy you the necklace, and when we get home we can make up a list of chores that you can do to pay for the necklace. And don't forget that for your birthday Grandma just might give you a whole dollar bill, too. Okay?"

Jenny agreed, and her mother bought the pearl necklace for her. Jenny worked on her chores very hard every day, and sure enough, her Grandma gave her a brand new dollar bill for her birthday. Soon Jenny had paid off the pearls.

How Jenny loved those pearls. She wore them everywhere to kindergarten, bed, and when she went out with her mother to run errands. The only time she didn't wear them was in the shower - her mother had told her that they would turn her neck green. Now Jenny had a very loving daddy. When Jenny went to bed, he would get up from his favorite chair every night and read Jenny her favorite story. One night when he finished the story, he said, "Jenny, do you love me?"

"Oh yes, Daddy, you know I love you," the little girl said.

"Well, then, give me your pearls."

"Oh! Daddy, not my pearls!" Jenny said. "But you can have Rosie, my favorite doll. Remember her? You gave her to me last year for my birthday. And you can have her tea party outfit, too. Okay?"

"Oh no, darling, that's okay." Her father brushed her cheek with a kiss. "Good night, little one."

A week later, her father once again asked Jenny after her story, "Do you love me?"

"Oh yes, Daddy, you know I love you."

"Well, then, give me your pearls."

"Oh, Daddy, not my pearls! But you can have Ribbons, my toy horse. Do you remember her? She's my favorite. Her hair is so soft, and you can play with it and braid it and everything. You can have Ribbons if you want her, Daddy," the little girl said to her father.

"No, that's okay," her father said and brushed her cheek again with a kiss. "God bless you, little one. Sweet dreams."

Several days later, when Jenny's father came in to read her a story, Jenny was sitting on her bed and her lip was trembling. "Here, Daddy," she said, and held out her hand. She opened it and her beloved pearl necklace was inside. She let it slip into her father's hand. With one hand her father held the plastic pearls and with the other he pulled out of his pocket a blue velvet box.

Inside of the box were real, genuine, beautiful pearls.

He had them all along. He was waiting for Jenny to give up the cheap stuff so he could give her the real thing. So it is with our Heavenly Father. He is waiting for us to give up the cheap things in our lives so that he can give us beautiful treasure. Isn't God good?

Are you holding onto things which God wants you to let go of?

Are you holding onto harmful or unnecessary partners, relationships, habits and activities which you have become so attached to that it seems impossible to let go?

Sometimes it is so hard to see what is in the other hand but do believe this one thing....... ......... .


God will never take away something without giving you something better in its place.

Amazing Thoughts

Friday, June 11, 2010

Growing old is mandatory,Growing up is optional

Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.

God's Coffee

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said:

"If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.

What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... And then you began eyeing each other's cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us."

God brews the coffee, not the cups.......... Enjoy your coffee!

"The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything."


Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God.

Be yourself

Be understanding to your perceived enemies.
Be loyal to your friends.
Be strong enough to face the world each day.
Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.
Be generous to those who need your help.

Be frugal with that you need yourself.
Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.
Be foolish enough to believe in miracles.
Be willing to share your joys.
Be willing to share the sorrows of others.

Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.
Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty.
Be first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.
Be last to criticize a colleague who fails.
Be sure where your next step will fall, so that you will not tumble.

Be sure of your final destination, in case you are going the wrong way.
Be loving to those who love you..

Be loving to those who do not love you; they may change.

Above all, Be yourself.

A Red Rose

A man stopped at a flower shop to order some flowers to be wired to his mother who lived two hundred miles away.

As he got out of his car he noticed a young girl sitting on the curb sobbing. He asked her what was wrong and she replied, "I wanted to buy a red rose for my mother. But I only have seventy-five cents, and a rose costs two dollars."

The man smiled and said, "Come on in with me. I'll buy you a rose." He bought the little girl her rose and ordered his own mother's flowers.

As they were leaving he offered the girl a ride home. She said, "Yes, please! You can take me to my mother." She directed him to a cemetery, where she placed the rose on a freshly dug grave.

The man returned to the flower shop, canceled the wire order, picked up a bouquet and drove the two hundred miles to his mother's house.

Moral: Don't Send Artificial Loves to your parents. Give them the respect and courtesy they desire. They are your most precious Treasure, Care for them. God Forbid, if they leave this world then one can do nothing but regret.

Happiness is a serious business - both personally & professionally

Its importance at personal level is easier to understand ; not so
easy to appreciate but equally important is happiness of human
capital to any organization's bottom line. Happy, healthy people
create the ultimate competitive advantage. It makes a strong
business sense. Stressed, negative, unfit, grumpy people will
neutralize the advantage of any good technology or product.

Lasting happiness is the eternal quest of every form of life.
Everything that we do – not just we humans, but other sentient forms
of life also – is to find happiness. We earn to be happy, we spend
to be happy ; we work to be happy, we take a break from work to
be happy ; we wake up every morning to continue our search for
happiness, and at night we retire to find happiness from the post-
work restfulness of sleep - sleep is like an unconscious
meditation. All our lives, we live in search of happiness, and
through death we move on to other realms in the same perennial
quest.

There can be no happiness without health, unless of course one has
entirely transcended body consciousness, such as Sri Ramakrishna
Paramahansa who could dance in joy with a bleeding cancer in his
throat had done, or Sri Ramana Maharshi, who too had cancer, but
could smile in deep bliss. Such saints actually take the karma of
their disciples to work out on their own bodies, out of their
limitless compassion.

Now, physical health is impossible without a reasonably peaceful
mind which in turn must be anchored in the reason of the intellect.
The sensory mind which governs the five senses, is the lower mind,
because it gets easily bribed by the sensory inputs. It only
understands pleasure and pain. The discriminating intellect with
all its reasoning faculty, is our higher mind, and it tries to tell
the lower mind what is good for it and what is not, regardless of
whether it is pleasurable or unpleasurable. Pain is an important
part of life's learning, but suffering is optional through attitudes,
through how we pertceive the challenge.

Right eating is crucial to good physical health. We become what we
eat – the gross part of our food builds the body, the fine part (the
subtle sattwic / rajasic / tamasic nature of what we eat) builds the
mind. Fresh seasonal vegetables and fruits, nuts (esp. almonds),
milk and milk products and well cooked cereals are good for us ; non-
veg, preserved (`dead') food, processed and highly spiced foods
should be abstained from. There are several scientific reasons in
favour of a vegetarian diet.

Equally important for good physical health is daily exercise. A
doctor in the West recently said, if exercises could be packed in a
pill, it will be the world's most selling drug. But it cannot be
done ; we just have to do them. Brisk walk, Yoga, cycling,
swimming, playing outdoor games, light/moderate gym activity etc are
great help. Controlled diet and daily exercise can effectively cure
the dreaded modern disease of obesity with the offshoots of
hypertension, diabetes, cardiac ailments etc. Daily adequate sleep
and rest, good hygiene etc are also important to physical wellness.

Mental peace, so essential to sustained good physical health, is
best obtained by daily Pranayama and an introspective management of
ego-driven emotions. This will also keep our relationships healthy
and promote all-round happiness.

So we see, happiness is not pleasure. It demands discipline that
can be bitter in doing but sweet in results. When we eat and sleep
right, love our work, do daily exercise and Pranayama, we shall
gradually be closer to a purification where meditation becomes
possible.

Meditation, coupled with right living and right activity, will
introduce us to the true bliss – the ultimate happiness – at
spiritual level. Then love becomes our nature and we always live in
an indescribable tranquility where multi-level wellness is a by-
product.

The physical disciplines mentioned above, the right living
principles, daily Pranayama and meditation will together create
grounds for a lasting wellness and true happiness. Our bad habits
will then fall off, uprooted from the field of consciousness like
useless weeds. It is hard to re-engineer habits unless we develop
our self-awareness and will. Habits are mental automatic machines,
they force us to do things against our will. Pranayama and
Meditation bring about what modern science calls 'neuro-plasticity
of the brain' ; they re-wire the brain circuits and cauterize the
brain cells, creating newer, better neural pathways.

So friends, happiness is our ultimate quest ; it is our serious
business - both personally and professionally.